"Daily Dose of Discernment: Quote 5 A Day" 2008

by Kevin E. FitzMaurice, M.S., LPC

2008-12-31

Nothing can represent God, The Invisible One, and anything that tries to is an idol that represents only idols.

Nothing can lead to God, The One Good, and anything that attempts to lead to God is an idol that leads only to idols.

Nothing can be about God or teach you about God, The Unknowable One, and anything that claims to serves only idols.

Nothing can call God, The Self-sustaining One, to mind and anything that attempts to is an idol that only calls only idols to mind.

Nothing can come in-between you and God, The One Source and Power, and anything that comes in-between you and God is an idol that servers only idols.

2008-12-30

People are so bound by habits: they appear retarded when they try to change one.

People are so bound by habits: they revert to old habits under stress despite having formed new and better habits.

People are so bound by habits: they complain it is hard to change a habit when switching to a new habit requires only practice.

People are so bound by habits: they can have all the mental insight, promises, and good intentions in the world about why and how to change a habit and still not change it at all.

People are so bound by habits: they call them addictions, compulsions, passions, primitive urges, internal conflicts, sins, self, personality, traits, who they are, their nature, or anything but what they are--habits.

2008-12-29

Rigid thinking: you must not must.

Rigid thinking: you must always be flexible.

Rigid thinking: synthesis is the only purpose.

Rigid thinking: only the middle ground has any truth or value.

Rigid thinking: generalization is bad, of course, this is a generalization.

2008-12-28

You get the behavior you resist.

You get the behavior you reward.

You get the behavior you argue with.

You get the behavior you encourage.

You get the behavior you seek to stop.

2008-12-27

One God: only God is good.

One God: only God is power.

One God: only God is source.

One God: only God is somebody.

One God: only God is life, love, reason, purpose, meaning, intelligence, authority, ability, talent, praiseworthy.

2008-12-26

You will become like those: you live with.

You will become like those: you grow up with.

You will become like those: you respect and admire.

You will become like those: who teach and condition you.

You will become like those: you play with as a child and an adult.

2008-12-25

Christ is the purpose and meaning of life.

Christ became one of us to convert us to God's nature.

Christ is the only begotten of God: He is the first and last to be given a self as part of God.

Christ is the only path as He is the only one that you can die as flesh and be reborn as Spirit with.

Christ saved all: so all are the same as there is only One Savior and not a separate or unique savior for each of us.

2008-12-24

Insight is insufficient: You know what you need to do, but you do not do it because you give in to procrastination and laziness.

Insight is insufficient: You know what you need to do, but you do not do it because you do not have enough motivation or pain.

Insight is insufficient: You know what you need to do, but you do not do it because you give in to avoidance, escapism, and weakness.

Insight is insufficient: You know what you need to do, but you do not do it because you do not have the emotional insight and drive you need.

Insight is insufficient: You know what you need to do, but you do not do it because you are not practicing a better habit long and hard enough for it to replace your bad habit.

2008-12-23

It is not the therapeutic relationship that is curative, it is having someone believe in you that is curative.

It is not the therapeutic relationship that is curative, it is having someone encourage and support you that is curative.

It is not the therapeutic relationship that is curative, it is having someone focus on bringing out the best in you that is curative.

It is not the therapeutic relationship that is curative, it is having someone teach better ways of coping and problem-solving that is curative.

It is not the therapeutic relationship that is curative, it is having someone teach you better ways to relate to yourself and others that is curative.

2008-12-22

You are the host not the hosted.

You are the carrier not the carried.

You are the radio not the radio show.

You are the container not the contents.

You are the magnifier not the magnified.

2008-12-21

You are the TV not the TV show.

You are the mirror not the mirrored.

You are the receiver not the received.

You are the reflector not the reflection.

You are the amplifier not the amplified.

2008-12-20

Trying is failing: I am your fiancée and I will try to make it to the wedding.

Trying is failing: I am Dr. Bloody and I will try to get your son breathing again.

Trying is failing: I am Captain Sky and I will try to land our airplane in Chicago.

Trying is failing: I am Dr. Brainy and I will try to be careful when cutting into your brain.

Trying is failing: I am going to take you rock climbing up a steep cliff for the first time, and I want you to try not to fall to your death.

2008-12-19

Why: The emergency room does not care why you were out driving, instead, they concentrate on healing and helping you right now.

Why: The coach does not care why you learned your bad swing, instead, the coach wants you to concentrate on practicing a better swing.

Why: The piano teacher does not care why you learned to play the piano wrong, instead, they want you to learn to play the piano right now.

Why: You do not want to focus on why you cannot ride a bicycle, instead, you want to focus on learning and practicing how to ride a bicycle.

Why: You learned to tie your shoes poorly, however, you do not spend your time trying to figure out what was wrong with your teachers and why you followed their poor lessons, instead, you learn and practice a better technique.

2008-12-18

Asking "why" can keep you safely externally-focused.

Asking "why" can keep you procrastinating and avoiding doing what you need to do.

Asking "why" can keep you wasting your time and energy pursing the ultimate explanation.

Asking "why" can keep you from having to do the work of developing better habits and skills.

Asking "why" can keep you on a wild goose chase that effectively keeps you from self-examination and accountability.

2008-12-17

You cannot prove to yourself by trying to prove to others that you are: not a failure, not a loser, not someone to just forget.

You cannot prove to yourself by trying to prove to others that you are: not bad, not stupid, not worthless, not defective, not an outcast.

You cannot prove to yourself by trying to prove to others that you are: you are worth loving, worth having as a friend, worthy of respect.

You cannot prove to yourself by trying to prove to others that you are: in charge of your life, in charge of your mind, in charge of your feelings.

You cannot prove to yourself by trying to prove to others that you are: not immature, not unsophisticated, not unaware, not irresponsible, not unaccountable, not childish, not dependent, not unreliable.

2008-12-16

Too much thinking ruins: skill, talent, ability.

Too much thinking ruins: memory, experience, reliability.

Too much thinking ruins: creativity, joy, living, being, doing.

Too much thinking ruins: feeling, intuition, sensing, experiencing.

Too much thinking ruins: thinking, analysis, insight, planning, forecasting, decision making.

2008-12-15

Frankenstein monster: your ego is made of parts of your dead opinions of self and others.

Frankenstein monster: your ego is made of parts of your dead comparisons your behavior.

Frankenstein monster: your ego is made of parts of your dead memories of self and others.

Frankenstein monster: your ego is made of parts of your dead ideas of who you and others are.

Frankenstein monster: your ego is made of parts of your dead memories of either trying to be or avoiding trying to be something.

2008-12-14

You cannot cope for anyone else.

You cannot let go for anyone else.

You cannot accept for anyone else.

You cannot detach for anyone else.

You cannot--understand, experience, feel, sense, think, be responsible, choose, live--for anyone else.

2008-12-13

You continue to engage in behavior that you know is self-defeating because: you follow your habits.

You continue to engage in behavior that you know is self-defeating because: you do not know a better way.

You continue to engage in behavior that you know is self-defeating because: you are trying to work out related identity issues.

You continue to engage in behavior that you know is self-defeating because: you are afraid that anything else might be more stressful.

You continue to engage in behavior that you know is self-defeating because: you know a better way, but you are not motivated enough to work to make better habits.

2008-12-12

Yes, you can do the work you love.

Yes, you can be accepted and loved.

Yes, you can learn to live with and accept yourself.

Yes, you can learn better ways to deal with others and feelings.

Yes, you can learn better ways to problem-solve and cope with stress.

2008-12-11

Your bitterness burns you.

Your bitterness is carried by you and your body.

Your bitterness harms your attitude and outlook.

Your bitterness causes you stress and disturbance.

Your bitterness poisons your health, happiness, and peace.

2008-12-10

Stories, narrations, and tales of food do not help the starving.

Thoughts, ideas, and concepts of food do not help the starving.

Pictures, images, and drawings of food do not help the starving.

Names, designations, and terms of food do not help the starving.

Descriptions, specifications, and explanations of food do not help the starving.

2008-12-09

Nothing survives life but God.

Nothing survives life but salvation.

Nothing survives life but judgment.

Nothing survives life but the Word of God.

Nothing survives life but the memories of God.

2008-12-08

You are inside your head, and that is the only place you can control.

You are inside your head, and that is the only place you should focus on.

You are inside your head, and that is the only place you should worry about.

You are inside your head, and that is the only place you are ultimately responsible for.

You are inside your head, and that is the only place you need to: fix, clean up, straighten out, set aright, mend, stabilize, patch, doctor, repair, restore, rectify, remedy, renew.

2008-12-07

Thinking is not life.

