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4 Main Insane Beliefs
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Demanding Look Good Variation of 4
- 1. I must look good.
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- 2. You must help me look good.
3. Life must help me look good.
4. My abilities must help me look good.
Demanding Do Well Variation of 4
- 1. I must do well.
- 2. You must help me look good.
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- 2. You must help me do well.
3. Life must help me do well.
4. My abilities must help me do well.
- 2. You must help me do well.
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REBT's 3 IBs: For those familiar with REBT, note the strong similarity of the first three above to the latest version of the three main irrational beliefs (iBs) of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT).
Script Form Variation of 4
- 1. Conditional Self-Esteem (CSE):
- If I do look good or do well, then I will be superior and will have ego pleasure.
- If I do not look good or do well, then I will be inferior and have ego pain.
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- 2. Conditional Other-Esteem (COE):
- If others help me to look good or to do well, then they are good.
- If others do not help me to look good or to do well, then they must be blamed and damned for my failure in place of me.
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- 3. Conditional Life-Esteem (CLE):
- If life helps me to look good or to perform well, then life is good.
- If life does not help me to look good or to perform well, then life must be blamed and damned for my failure in place of me.
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- 4. Conditional Ability-Esteem (CAE):
- If my abilities help me to look good or to perform well, then I will like that activity or experience.
- If my abilities do not help me to look good or to perform well, then I cannot stand that awful activity and I must blame and damn that activity and-or my abilities for my failure.
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4 VARIATIONS OF INFERIOR: The four main variations of inferior are: stupid, worthless, defective, not part of the group. -
5 TROUBLING EMOTIONS: The four self-esteem script issues can be related to the five main emotions that people seek counseling for help dealing with: ADSAP or anxiety (fear), despair (depression), shame (guilt), anger (hate), pride (arrogance). Script #1 leads directly to anxiety, but an ever present anxiety that may be suppressed for pride. Scripts #2 and #3 lead directly to anger at either others or life. Script #4 leads to both guilt and depression for the failure, and also to anxiety about reexperiencing the activity. Compare to: Damning Self & 5 Main Emotions -
QUOTATIONS VARIOUS SOURCES
"For identification and comparison maintain the conflict of duality, and there is no solution within its pattern."--J. Krishnamurti, The Collected Works of J. Krishnamurti, Volume IV, page 35
- "A time will soon come when the tragic actors will think that their masks and buskins and the long robes are themselves."--Epictetus, Discourses
"Titles are like a magicians wand which circumscribe human facility and prevent us from living the lives of man."--Thomas Paine
"Self-esteem steals souls."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
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