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S-R Thinking
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This page assumes you are familiar with the STPHFR paradigm: STPHFR.
S-R THINKING
S-R thinking is only applicable to dead things.
S-R thinking is in error when applied to living things.
Most of the difficulty that occurs in human relations occurs because of S-R thinking.
S-R thinking is the basis of emotional immaturity.
S-R thinking is the foundation of whining, blaming, and damning.
S-R thinking occurs when you blame the S, stimulus, for your R, response, to S.
BOREDOM: AN EXAMPLE OF S-R THINKING
Boredom is a good example of the problem of applying S-R thinking to people.
The bored typically blame the situation for their boring response to it.
However, feeling bored is a mental state and as such is caused by the mind, by your thinking. The situation or event that you are blaming for your "being" bored is not itself a mental state. The situation or event is actually neutral. It is only your interpretation of the event that makes the event to appear to be either negative or positive. No event is a mental state. No event causes mental states. Humans choose mental states by habit or conscious living.
STPHFR Insights
QUOTATIONS VARIOUS SOURCES
"The journey of life is inward not outward."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"The fault, Dear Brutus, is not in our stars; but in ourselves, that we are underlings."--William Shakespeare in Julius Caesar
"Accuse not Nature, she hath done her part; Do thou but thine."--John Milton in Paradise Lost
"I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul."--W. E. Henley in Invictus
"The more you are willing to accept responsibility for your actions, the more credibility you will have."--Brian Koslow
"The willingness to accept responsibility for one's own life is the source from which self-respect springs."--Joan Didion
"Nobody can bring you peace but yourself."--Ralph Waldo Emerson
"We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same."--Carlos Castenada
"Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional."--Anonymous
"What poison is to food, self-pity is to life."--Oliver C. Wilson
"I am happy and content because I think I am."--Alain-Rene Lesage
"Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be."--Abraham Lincoln
"Some pursue happiness, others create it."--Anonymous
"The U. S. Constitution doesn't guarantee happiness, only the pursuit of it. You have to catch up with it yourself."--Benjamin Franklin
"Not in the shouts and plaudits of the throng, but in ourselves, are triumph and defeat."--Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
"Every man without passions has within him no principle of action, nor motive to act."--Claude Helvetius
"Each man the architect of his own fate."--Sallust
"The ability to accept responsibility is the measure of the man."--Roy Smith
"Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment, and learn again to exercise his will--his personal responsibility in the realm of faith and morals."--Albert Schweitzer
"It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves."--William Shakespeare
"My philosophy is that not only are you responsible for your life, but doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment."--Oprah Winfrey
"An excuse is a lie guarded."--Jonathan Swift
"A wise man will make more opportunities than he finds."--Francis Bacon
"Luck is where preparation meets opportunity."--Anonymous
"Nothing stops the man who desires to achieve. Every obstacle is simply a course to develop his achievement muscle. It's a strengthening of his powers of accomplishment."--Eric Butterworth
"To a large extent I can control my feelings and desires and can change them so that I lead a happier existence."--Albert Ellis & Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 247.
"Obstacles don't have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don't turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it."--Michael Jordan
"While they were saying among themselves it cannot be done, it was done."--Helen Keller
"Why is it that people are willing to take responsibility for their happiness or mild sadness but not their severe disturbance or great unhappiness?--why ego of course!"--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"Whatever may be, I am still largely the creator and ruler of my emotional destiny."--Albert Ellis & Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 252. OrderA Guide to Rational Living.
"The only disability in life is a bad attitude."--Scott Hamilton
"Teaching the principle of emotional responsibility can be one of the hardest tasks in REBT as clients may have habitually blamed others for their problems and now the therapist is pointing to the true source of their emotional problems--themselves."--Michael Neenan and Windy Dryden, Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy: Advances in Theory & Practice, page 43
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."--Agnes Repplier
"A man's as miserable as he thinks he is."--Marcus Seneca
"Either do not attempt at all, or go through with it."--Ovid
"Great works are performed not by strength, but by perseverance."--Samuel Johnson
"If we have not peace within ourselves, it is in vain to seek it from outward sources."--Francois de La Rochefoucauld
"A baby expects to be soothed, but a mature adult soothes themselves."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"Adults are expert at self-disturbance and inept at self-soothing."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"No one has ever gotten to anyone."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"If pleasure first, then pain second."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"There is no man so low that the cure for his condition does not lie strictly within himself."--Thomas L. Masson
"Don't go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first."--Mark Twain
"Man is condemned to be free; because once thrown into the world, he is responsible for everything he does."--Jean-Paul Sartre, 1905-1980
"But let every man prove his own work, and then shall he have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another."--Galatians 6:4
"Are you part of the problem or part of the solution?"--Annonymous
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