Thinking is not love.

Thinking is not heart.

Thinking is not soul.

Thinking is not mind.

2008-12-06

What would life be like if: everyone worried about their right response instead of the right event to respond to?

What would life be like if: everyone worried about following their beliefs before trying to get others to follow them?

What would life be like if: everyone worried about their doing the right thing anyway instead of others doing the right thing?

What would life be like if: everyone worried about only what God thought about them instead of what people thought about them?

What would life be like if: everyone worried about controlling their own mind and heart instead of controlling the minds and hearts of others?

2008-12-05

No one is playing your virtual-world game but you.

No one is in your virtual-world game, no, not even you.

No one can follow the rules for your virtual-world game, no, not even you.

No one cares about the fantasy outcomes in your virtual-world game but you.

No one wants to learn about or understand your virtual-world game, but some will pretend hoping you will then be interested in theirs.

2008-12-04

Thinking causes nothing but thinking.

Thinking creates nothing but thinking.

Thinking controls nothing but thinking.

Thinking corrects nothing but thinking.

Thinking changes nothing but thinking.

2008-12-03

Better failure.

Better suffering.

Better weakness.

Better helplessness.

Better hopelessness.

2008-12-02

Failure is learning what does not work.

Failure is learning to make better choices.

Failure is learning to become aware of more options.

Failure is learning to seek advice, resources, and training.

Failure is learning to respect challenges enough to prepare for them.

2008-12-01

Don't reframe rather replace.

Don't reframe rather redirect.

Don't reframe rather revalue.

Don't reframe rather refocus.

Don't reframe rather remove.

2008-11-30

Adversity is opportunity to develop character or to excuse immorality.

Adversity is opportunity to stand by your beliefs or to excuse hypocrisy.

Adversity is opportunity to suffer for the good or to make friends with evil.

Adversity is opportunity to practice what is right or to excuse what is wrong.

Adversity is opportunity to do the right thing anyway or to rationalize doing wrong.

2008-11-29

What you hate you ate as you as if others.

What you hate you rate as you as if others.

What you hate you deflate as you as if others.

What you hate you frustrate as you as if others.

What you hate you inculcate as you as if others.

2008-11-28

No mind no matter.

No matter no mind.

No mind nothing to matter.

No matter nothing to mind.

No mind no matter no problem.

2008-11-27

Manipulation: Arguing is for manipulation not communication.

Manipulation: Fairness is for manipulation not communication.

Manipulation: Whining, blaming, and damning are for manipulation not communication.

Manipulation: Explaining, justifying, and defending are for manipulation not communication.

Manipulation: Cross-examination, interrogation, and asking "why" are for manipulation not communication.

2008-11-26

Backwards: You want to change us so you can.

Backwards: You want us to relate differently so you can.

Backwards: You want us to think, feel, and act differently so you can.

Backwards: You want to control us so you can be in control of yourself.

Backwards: You want us to conform, transform, evolve, develop, become better so you can.

2008-11-25

Problem: There is no fix for the problem that is not of the problem.

Problem: There is no way out of the problem that is not of the problem.

Problem: There is no change for the problem that is not more of the problem.

Problem: There is no trying, working on, or overcoming the problem that is not of the problem.

Problem: There is nothing but switching, stepping out of, or leaving the problem entirely that can provide a real solution.

2008-11-24

Self-fulfilling prophecy: you work to make yourself right about being wrong.

Self-fulfilling prophecy: you are so jealous, you drive them to someone else.

Self-fulfilling prophecy: you believe you won't have friends, so are not friendly to anyone.

Self-fulfilling prophecy: you believe you can't or won't, so sabotage your efforts and success.

Self-fulfilling prophecy: you believe no one will respect you and so don't respect yourself, which, in turn, leads us to sense you are not worthy of respect.

2008-11-23

Feedback-loop: In order to feel alive, part of life, and worthwhile, I need to experience contact by completing my communication feedback-loops.

Feedback-loop: I need my loop completed by you and you need your loop completed by me; so can we cooperate or do we have to fight to see who gets theirs done ensuring no one gets theirs done?

Feedback-loop: You do not have to deny my completion in order to secure your completion, in fact, the mature are more concerned with helping others complete than themselves.

Feedback-loop: You can complete my contact needs by letting me know that you heard me and accept what I said even if you then want to add to it.

Feedback-loop: I will see you as charming and wonderful when you make opportunities for me to easily complete and experience contact; isn't that what you really want?

2008-11-22

There is no real praise from people: humans are not the source of good.

There is no real praise from people: humans are not the source of praise.

There is no real praise from people: humans cannot give what they do not have.

There is no real praise from people: all praise belongs to God alone as only God is source.

There is no real praise from people: praise from people is a passing delusion based on achievements that intrinsically have no meaning and fantasy images of who you become.

2008-11-21

Simple: Truth is simple and lies complicated.

Simple: Simple is clear and complicated cloudy.

Simple: Genius is making the compound or complicated simple.

Simple: Intelligence is clear and simple and stupidity is cloudy and complicated.

Simple: Simple upon simple networked to more simple upon simple makes for intricate design.

2008-11-20

Thinking cannot provide security.

Thinking cannot provide wisdom.

Thinking cannot provide answers.

Thinking cannot provide experience.

Thinking cannot provide skill, talent, or ability.

2008-11-19

Change: you cannot change self, others, or life.

Change: you can confess and switch but not change.

Change: you cannot change one thought, feeling, or behavior.

Change: you can die and be reborn, which is the only change.

Change: you can lie and fool the world that you have changed, but you are not the creator of your self.

2008-11-18

Faith: future evidence trusted now.

Hope: future evidence desired now.

Charity: future evidence prayed for now.

Grace: future evidence received now.

Love: future evidence believed now.

2008-11-17

Resist being on it: do not resist what it is to be on it.

Resist following it: do not resist what it is to follow it.

Resist identifying with it: do not resist what happens when you identify with it.

Resist keeping your attention on it: do not resist that it can grab your attention for a second.

Resist keeping it in your temple: do not resist your responsibility for dwelling on or denying time to what comes into your temple.

2008-11-16

If cannot wait to leave, then you are not there anyway.

You spend more time hurrying to get there than being there.

If you are always hurrying to be somewhere, then you are never anywhere.

The point of life is not continued acceleration until there is nothing but speed left.

The hurrier I go the behinder I get not only in doing things well, but in being in relationship with others, life, and God.

2008-11-15

To be an extremist: always be flexible.

To be an extremist: do all things in moderation.

To be an extremist: believe there are no extremes.

To be an extremist: generalize there are no good generalizations.

To be an extremist: believe everything is gray and there are no black or whites.

2008-11-14

Ego: if it points to you, then it is ego.

Ego: if you are the center, then it is ego.

Ego: if you are the referent, then it is ego.

Ego: is claiming to know and do better to be better.

Ego: is seeking to appear better and to avoid appearing worse.

2008-11-13

Avoid: You avoid self and lose self.

Escape: You escape self and lose self.

Avoid: You avoid ego pain and ensure it.

Escape: You escape ego pain and guarantee it.

Instead: You can face self and through self-acceptance overcome the false pain of the false self as ratings and opinions.

2008-11-12

Detach: make your self not available for question or correction.

Detach: make your self not available for inspection or valuation.

Detach: make your self not available for reprehension or attribution.

Detach: make your self not available for condemnation or damnation.

Detach: make your self not available and allow your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to be available for inspection, valuation, and function analysis.

2008-11-11

Right order: form to feeling or thinking to sensation.

Right order: because reality is energy and unknowable, the closest we can come to reality is perception that gives sensation of present energy.

Wrong order: feeling to form or sensation to thinking.

Wrong order: because following sensation to thought means you will miss sensation of now for thought of what it is supposed to be, should not be, or was.

To be successful in sports, arts, or work: have an ideal of what to do guide you to sensation of the nonverbal actual.

2008-11-10

As flesh, we are incapable of learning to choose the good and only ever do so if we are first drawn to do so by God.

As flesh, we are incapable of learning to choose the good from any amount of pain, suffering, struggle, hardship, or failure.

As flesh, we are incapable of learning to choose the good from any amount of history, experience, example, or information.

As flesh, we are incapable of learning to choose the good from any amount of instruction, intelligence, insight, wisdom, or love.

As flesh, we are incapable of learning to choose the good from any amount of law, correction, punishment, discipline, or consequence.

2008-11-09

Churchianity is where the dirtiest politics in the world are the norm.

Churchianity is where they can use the right words while their heart serves the opposite.

Churchianity is where they convince you that the teachings of Jesus Christ cannot be followed but only admired.

