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Self-Esteem
QUOTATIONS VARIOUS SOURCES
"The self of which you speak, whether it is the great self or the small self, is only a concept that does not correspond to any reality."--Buddha, Zen Keys by Thich Nhat Hanh, page 38
"Teach your children not to strive for high self-esteem. This is nothing less than teaching them arrogance, conceit and superiority feelings."--Paul A. Hauck, Overcoming The Rating Game: Beyond Self-Love--Beyond Self-Esteem, page 46
"[REBT] Attempts to help humans eliminate all self-ratings and views self-esteem as a self-defeating concept that encourages them to make conditional evaluations of self. Instead, it teaches people unconditional self-acceptance."--Albert Ellis, The Practice of Rational Emotive Therapy, page 61
"RET Abolishes Most of the Human Ego" by Albert Ellis, Psychotherapy: Theory, Research and Practice, 13:4, 343-348, 1976
"Is self-esteem a sickness? That's according to the way you define it. In the usual way it is defined by people and by psychologists, I'd say that it is probably the greatest emotional disturbance known to man and woman."--Albert Ellis, The Myth of Self-Esteem: How Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy Can Change Your Life Forever, page 13.
"This, perhaps, goes to show that conditional self-esteem, as I have said for many years, is an insidious, real sickness, so much so that even Buddhists carelessly sneak it in and sometimes encourage their clients to achieve it."--Albert Ellis, Buddhism and Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy
"Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional."--Albert Ellis, Ph.D., the most famous and influential living psychologist in the world, Psychology Today, February, 2001, page 72, in the interview, "The Prince of Reason," with the famous psychologist Robert Epstein, Ph.D.
"It is my contention that the promotion of 'self-esteem' has done demonstrably more harm than good, and that the prudent individual will resist the arrogant and childish temptation to 'esteem himself.'"--David Mills, Overcoming "Self-Esteem" Why Our Compulsive Drive for "Self-Esteem" Is Anxiety-Provoking, Socially Inhibiting, and Self-Sabotaging
"The societal pursuit of high self-esteem for everyone may literally end up doing considerable harm."--Roy F. Baumeister, Joseph M. Boden, & Laura Smart, Psychological Review, February 1996
"The assumption being that if high-risk children could be made to 'feel good about themselves,' these epidemics could be mitigated. ... This prescription, unfortunately, has proven to be yet another in a long list of nouveau homilies that haven't lived up to their promises."--John Rosemond, Plan To Build Self-Esteem Backfires, August 1996 syndicated newspaper column regarding research done at Case Western Reserve University and the University of Virginia
"There is little reason to believe self-esteem leads to academic achievement or is even necessary for academic success. It is therefore crucial to delegitimize the education establishment's mindless glorification of self-esteem."--Nina H. Shokraii, "The Self-Esteem Fraud: Feel-Good Education Does Not Lead to Academic Success," USA Today Magazine, January 1998
"The first step man takes in self-confidence, removes him so far from the confidence he ought to have in God."--Marguerite of Navarre
"Perfection does not consist in macerating or killing the body, but in killing our perverse self-will."--Catherine of Siena
"I often marvel how it is that though each man loves himself beyond all else, he should yet value his own opinion of himself less than that of others."--Marcus Aurelius, 121-180 A.D.
"What others think of us would be of little moment did it not, when known, so deeply tinge what we think of ourselves."--Lucius Annaeus Seneca, 4 B.C. ? to 65 A.D.
