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Unconditional Self-Esteem Reasons
"It is the part of an uneducated person to blame others where he himself fares ill; to blame himself is the part of one whose education has begun; to blame neither another nor his own self is the part of one whose education is already complete."--Epictetus, Enchiridion
Reasons for Believing in USE, UOE, ULE, UAE
Directions: Pick the ones that work for you and vigorously repeat them daily.
Unconditional Self-Esteem (USE)
I am always of value because--
Fundamentally, I am the same as everyone else.
God loves me.
I am alive.
I am here.
I am made in the image of God.
I choose to value myself.
I have a purpose in life.
I have faith that I have value.
I have the right to exist.
Others choose to value me.
While it is possible to prove that my thoughts, feelings, and-or behaviors are bad--it is NOT possible to prove that my being is either good or bad.
Unconditional Other-Esteem (UOE)
They are always of value because--
Everyone is made in the image of God.
Fundamentally, they are the same as everyone else.
God loves everyone.
I choose to value all human beings equally.
I have faith that all humans have value.
Others choose to value them.
They are alive.
They are here on planet Earth.
They have a purpose in life.
They have the right to be here.
To value others is to value myself.
Unconditional Life-Esteem (ULE)
Life is always of value because--
God runs it.
I choose to love life.
I have enjoyed life before and I can again.
I have faith in the value of life.
I have the chance to go to heaven.
It is the best we have.
There is always some good in it.
There is love in the world.
Unconditional Ability-Esteem (UAE)
My ability is always of value because--
I am able to do many things.
I can do some things well.
I can make a difference.
I do have positive abilities.
I do have usefulness.
I do make contributions.
I have comforted others.
I have confidence in some areas.
I have encouraged others.
I have helped others.
I have made some things better.
My lack of talents in one area cannot override my real talents in another area.
Others do appreciate my contributions.
QUOTATIONS VARIOUS SOURCES
"The main emotional support that you can give yourself is what we have mentioned several times already in this book--achieving unconditional self-acceptance (USA)."--Albert Ellis & Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 230.
"As ever, we use the Christian and REBT philosophy of accepting the sinner but not the sin."--Albert Ellis & Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 230.
"The attitude of unconditional self-acceptance is probably the most important variable in their long-term recovery."--Albert Ellis, Rational-Emotive Therapy with Alcoholics and Substance Abusers, page 71
"Flow with whatever may happen and let your mind be free. Stay centered by accepting whatever you are doing."--Chuang-Tzu
"Self-esteem steals souls."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"Condemn the sin not the sinner."--Christian saying
"Despise the crime not the criminal."--Japanese saying
Self-Esteem Disputes: 50 Short