Churchianity is where they deny Christ freed you from your sins by falsely claiming you must continue to sin, to serve flesh instead of God.

Churchianity is where they deny humility and equality, and, instead, blasphemously teach superiority, pride, and bigotry in the name of God.

2008-11-08

Churchianity is hypocrisy on parade.

Churchianity is phony and Pharisaical.

Churchianity is the opposite of Christianity.

Churchianity is everything you should not be.

Churchianity is everything you should not do.

2008-11-07

Churchianity is anti Christ.

Churchianity is anti Christianity.

Churchianity is anti good works.

Churchianity is anti freedom from sin.

Churchianity is anti salvation in this life.

2008-11-06

One God: all doing will always be His alone.

One God: all being will always be His alone.

One God: all knowing will always be His alone.

One God: all talent, skill, and capability will always be His alone.

One God: all aptitude, intelligence, and wisdom will always be His alone.

2008-11-05

A mirror that is busy being something is not available to serve as a reflector.

A mirror that is busy trying to become is not available to serve as a reflector.

A mirror that is busy trying to improve is not available to serve as a reflector.

A mirror that is busy doing something is not available to serve as a reflector.

A mirror that is busy knowing something is not available to serve as a reflector.

2008-11-04

A clean mirror has use, but a dirty mirror is worthless as a reflector.

A still mirror has use, but a spinning mirror is worthless as a reflector.

An available mirror has use, but a mirror turned in on itself is worthless as a reflector.

A present mirror has use, but a mirror trying to reflect the past is worthless as a reflector.

An accessible mirror has use, but a mirror trying to reflect itself is worthless as a reflector.

2008-11-03

Champions forget trying, showing up, working at it, doing their best: instead, they do more than expected.

Champions forget trying, showing up, working at it, doing their best: instead, they give it more than they have.

Champions forget trying, showing up, working at it, doing their best: instead, they endure past their quitting point.

Champions forget trying, showing up, working at it, doing their best: instead, they endure past their breaking point.

Champions forget trying, showing up, working at it, doing their best: instead, they put in the extra effort or go the extra mile that makes the difference.

2008-11-02

Pleasure does not persist.

Pleasure does not fix or solve.

Pleasure does not provide security.

Pleasure does not provide fulfillment.

Pleasure does not provide answers or anything lasting.

2008-11-01

Wrong: If it should be, then it must be.

Right: If it should be, then odds are it won't be.

Wrong: If it should be, then that right makes might.

Right: If it should be, then that right makes weakness.

Wrong: If it should be, then they must agree and accept it.

Right: If it should be, then odds are they will disagree and not accept it.

2008-10-31

There is only One source: I can add nothing.

There is only One source: I can give nothing.

There is only One source: I can supply nothing.

There is only One source: I can provide nothing.

There is only One source: I can contribute nothing.

2008-10-30

The only thing I can offer is space.

The only thing I can do is stillness.

The only thing I can be is emptiness.

The only thing I can know is humility.

The only thing I can speak is silence.

2008-10-29

Let your goals make your plans not your pains.

Let your goals make your schedule not your doubts.

Let your goals make your decisions not your discomforts.

Let your goals choose your behaviors not your inner brat.

Let your goals make your purposes and intentions not your weaknesses.

2008-10-28

The self has no moving parts.

The self has no building blocks.

The self cannot be constructed only discovered.

The self cannot be mapped as the self is living not dead thought.

The self cannot be found or formulated as the self is neither something nor some things.

2008-10-27

Self is a unique inner space and place inside a body: I am the rest not the action.

Self is a unique inner space and place inside a body: I am the nondoing not the doing.

Self is a unique inner space and place inside a body: I am the silence not the speaking.

Self is a unique inner space and place inside a body: I am the emptiness not the fullness.

Self is a unique inner space and place inside a body: I am the stillness not the movement.

2008-10-26

Self con: inner claims to be this or that cannot make it so.

Self con: self-talk about who and what you are cannot be you.

Self con: feelings about who and what you are cannot be you.

Self con: thoughts about who and what you are cannot be you.

Self con: any voice in your head that says it is you that is claiming to be a moving or doing you cannot be you.

2008-10-25

To do: rest.

To be: stop.

To live: die.

To know: listen.

To speak: shut up.

2008-10-24

Should to learn not to do.

Should to direct not to do.

Should to locate not to do.

Should to remind not to do.

Should to instruct not to do.

2008-10-23

If I do not like it now, then I will not like it worse: being mean to the mean will make it worse not better.

If I do not like it now, then I will not like it worse: being mean to make them love me will make it worse not better.

If I do not like it now, then I will not like it worse: being mean to feel strong and powerful will make it worse not better.

If I do not like it now, then I will not like it worse: being mean to protect and defend myself will make it worse not better.

If I do not like it now, then I will not like it worse: being mean to teach them not to be mean will make it worse not better.

2008-10-22

To thine own self be true: face your true motivations no matter how ugly or primitive.

To thine own self be true: seek correction and accept the pain of facing the ugly side of human nature.

To thine own self be true: stop conning yourself with procrastination and promises you will never keep.

To thine own self be true: stop confusing and losing yourself by manipulating yourself with guilt and shame.

To thine own self be true: stop seeking to appear good and to avoid appearing bad by putting ego ahead of self.

2008-10-21

When it comes to self:

Not more but less.

Not larger but smaller.

Not evolve but devolve.

Not complicate but simplify.

Not construct but deconstruct.

2008-10-20

Failing: being with thought.

Failing: doing with thought.

Failing: trying with thought.

Failing: working with thought.

Failing: knowing with thought.

2008-10-19

You seek security for ego, but someone always thinks bad of you.

You seek security for heart, but there is always someone willing to hurt you.

You seek security for body, but instability and troubles continue in the world.

You seek security for mind, but there is always new information to show you up.

You seek security for soul, but the donations, promises, and rituals you do according to people guarantee either nothing or the opposite.

2008-10-18

You will not and cannot seek the path without God drawing you to seek the path.

You will not and cannot find the path without God drawing you to find the path.

You will not and cannot stay on the path without God drawing you to stay on the path.

You will not and cannot arrive at the end of the path without God drawing you to arrive at the end of the path.

You will not and cannot return to help others with the path without God drawing you to return to help others with the path.

2008-10-17

You cannot think your way out: instead, pray your way out.

You cannot think your way out: instead, hear your way out.

You cannot think your way out: instead, intuit your way out.

You cannot think your way out: instead, choose your way out.

You cannot think your way out: instead, feel or sense your way out.

2008-10-16

You say we can make you think and feel but: you also say you control your own mind because you can have your own opinion or attitude.

You say we can make you think and feel but: you also say you control your own mind because you can pretend to pay attention to us while ignoring us.

You say we can make you think and feel but: you also say you control your own mind because you have private thoughts and feelings that only you know.

You say we can make you think and feel but: you also say you control your own mind because you are not understood, appreciated, or known by anyone else.

You say we can make you think and feel but: you also say you control your own mind because you rebel, sabotage, pretend to agree, manipulate, deceive, con, lie, and otherwise do as you please.

2008-10-15

Insanity is: using demotivation to motivate.

Insanity is: using discouragement to encourage.

Insanity is: making feel bad to cause doing good.

Insanity is: doing what is not working longer and harder so it will not work more.

Insanity is: looping on the same negative memories without getting any new insight or making any new choices.

2008-10-14

No one has ever been talented: it is only a gift shared by God that remains His.

No one has ever been creative: it is only a gift shared by God that remains His.

No one has ever been inventive: it is only a gift shared by God that remains His.

No one has ever been intelligent: it is only a gift shared by God that remains His.

No one has ever been a discoverer: it is only a gift shared by God that remains His.

2008-10-13

Your insecurity is your security in relation to God.

Your helplessness is your help in relation to God.

Your weakness is your strength in relation to God.

Your hopelessness is your hope in relation to God.

Your worthlessness is your worth in relation to God.

2008-10-12

One God: therefore, there is no pride for you.

One God: therefore, there is no doing for you.

One God: therefore, there is no being for you.

One God: therefore, there is no knowing for you.

One God: therefore, there is no claiming for you.

2008-10-11

Ego intends to appear good and avoid appearing bad hence: ego will call your bad good.

Ego intends to appear good and avoid appearing bad hence: ego will justify you and blame others.

Ego intends to appear good and avoid appearing bad hence: ego will want shame for others and pride for self.

Ego intends to appear good and avoid appearing bad hence: ego will keep you a victim so you can be right through blame.

Ego intends to appear good and avoid appearing bad hence: ego will avoid and deny psychological pain, and seek and imagine psychological pleasure.