"What we do in dreams we also do when we are awake: we invent and fabricate the person with whom we associate--and immediately forget we have done so."--Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche, Beyond Good and Evil
"One does not hate so long as one continues to rate low, but only when one has come to rate equal or higher."--Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche, Beyond Good and Evil
"He who despises himself still nonetheless respects himself as one who despises."--Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche, Beyond Good and Evil
"You never exist quite so much as when you are not thinking."--Friedrich Nietzsche, 1844-1900, German philosopher
"Guilt is really the reverse side of the coin of pride. Guilt aims at self-destruction, and pride aims at the destruction of others."--Bill W., As Bill Sees It, page 140
"When one has an image about oneself one is surely insane, one lives in a world of illusion."--J. Krishnamurti, The Flight of the Eagle, page 57
"The idea, the pattern, is self-projected; it is a form of self-worship, of self-perpetuation, and hence gratifying."--J. Krishnamurti, Commentaries on Living, First Series, page 86
"We all place ourselves at various levels, and we are constantly falling from these heights. It is the falls we are ashamed of. Self-esteem is the cause of our shame, of our fall. It is this self-esteem that must be understood, and not the fall."--J. Krishnamurti, Commentaries on Living, First Series, page 146
"Imagination builds the image of the self, and thought then functions within its shadows. From this self-concept grows the conflict between what is and what should be, the conflict in duality."--J. Krishnamurti, Commentaries on Living, Second Series, page 209
"And it is impossible to treat human beings as human beings if you label them, if you term them, if you give them a name as Hindus, Russians, or what you will. It is so much easier to label people, for then you can pass by and kick them, drop a bomb on India or Japan."--J. Krishnamurti, The Collected Works of J. Krishnamurti, Volume V, page 66
"But inwardly we are as corrupt as the person who sits in an office and plans war--because, we want to be somebody in the family, in a group, in society, in the nation."--J. Krishnamurti, The Collected Works of J. Krishnamurti, Volume V, page 339
"After all, conflict arises, does it not, through the desire to be something, to be other than what is."--J. Krishnamurti, The Collected Works of J. Krishnamurti, Volume V, page 349
"These 'philosophers', etc., seem unaware, to give a specific example, that by teaching and preaching 'identity', which is empirically non-existent in this actual world, they are neurologically training future generations in the pathological identifications found in the 'mentally' ill or maladjusted."--Alfred Korzybski, Science and Sanity: An Introduction to Non-Aristotelian Systems and General Semantics, Fourth Edition, xxix
"Identification makes general sanity and complete adjustment impossible. Training in non-identity plays a therapeutic role with adults."--Alfred Korzybski, Science and Sanity: An Introduction to Non-Aristotelian Systems and General Semantics, Fourth Edition, page lxxix
"Riches I need not, nor man's empty praise."--translated from ancient Gaelic poem
"Identity is invariably false to facts."--Alfred Korzybski, Science & Sanity, page 196
"Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth."--Alan Watts
"Titles are like a magicians wand which circumscribe human facility and prevent us from living the lives of man."--Thomas Paine
"Swallow your pride occasionally, it's nonfattening!"--Anonymous
"None are so empty as those who are full of themselves."--Benjamin Whichcote
"Half of the harm that is done in this world is due to people who want to feel important. They do not mean to do harm. They are absorbed in the endless struggle to think well of themselves."--T. S. Eliot
"Man is always more than he can know of himself; consequently, his accomplishments, time and again, will come as a surprise to him."--Golo Mann
"For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,"--II Timothy 3:2
"If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself."--Max Ehrmann
"Self-control is the chief element in self-respect and self-respect is the chief element in courage."--Thucydides, The History of the Peloponnesean War
"The cause of all sins in every case lies in the person's excessive love of self."--Plato, Laws
"Don't regard what anyone says of you, for this, after all, is no concern of yours."--Epictetus, Enchiridion
QUOTATIONS KEVIN
"No one can control, create, change, or recreate your self but God."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"Self-esteem steals souls."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"I am a being NOT a remembering."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"I am a being NOT a thinking."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"You can be either a thinking or a being."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"Self-esteem is when you compare your insides to somebody else's outsides."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"Low self-esteem is a paradox. On the one hand, I think I am worthless. And on the other hand, I think I am worth thinking and feeling about all the time."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"Low self-esteem is a form of pride as it consists of a devout self-centeredness that puts you at the center of all events."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"If value is potential, then all humans are always good for all humans always have the potential for good."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
Self-Esteem Disputes: 50 Short