2008-10-10

The good life: your life is runs by goals not pain.

The good life: your intentions are conscious and open to redirection.

The good life: you are in a constant state of retreat making God your center.

The good life: your guilt and shame is for your behavior and never your being.

The good life: your inner-child lives your life and your inner-parent runs your life.

2008-10-09

What you resist you reinforce.

What you try to deny or suppress grows.

What you struggle with you make stronger.

What you try to control becomes out of control.

What you try to change becomes more of the same.

2008-10-08

The spiritual path is retreating: there is no rest in God without a retreating spirit.

The spiritual path is retreating: there is no faith in God without a retreating spirit.

The spiritual path is retreating: there is no hope in God without a retreating spirit.

The spiritual path is retreating: there is no waiting on or worshiping of God without a retreating spirit.

The spiritual path is retreating: there is no turning over, trust, reliance, or dependence on God without a retreating spirit.

2008-10-07

Life is not about what you can get: life is about what you can give.

Life is not about what you have: life is about what you lose for what you have.

Life is not about who loves you: life is about your loving everyone right or wrong.

Life is not about what others say about you: life is about what God says about you.

Life is not about what is fair for you: life is about what you give above and beyond fairness.

2008-10-06

Think do not do think.

Think know not know think.

Thinking does not do; doing does not think.

Thinking does not know; knowing does not think.

Thinking cannot hit the baseball and neither doing nor knowing can think how to hit the baseball.

2008-10-05

Right thinking is never about itself.

Right thinking will never hit the baseball.

Right thinking is never forward or controlling.

Right thinking never claims to be a source of experience, ability, or power.

Right thinking will help you to hit the baseball more often by pointing you to the right channel.

2008-10-04

You are not a source.

Thought is not a source.

Thinking that points to right sources is helpful.

Thinking as the source of experience or energy can be relied upon to make the wrong choice.

Thinking as the source of experience or energy is always wrong, is consistently the opposite of the truth.

2008-10-03

Hard is not it: everything is easy if you let it be.

Hard is failing: everything is easy if you just listen.

Hard is trying: everything is easy if you just follow.

Hard is not working, is not doing it: everything is easy if you just do it.

Hard is broken: everything is easy--just ask the person who can do it well.

2008-10-02

Life is not about who you are: life is about who God is.

Life is not about what you want: life is about what God wants.

Life is not about what you know: life is about what God knows.

Life is not about what you will do: life is about what God will do.

Life is not about what you think or feel: life is about what God thinks and feels.

2008-10-01

Only the weak survive: the strong are rejected by God.

Only the meek survive: the proud are rejected by God.

Only the mournful survive: only those willing to accept correction are accepted by God.

Only the forgiving survive: those who will not forgive others will not be forgiven by God.

Only the poor in spirit survive: the rich in themselves or their things are rejected by God.

2008-09-30

These five make the difference in life:

How you choose to feel.

How you choose to cope.

How you choose to help others.

How you choose to problem-solve.

How you choose to motivate self and others.

2008-09-29

You are not needed: if God needed you, then He would not be God.

You are not needed: you have nothing to know but to amplify the Knowing.

You are not needed: you have nothing to do but to reflect the Doing.

You are not needed: you have nothing to be but to magnify the Being.

You are not needed: you have nothing to add but to mirror that which already is.

2008-09-28

Thinking as the faith and failure.

Thinking as the result or goal and failure.

Thinking as the hope or dream and failure.

Thinking as the way or method and failure.

Thinking as the practice or trying and failure.

2008-09-27

Counseling is not comforting, it is challenging.

Counseling is not confirmation, it is confrontation.

Counseling is not ego massaging, it is ego unmasking.

Counseling is not supporting your side, it is supporting your obligation to do the right thing anyway.

Counseling is not concerned with what others are doing wrong, it is concerned with what you are doing wrong.

2008-09-26

Seeing others as inferior is inferior.

Seeing others as wrong is being wrong.

Seeing others as the monster is the monster.

Seeing others as the problem is the problem.

Seeing others as having to change is not change.

2008-09-25

It takes more courage to let go than loop.

It takes more emotion to forgive than resent.

It takes more strength to act kind than unkind.

It takes more honor to understand than judge.

It takes more intelligence to encourage than criticize.

2008-09-24

You think your blaming makes you justified, we think your blaming makes you guilty.

You think your whining makes you interesting, we think your whining makes you a bore.

You think your damning makes you look smart, we think you damning makes you look ignorant.

You think your demanding makes you look powerful, we think your demanding makes you look weak.

You think your worrying makes you look caring, we think your worrying makes you look self-absorbed.

2008-09-23

Virtue is its own reward: a quiet and peaceful mind.

Virtue is its own reward: rest and confidence in the good.

Virtue is its own reward: integrity, singleness, soundness.

Virtue is its own reward: full of beautiful and blissful virtue instead of self.

Virtue is its own reward: forgiveness and compassion on others and so for self.

2008-09-22

Arguing is losing when: you argue about what should be because life is not about what should be but only what is.

Arguing is losing when: you argue over emotions as emotions are right no matter how wrong the thinking they are based on.

Arguing is losing when: you argue with a child or your inner-child as a child is only trying to manipulate not comprehend or reason.

Arguing is losing when: you argue over what happened because each person must stay true to their own experience or risk losing self.

Arguing is losing when: you argue about whining, blaming, and damning--because despite your trying to whine, blame, and damn them away, you only reinforce them by example.

2008-09-21

Do the opposite of the internal imp: whatever advice or direction they give just do the exact opposite.

Do the opposite of the internal imp: if they say stay up, then go to bed; if they say do not eat, then eat.

Do the opposite of the internal imp: if they want to run or quit, then stay and stick it out; if they want to persist, then it is time to stop.

Do the opposite of the internal imp: if they want to get upset and angry, then you know to be successful in that situation you must be calm and reasonable.

Do the opposite of the internal imp: if they want to argue and fight, then it is time to agree and accommodate; if they want to just agree to whatever, then it is time to be assertive.

2008-09-20

Symbols and signs cannot represent Spirit as Spirit has no connection with things.

Images and pictures cannot represent Spirit as Spirit is not made of images or pictures.

Concepts and ideas cannot represent Spirit as Spirit is not composed of concepts or ideas.

Statues and paintings cannot represent Spirit as Spirit has no form or substance in common with statues or paintings.

Amulets, medallions, insignias, badges, charms, trinkets, talismans, scarabs, signets, crosses, icons, phylacteries, religious objects, holy objects, magical objects, or any object cannot represent Spirit as Spirit is unrelated to objects.

2008-09-19

Idolatry: no thing can worship God as God is no thing.

Idolatry: no thing can call God to mind as God is like no thing.

Idolatry: no thing can be one with God as God is no thing, is invisible.

Idolatry: no thing can represent God as God's nature is no thing, is Spirit.

Idolatry: no thing can lead to God as there is no thing that is with or of God's nature.

2008-09-18

Painting is a dialectic of color and light around darkness.

Music is a dialectic of conversing sounds around silence.

Poetry is a dialectic of image and feeling around singleness.

Dance is a dialectic of contrasting movements around stillness.

Sculpture is a dialectic of concrete and abstract around simpleness.

2008-09-17

Thinking is for direction not doing.

Thinking is for asking not working.

Thinking is for instruction not action.

Thinking is for prayer not performance.

Thinking is for requesting not accomplishing.

2008-09-16

Life is in the experience: you live in-between experiences in guilt and shame so miss the moment.

Life is in the experience: you live in-between experiences in trying and struggle so miss the moment.

Life is in the experience: you live in-between experiences in becoming and striving so miss the moment.

Life is in the experience: you live in-between experiences in claiming and doubting so miss the moment.

Life is in the experience: you live in-between experiences in preparing and planning so miss the moment.

2008-09-15

I want to control everyone, but ignore controlling the only one I can.

I want to control what goes, but ignore controlling my reactions to what goes.

I want to control what comes, but ignore controlling my counterreplies to what comes.

I want to control everything inside, but ignore controlling me inside: my ego responses.

I want to control everything, but ignore controlling the one thing I can: my internal choices to fight, flight, freeze, or accept.

2008-09-14

If your movement is still, then the active movement in you will be handled by the light.

If your movement is quiet, then the speaking movement in you will be handled by God.

If your movement is empty, then the contents filling you will be processed by the light.

If your movement is humble and retreating, then the forward movement in you will be processed by God.

Step back in your mind, then step back again until you have retreated to your movement rather than the movement in you.

2008-09-13

You cannot control what comes, but you can control how you react to what comes.

It is not your job to control what exists; it is your job to control your choices regarding what exists.

Go beyond the good and evil of what is in you to the good and evil of your responses to what is in you.

The problem is not the traffic on the highway of your mind, the problem is how you interact with that traffic.

You have complete freedom to host anything, however, not everything you host is helpful to you or others.

2008-09-12

Resist internal replies not what is said.

Resist internal reaction not what happens.

Resist internal choices not what is chosen.

Resist internal movement not what is moving.

Resist internal responses not what is responded to.

2008-09-11

Resist owning lust not lust.

Resist attaching to desire not desire.

Resist identifying with envy not envy.

Resist being temptation not temptation.

Resist becoming coveting not coveting.

2008-09-10

Winning is losing when: you silence those whose criticism you need to improve.

Winning is losing when: you hurt the relationship by putting being right over peace.

Winning is losing when: you argue with a fool, because you will have to start all over again the next time.

Winning is losing when: you control others to do what you want when you are around, because then they are out of control whenever you are gone.

Winning is losing when: others are afraid to disagree or think for themselves around you, because they wind up sabotaging you to prove you cannot control their mind.

2008-09-09

Arguing is losing.

Fighting is surrender.

Rebellion is approval.

Retaliation is weakness.

Resistance is acceptance.

2008-09-08

Will you still act and think kindly and so like a Christian when: we do bad and wrong?

Will you still act and think kindly and so like a Christian when: we act mean and selfish?

Will you still act and think kindly and so like a Christian when: we want to use and abuse you?

Will you still act and think kindly and so like a Christian when: you are right and we are wrong without a doubt?

Will you still act and think kindly and so like a Christian when: we are doing our best to hurt and sabotage you?

2008-09-07

When I trust self I am: immoral, corrupt, lazy, cowardly.

When I depend on self I am perfectly: stupid, moronic, foolish.

When I wait on self I: fail, forget, err, do it wrong, am unreliable.

When I believe in self I am: selfish, self-centered, self-absorbed, narcissistic.

When I have confidence in self I am: prideful, arrogant, overconfident, egotistical, superior, prejudiced, racist.

2008-09-06

Highest spiritual principle: life, light, love.

Highest spiritual principle: service to God not self, not others, not the world.

Highest spiritual principle: God is the one source for all good, God gets all the credit.

Highest spiritual principle: God is the center not self, God is the purpose and meaning not self.

Highest spiritual principle: give to others that which you want from God, for instance, forgiveness.

2008-09-05

Highest spiritual practice: returning and rest.

Highest spiritual practice: retreating and humility.

Highest spiritual practice: weakness and waiting.

Highest spiritual practice: dependence and need.

Highest spiritual practice: making space for receiving.

2008-09-04

Envy is lust to be better.

Envy is the drive of pride.

Envy is lust to be something.

I envy because I want to be envied.

Envy is the main tool used to sell products.

2008-09-03

Changing your habits is done within not without.

Switching form harmful to healthy channels is done within not without.

Changing your thinking, feeling, or behaving is done within not without.

Changing the outside or environment can affect and influence but not deeply alter the inner.

Changing the outside or environment makes it easier to switch from the negative to the positive, but changing the outside will not correct a pattern of preferring the negative.

2008-09-02

Complaining, excusing, and fault-finding are not skills because all are naturally expert at them.

Whining, blaming, and damning are not skills because all are naturally expert at them.

Encouragement, positive motivation, and inspiring others is a skill that few seem to posses or practice.

Faith, hope, and charity for all others is a skill that only the deeply spiritual practice.

Uplifting, curing, and healing conversation is a skill that is rare among the exceptional.

2008-09-01

You can keep the negative going in the past: make your memory of the past loop by feeding that memory more of itself--snake eating its own tail.

You can keep the negative going in the present: feed it with whining, blaming, and damning.

You can keep the negative going in the future: feed it with worry, fear, and anxiety.

If you did not feed the negative, then it would pass and you might have to find another focus for your life.

So make the most of your negative by increasing it at every opportunity since it is your best: stimulation, excitement, drama, excuse for laziness, method of manipulation, reason to get rescued.

2008-08-31

Be where you are not where you are thinking.

Be where you are not where you are worrying.

Be where you are not where you are regretting or sentimentalizing.

Be where you are not where you should be, would be, could be, want to be, or plan to be.

Be where you are not in your imaginary, delusional, and distorted memories of the past and projected memories of the future.

2008-08-30

Bear the attack but keep your heart for the good.

Stand the negative goal while giving your heart to the positive goal.

Work for you, the problem, and the cause of the problem all to be under the good.

Not only stand the pain and keep your energy for the good, but also keep good in mind for the cause of the pain.

The solution is for all to be under the good, so pray for the cause of the bad to be under the good: do not do as the world does and damn the cause more under the bad.

2008-08-29

No one gets by without any discomfort, pain, or suffering: so why not have it for the good?

No one gets by without any discomfort, pain, or suffering: spend yours on your highest values and beliefs.

No one gets by without any discomfort, pain, or suffering: use yours to achieve and accomplish your goals.

No one gets by without any discomfort, pain, or suffering: refuse to sacrifice yours to weakness, laziness, or apathy.

No one gets by without any discomfort, pain, or suffering: use yours to refine and reprove all that is in you until the best takes all.

2008-08-28

Detach: it's not me, it's not my body, it's not my life.

Detach: I make my self unavailable by realizing my self is untouchable.

Detach: despite their best efforts, it is not about me but only about my behavior.

Detach: my self is never the issue; my self is never the problem; my self is never one of the variables in any challenge; my thinking and behavior are subject to question and correction but not my being.

Detach: take your self out of the subject or object positions; take your self out of the picture; take your self out of the equation; take your self out of the play, B-movie, or drama; let them all continue as they would without you as a player or character.

2008-08-27

Don't think and do.

Do not mix thinking and doing.

Plan and analyze before and after but not during the moment of doing.

You can effectively rapidly switch between thinking and doing as long as you don't combine them.

Thinking and doing support and help each other only when they are completed as separate processes, tasks, or events.

2008-08-26

Compartmentalize: schedule your worry and it will not dominate you.

Compartmentalize: leave personal problems at home and work problems at work.

Compartmentalize: failed family, friends, or romantic relationships are not all relationships of that type.

Compartmentalize: put that problem away for now and come back to it when you have a fresh approach.

Compartmentalize: put that unhappy memory in a box and only take it out when you are able to deal with it.

2008-08-25

Choose the outcome.

See or name the outcome.

Take the outcome you want to heart.

See your outcome overcome its opposite.

Have two outcomes that are the same: one separate for self and one separate for behavior.

2008-08-24

You don't do it, it does you.

You don't know it, it knows you.

You don't master it, it masters you.

You don't become it, it becomes you.

You don't understand it, it understands you.

2008-08-23

It is so hard because it is so easy: you only need to let go and let God.

It is so hard because it is so easy: you only need to float down stream.

It is so hard because it is so easy: you only need to be the container not the contents.

It is so hard because it is so easy: you only need to be passively aware while bearing the ugly.

It is so hard because it is so easy: you only need to bring all to the light and let the light handle it.

2008-08-22

It is so hard because it is so easy: you only need to be silent and still.

It is so hard because it is so easy: you only need to return and retreat.

It is so hard because it is so easy: you only need to be simple and single.

It is so hard because it is so easy: you only need to be secure and selfless.

It is so hard because it is so easy: you only need to be supple and sensitive.

2008-08-21

It is so hard because it is so easy: all you have to do is rest in God.

It is so hard because it is so easy: all you have to do is wait on God.

It is so hard because it is so easy: all you have to do is have faith in God.

It is so hard because it is so easy: all you have to do is have hope in God.

It is so hard because it is so easy: all you have to do is have mercy on God.

2008-08-20

It is so hard because it is so easy: all you have to be is nothing.

It is so hard because it is so easy: all you have to do is nothing.

It is so hard because it is so easy: all you have to know is nothing.

It is so hard because it is so easy: your self is so little that you miss it.

It is so hard because it is so easy: your job is so small that you miss it.

2008-08-19

The map or teachings of Christianity are not Christianity.

The map or tenets of Christian belief are not Christian belief.

The map or techniques of Christian faith are not Christian faith.

The map or method of Christian salvation is not Christian salvation.

The map or principles of being a born-again Christian are not the reality of being a born-again Christian.

2008-08-18

Double: believe I can't and believe God can.

Double: believe I won't and believe God will.

Double: believe I don't want to and God does.

Double: accept that you don't accept it then accept it.

Double: accept that you won't accept it then accept it.

2008-08-17

Planning cannot do it: spirit can.

Promising cannot do it: power can.

Thought cannot do it: living water can.

Wishing and wanting cannot do it: God can.

Memory and knowledge cannot do it: energy or grace can.

2008-08-16

I will never get it that I will never get it.

I will never learn that I will never learn.

I will never know that I will never know.

I will never understand that I will never understand.

I will never comprehend that I will never comprehend.

2008-08-15

I fail God succeeds.

Ego fails vessel succeeds.

Methods fail hope succeeds.

Thought fails faith succeeds.

Trying and claiming fail while charity succeeds.

2008-08-14

Let all my desires come from God as any desires that come from me are wrong.

Let all my actions come from God as any actions that come from me are wrong.

Let all my choices come from God as any choices that come from me are wrong.

Let all my feelings come from God as any feelings that come from me are wrong.

Let all my thoughts come from God as any thoughts that come from me are wrong.

2008-08-13

Love God hate ego.

Trust in God distrust ego.

Have charity in God and skepticism in ego.

Be dependent on God and independent of ego.

Have faith and hope in God and despair and doubt in ego.

2008-08-12

Let your self whine about pain and suffering: do it anyway.

Let your self whine about how hard and difficult it is: do it anyway.

Let your self whine about problems and predicaments: do it anyway.

Let your self whine about and troubles and annoyance: do it anyway.

Let your self whine about discomfort and inconvenience: do it anyway.

2008-08-11

Ego is dead as thought while self is alive as being.

Ego is the self-centered past while self lives in the God-centered now.

Ego is self-absorbed perspective frozen in thought that has little to no basis in reality.

Ego is personalized memory and so bound memory while self is free memory in the free present.

Ego is distorted memory of relationship and-or experience forced to conform to predetermined images and-or concepts.

2008-08-10

You can suffer for ego or you can suffer for God, but you will suffer.

You can have stress from goals or controlling, but you will have stress.

You can have rejection from people or God, but you will have rejection.

You can have discomfort from laziness or work, but you will have discomfort.

You can have ridicule from avoiding standing up or from standing up for your principles, but you will have ridicule.

2008-08-09

Be aware of the life of the inner vessel: this is the heart of self.

Be aware of the experiences of the inner vessel: this is the soul of self.

Be aware of the memories of the experiences of the inner vessel: this is mind of self.

Realize that anything that references images or ideas of you is not you but only unreal ego.

Realize that all trying to or claims to know, do, or be anything are only fantasies about the ego.

2008-08-08

You dishonor and hurt people when you rescue people from their pain because: they cannot develop inner strength without suffering.

You dishonor and hurt people when you take on their pain for them because: they cannot develop boundaries and self-awareness without finding limits.

You dishonor and hurt people when you always soothe away their pain because: they cannot develop courage and persistence without trials and tribulations.

You dishonor and hurt people when you try to prevent or eliminate their pain because: they cannot become mature without learning humility and acceptance through stress and distress.

You dishonor and hurt people when you codependently take on their pain because: they cannot become self-starters and self-motivators without having the experience of overcoming their own pain.

2008-08-07

You are playing god when: you know what life or the universe should and should not be.

You are playing god when: you know how others or people should and should not behave.

You are playing god when: you know how society or governments should and should not be.

You are playing god when: you know how your life or opportunities should and should not be.

You are playing god when: you know what you should or should not have and what you deserve or do not deserve.

2008-08-06

Humility when compared to humans is humiliating, however, humility when compared to God is ennobling.

Inadequacy when compared to humans is impairing, however, inadequacy when compared to God is inspiring.

Dependency when compared to humans is self-destructive, however, dependency when compared to God is edifying.

Helplessness when compared to humans is self-defeating, however, helplessness when compared to God is heartening.

Hopelessness when compared to humans is self-debilitating, however, hopelessness when compared to God is enriching.

2008-08-05

Medical model for support: if people are doing bad, then it means they need us to do more good for and to them.

Medical model for support: if people are feeling bad, then it means they need us to feel more good feelings for them.

Medical model for support: if people are thinking bad, then it means they need us to think more good thoughts of them.

Medical model for support: if people are getting worse, then it means they need us to redouble our efforts to give them more support and strength.

Medical model for support: if people are emotionally sick, then it means we must help them get well by providing love, attention, time, care, comfort, support, and encouragement.

2008-08-04

What are you harboring in your heart: if it is bitter or blame, then it will poison you not others.

What are you harboring in your heart: if it is revenge or anger, then it is destroying you not others.

What are you harboring in your heart: if it is resentment or hate, then it is making you less not others.

What are you harboring in your heart: if it is anxiety of worry, then it is exhausting your time and energy with no positive result.

What are you harboring in your heart: if it is shame or guilt, then it is discouraging and depressing you so not helping but only hurting.

2008-08-03

Less is less stress.

Less ego more self.

Less is more freedom.

Less worry more action.

Less about me more about God.

2008-08-02

More is done by less.

More is burden not freedom.

More is less time, less control, less choice.

More is worse when one understands the principles of moderation, simplification, and scientific parsimony.

More is slavery to: managing things, moving things, arranging things, organizing things, storing things, shopping for things, fixing things, caring for things, servicing things, maintaining things, cleaning things, needing things for things.

2008-08-01

More is invisible than visible.

More is folded than unfolded.

More is hidden than revealed.

More is unknowable than knowable.

More is unspeakable than speakable.

2008-07-31

To seek fairness is to seek oblivion.

Nothing is more unfair than fairness.

It is unfair to composers that Beethoven, Bach, and Mozart ever existed.

It is unfair to all birds that only some birds can swim, and it is unfair to all fish that only some fish can fly.

All talents, skills, gifts, genius, capabilities, aptitudes, and abilities are unfair and would be done away with by enforcing fairness.

2008-07-30

Fairness is sameness and all hate it.

Fairness is a principle that never matches fact.

Fairness must seek less and less for all till all have equal amounts of nothing.

Anyone who wants fairness wants more which will be unfair to someone else.

Fairness is against difference, diversity, variability, change, and all that makes for life.

2008-07-29

Human love: shared lusts.

Human love: shared hates.

Human love: money for sex exchanges.

Human love: money for youth exchanges.

Human love: shared consumerism, covetousness, and-or group pride.

2008-07-28

Objective versus subjective: the objective is reductionistic and the subjective is expansive.

Objective versus subjective: the objective is about the measurable and the subjective is about the unmappable.

Objective versus subjective: the objective is about definitions and finalities and the subjective is about experiences and freedoms.

Objective versus subjective: the objective takes the limits of measurement as the limits of truth and the subjective takes the limits of feelings as the limits of truth.

Objective versus subjective: both deliver entirely different realities and truths as the objective is concerned with the external world and the subjective is concerned with the internal world.

2008-07-27

You must find it within but not from you.

You must drink from your own well but you are not the drink.

You will find the truth within and it will neither be you nor from you.

You cannot find it in the world or from others because it is within you.

You must make your own choices and decisions but not with your self.

2008-07-26

There is nothing but the past: there is nothing that can be stopped to be the present and nothing that has not yet happened to be the future.

There is nothing but the present: the past is gone and the future is yet to come leaving only now.

There is nothing but the future: the past is but a memory and the present only the latest memory facing the unfolding future that is life.

There is no such thing as now: there are only current or short-term memories of the time-taking process of perceiving, which we anthropocentrically call the now.

The verbal can effectively argue any position given its ability to define anything anyway it wants, hence, one winds up arguing definitions and not method and certainly not reality.

2008-07-25

Counseling is about: unlearning what does not work and learning what does work.

Counseling is about: practicing what works more and practicing what does not work less.

Counseling is about: strengthening connections that work and weakening connections that don't work.

Counseling is about: applying what already works for you in some areas to areas where you are applying what does not work.

Counseling is about: increasing the frequency, intensity, and duration of the good and lowering the frequency, intensity, and duration of the bad.

2008-07-24

You can only be when you don't be.

You can only do when you don't do.

You can only know when you don't know.

You can only be in the way when you don't get in the way.

You can only serve the good when you don't try or claim to serve the good.

2008-07-23

You have nothing to do with who you are.

Other people have nothing to do with who you are.

Nature and nurture have nothing to do with who you are.

There is one human nature created by the One.

There is one change possible for human nature that can only come from the One.

2008-07-22

All life is single.

All action is still.

All form is space.

All sound is silent.

All truth is simple.

2008-07-21

You're remembering your experiences or memories as reality does not make them so.

You're remembering your fantasies, projections, or dreams as reality does not make them so.

You're remembering your responses, reactions, hurts, or fears as reality does not make them so.

You're remembering your interpretations, perspectives, opinions, or outlooks as reality does not make them so.

You're remembering your conditioning, ego desires, ego pains, or ego pleasures as reality does not make them so.

2008-07-20

Eastern psychology: Life is an illusion is true when your ideas of life are ego based.

Eastern psychology: Life is an illusion is true when you mistake thought for the real.

Eastern psychology: Life is an illusion is true when you regard your perspective as reality.

Eastern psychology: Life is an illusion is true when you regard your conditioning as fact and normalcy.

Eastern psychology: Life is an illusion is true when you worry about what others think of you as if that could have any effect on you.

2008-07-19

Eastern psychology: Resist not evil is true when you let the light drive it out instead of trying to drive it out yourself.

Eastern psychology: Resist not evil is true when you let the light hear it out instead of trying to overcome it yourself.

Eastern psychology: Resist not evil is true when you let the light push it out instead of trying to push or pull it out yourself.

Eastern psychology: Resist not evil is true when you let the light watch it out instead of trying to control or change it yourself.

Eastern psychology: Resist not evil is true when you--let go, let be, let God, surrender, give up, give it to God, trust God, turn it over, don't interfere, do nothing, drop it, rest, wait, accept powerlessness, remain still, remain silent, passively observe, meditate, stop fighting, stop choosing, stop comparing, stop judging--let the evil and the light each do whatever they want to do because the light will always overcome the darkness.

2008-07-18

Eastern psychology: Detachment does not mean you have no feelings, rather, detachment means you have no ego feelings but only natural feelings.

Eastern psychology: Detachment does not mean you do not care about others, rather, detachment means you have compassion instead of egocentricity.

Eastern psychology: Detachment does not mean you do not care about yourself, rather, you take excellent care of your body, mind, soul, and heart instead of your ego.

Eastern psychology: Detachment does not mean you do not care for the future, rather, detachment means you provide for what is reasonable and necessary and do not get lost in consumerism and accumulation.

Eastern psychology: Detachment does not mean you do not care about the world, rather, detachment means you are not concerned with the petty pastimes and politics of the world but only with what really matters.

2008-07-17

Eastern psychology: No self is true in that you can only reflect the One Self that is God.

Eastern psychology: No self is true in that you are not a god, not self-sustaining, not self-sufficient.

Eastern psychology: No self is true in that you are not the ego images, ideas, and opinions that you imagine you are.

Eastern psychology: No self is true in that you do not have a unique human nature but are the same as everyone else.

Eastern psychology: No self is true in that you have no self that you can change, create, modify, or develop other than ego.

2008-07-16

Eastern psychology: To strive for freedom is to be imprisoned.

Eastern psychology: To seek to be empty is still to be unempty.

Eastern psychology: To desire to be desireless is still to have desire.

Eastern psychology: To condition oneself to be conditionless is still to be conditioned.

Eastern psychology: To pursue contentment and peace is to be uncontent and at war.

2008-07-15

Eastern psychology: How can you learn to do nothing?

Eastern psychology: How can you practice doing nothing?

Eastern psychology: How is doing nothing something to do?

Eastern psychology: How can you do nothing to do nothing?

Eastern psychology: How can you do something to do nothing?

2008-07-14

Attaching to the negative results in just that and affects nothing else.

Attaching to the negative will not end your desire to attach to the positive.

Trying to get someone to attach to the negative will not encourage them to attach to the positive.

Attaching to the positive is not the answer and in no way affects your attachments to the negative.

Attachment is itself the problem in all cases but one: attachment to God.

2008-07-13

Words have no independent use: words are dependent on meaning.

Words have no independent purpose: words are dependent on intention.

Words have no independent existence: words are dependent on context.

Words have no independent meaning: words are dependent on referents.

Words have no independent history: words are dependent on semantic development and deviation.

2008-07-12

I study the good so much that I don't have time to do the good.

I preach the good so much that I don't have time to do the good.

I spend so much time being good that I don't have time to do the good.

I spend so much time doing the things my church tells me to do that I don't have time to do the good.

I work so hard at being good that I don't have time to do the good: feed the hungry, clothe the naked, provide shelter, visit the imprisoned, visit and comfort the sick, provide for the widows, take care of the orphans.

2008-07-11

Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is a path to coping, mental health, and General Semantics.

General Semantics is a path from the verbal to the real.

General Semantics is a path to Eastern psychology.

Eastern psychology is a path from ego to self.

Christianity is the path from self to God.

2008-07-10

The degree of anger is proportional to the degree of whining.

The degree of anger is proportional to the degree of blaming.

The degree of anger is proportional to the degree of damning.

The degree of anger is proportional to the degree of demanding.

The degree of anger is proportional to the degree of attachment.

2008-07-09

Should-looping: looping on what should-be keeps you from doing what you should.

Should-looping: looping on what should-be only results in more distress and stress for you.

Should-looping: looping on what should-be is your real enemy not people, places, things, or life.

Should-looping: looping on what should-be keeps you outer-focused and outer-directed where you have no real power or control.

Should-looping: looping on what should-be keeps you superstitiously believing that your looping will magically accomplish some control or change.

2008-07-08

Tune in to faith, turn on to silence, drop out of whining.

Tune in to hope, turn on to simplicity, drop out of worrying.

Tune in to humility, turn on to service, drop out of blaming.

Tune in to charity, turn on to sensitivity, drop out of damning.

Tune in to peace, turn on to stillness, drop out of demanding.

Tune in to accepting, turn on to selflessness, drop out of attaching.

2008-07-07

Multitask on junk and focus on important.

Scattered equals inefficiency and poor quality.

Double mindedness allows only partial receiving.

Singleness allows you to receive clearly and fully.

Focus equals both more done and greater quality.

2008-07-06

Zero help: there is no help for you other than death and rebirth.

Zero hope: there is no hope for you other than to be chosen by God.

Zero blame: you can blame no one for you get exactly what you serve.

Zero choice: you have no choice but to follow your nature and conditioning and to call that your choosing.

Zero complaint: you can complain about nothing because all you have is an expiring gift that you cannot earn, deserve, or maintain.

2008-07-05

Zero becoming: there is no developing or evolving into a better self or human being.

Zero method: there is no method or practice that you can find or use to better your self.

Zero knowledge: there is no special, secret, or sacred knowledge that can set you free.

Zero learning: you can be deeply taught a spiritual principle one hundred times but you will never learn it.

Zero achieving: you will never achieve any states of mind or being that you can keep, own, or build upon.

2008-07-04

Zero uniqueness: there are no unique human beings though people can have unique gifts.

Zero better: there are no better human beings though some can do some things better than others.

Zero specialness: there are no special human beings though people can be called to do special things.

Zero worse: there are no worse human beings no matter how bad a habit of doing bad things they may have.

Zero difference: there is no difference between humans as we are all of one race as seen from outer space or by God.

2008-07-03

Zero talent: you have no talent of your own, no talent that is not a gift.

Zero ability: you have no ability of your own, no ability that is not a gift.

Zero aptitude: you have no aptitude of your own, no aptitude that is not a gift.

Zero capability: you have no capability of your own, no capability that is not a gift.

Zero intelligence: you have no intelligence of your own, no intelligence that is not a gift.

2008-07-02

Zero being: there is only one true Being, God.

Zero doing: doing comes through you not by you.

Zero knowing: you have no capability to know but only to host knowing.

Zero remembering: you have no capability to remember anything on your own.

Zero thinking: you host thinking and never create thinking anymore than a radio creates music.

2008-07-01

Zero credit: all good comes from God and none from you.

Zero choice: there is no choice only following your nature.

Zero contribution: God is God and so needs nothing from you.

Zero self: there is only one Self, God, you are but a reflection of Him.

Zero entitlement: all that you have is a gift, therefore, you deserve nothing.

2008-06-30

The false Christians teach that you can do Christianity.

The false Christians teach their laws as a way to be Christian.

The false Christians teach Christianity to put you under their laws.

The false Christians teach that you can be Christian by following their laws.

The false Christians teach that you can choose to be Christian by following their laws.

2008-06-29

All great art is produced by stillness.

All great music is created by silence.

All great creativity comes from simplicity.

All great character comes from singleness.

All great action is accomplished by inaction.

2008-06-28

Hard is not doing it.

Hard is trying to do it.

Hard is anything but it.

Hard is upside-down pride.

Hard is what is said only when it is not being done.

2008-06-27

Childlike awe.

Childlike nondoing.

Childlike selflessness.

Childlike faith, hope, and charity.

Childlike purity, honesty, humility, and love.

2008-06-26

Thought can only respond based on a categorical imperative, a match to a previous sort: hence, thought can know only the known.

Thought can only respond based on a categorical imperative, a match to a previous sort: hence, thought cannot create but can only repeat or modify.

Thought can only respond based on a categorical imperative, a match to a previous sort: hence, thought can only know variation and nothing outside the box.

Thought can only respond based on a categorical imperative, a match to a previous sort: hence, thought cannot meet the present because thought is of the past.

Thought can only respond based on a categorical imperative, a match to a previous sort: hence, thought cannot meet the new because thought cannot recognize the new.

2008-06-25

Sadness is good when there is no guilt or shame.

Sadness is good when there is no blaming or whining.

Sadness is good when there is humility and emptiness.

Sadness is good when there are no shoulds or demands.

Sadness is good when there is acceptance and forgiveness.

2008-06-24

I have no self: no self that is a source of anything.

I have no self: no self that is more than a transceiver.

I have no self: no self that can know, do, or be anything.

I have no self: no self that is capable of anything on its own.

I have no self: no self that is more than a blank black screen.

2008-06-23

Do you run thought or does thought run you?

Do you posses thought or does thought posses you?

Do you choose thought or does thought choose you?

When thought says it is you, are you allowed to question that?

Does thought determine what is right, what you do, what you say, what you think, what you feel, what you believe, and who you are--or do you?

2008-06-22

Nothing is what it appears to be to thought.

No one is who they appear to be to thought.

Any evil can be made to appear good to thought.

Appearances are maintained by thought not reality.

The evil always appear good to thought but not to feeling.

2008-06-21

You can't get here by thought.

You can't get there by thought.

You can't get anywhere by thought.

You can't get somewhere by thought.

You can't get there from here by thought.

2008-06-20

Nothing is what you think it is.

Nothing is what thought says it is.

No one is who you think they are.

No one is who thought says they are.

Everything is more than thought can say.

2008-06-19

There is no one in your head but you: when you blame others in your head it is really you that you are blaming.

There is no one in your head but you: when you damn others in your head it is really you that you are damning.

There is no one in your head but you: when you have poison for others in your head it is really you that you are poisoning.

There is no one in your head but you: when you whine about others in your head it is really you that you are whining about.

There is no one in your head but you: when you think badly of others in your head it is really you that you are thinking badly of.

2008-06-18

Shoulds have the capacity to state what works and does not work.

Shoulds have no capacity to do what works or to stop what does not work.

Shoulds are not a problem, rather, it is the misuse of shoulds that is a problem.

Shoulds are helpful when used to state laws, rules, procedures, limits, boundaries, and the like.

Shoulds are hurtful when you try to use shoulds to actually do, control, or accomplish something.

2008-06-17

Maturity: no one is my problem but me.

Maturity: no one can solve my problems but me.

Maturity: no one is responsible for my life but me.

Maturity: no one is responsible for my problems but me.

Maturity: no one causes, creates, or solves my psychological problems but me.

2008-06-16

The law is not of faith so has no power only order.

The law can only be used for trying and claiming not knowing, doing, or being.

The law is impotent, incapable, and insufficient because the law is of the verbal not energy.

The law leads to words, definitions, labels, categories, names, terms, knowledge--not to the unknowable source.

The law is misused and perverted to the point that the law appears as the problem, however, the law only empowers not creates the problem.

2008-06-15

The law or shoulds do not do.

The shoulds or law prevent doing.

The law or shoulds are the way of pride and destruction.

The shoulds or the law keeps me spinning not accomplishing.

The law or shoulds are not the way, path, procedure, method, or answer.

2008-06-14

Pride is the end.

Pride is the payoff.

Pride is the problem.

Sprinkle a little pride on it and you can swallow anything.

Pride is the drive, desire, dream, motivation, intention, objective, goal, aim, plan.

2008-06-13

The self does not breathe the same air as the body.

The self lives in a different environment from the body.

The self sees and hears in a different realm than the body.

The self eats and drinks different food and water than the body.

The self does not experience the temperatures of hot and cold the body does.

2008-06-12

Right wrongly excuses wrong.

Arguing the right is arguing for the wrong.

The excuse of all wrong is what should be.

All wrong is maintained by professing some right.

While the wrong never produces right, the wrong always maintains that it is following some right.

2008-06-11

Its order is not what you say it is.

Its results are not what you say it is.

Its increase is not what you say it is.

Its decrease is not what you say it is.

Its relationship with reality is not what you say it is.

2008-06-10

Separate what you say it is from it.

Separate what you say from what is.

Separate what you say it is from its existence.

Separate what you say it is from experiencing it.

Separate what you say something is from what it is in the environment of real systems.

2008-06-09

Nothing you think is anyone.

Nothing you think is anything.

Nothing you think is something.

Nothing you think is what you imagine.

Nothing you think is what you think about.

2008-06-08

To switch is easy, but to try is hard.

To switch is right, but to try is wrong.

To switch is choice, but to try is stuck.

To switch is positive, but to try is negative.

To switch is practical, but to try is self-defeating.

2008-06-07

Only the bad makes effort to be good.

Effort is doomed to fail as there is no change.

Doing good is effortless because it is of the good.

Can it be effort for the good to be itself, to be good?

No amount of effort can ever turn the bad into the good.

2008-06-06

Sensitivity is destructive for ego.

Sensitivity is not insecurity, anxiety, or compulsion.

Sensitivity is useful for perception and understanding.

Sensitivity will get in the way of coping and acceptance if you let it.

Sensitivity is necessary for art, talent, skill, craftsmanship, and quality.

2008-06-05

Negative is to put an end not to drag out.

Negative is for negation not prolongation.

Negative is for saying "no" and ending something.

Negative that continues beyond ending something is self-serving and damaging in nature.

Negative that loops on itself serves death and destruction no matter what it claims to serve.

2008-06-04

Evil produces evil not good.

Bad produces bad not good.

Bitter produces bitter not sweet.

Unclean produces unclean not clean.

Negative produces negative not positive.

2008-06-03

Mockers and scoffers: have nothing to offer, no solutions.

Mockers and scoffers: only seek to serve their own fame and pride.

Mockers and scoffers: feign wisdom and understanding but have none.

Mockers and scoffers: believe they appear wise when they appear foolish to the wise.

Mockers and scoffers: speak of what they know nothing about as if they were an authority.

2008-06-02

Your self-talk is not you.

Your experiences are not you.

Your memories of you are not you.

Other's experiences of you are not you.

Your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are not you.

2008-06-01

This actor you talk to yourself about: when have you ever been them just acting?

This actor you talk to yourself about: if they disappeared, then who would be there?

This actor you talk to yourself about: other than claims, what evidence do you have that they actually ever did anything?

This actor you talk to yourself about: when do they have time to act with all of your talk about past, present, and future acting jobs?

This actor you talk to yourself about: is a bad actor because they never play the part but are always second guessing and watching their own performance.

2008-05-31

Guilt begets guilt.

Anger begets anger.

Shame begets shame.

Anxiety begets anxiety.

Depression begets depression.

2008-05-30

Anxiety addiction payoff: provides adrenaline or pleasure.

Anxiety addiction payoff: provides interest and structures time.

Anxiety addiction payoff: provides drama, meaning, and-or purpose.

Anxiety addiction payoff: provides a sense of comfort, control, or security.

Anxiety addiction payoff: provides stimulation, a sense of being alive, and-or a sense of self.

2008-05-29

By what voodoo power is someone outside your head supposed to get inside your head to hit and hurt you?

With what can anyone attack you? Do they have some kind of magical hammer that can enter into your head to hit and hurt you?

By what magic have you been reduced to a stationary target inside your head that can be hit and hurt by magic outside your head?

What target of you can anyone hit? Do you have some voodoo doll in your head that is supposed to represent you that can be hit and hurt?

Supposing someone magically makes it inside your head, then how are they to magically find your self to hit and hurt it when you cannot even find yourself?

2008-05-28

Levels of reality (1): the real, the invisible, the unknowable, the source.

Levels of reality (2): perception, experiencing, sensing, awareness of the source.

Levels of reality (3): sensation, feeling, memory, experience.

Levels of reality (4): thought, name, term, label, image, concept.

Levels of reality (5): thought about thought, dialectics, mapping, hierarchical classification.

2008-05-27

The degree of your anger is equal to the degree of your hurt.

The degree of your anger is equal to the degree of your blaming.

The degree of your anger is equal to the degree of your immaturity.

The degree of your anger is equal to the degree of your externalizing.

The degree of your anger is equal to the degree of your emotional irresponsibility.

2008-05-26

Your feelings based on your ego are real, but your ego has no existence other than in private fantasy.

Your thoughts about your ego are real, but you are only thinking of the unreal self of ratings, credits, and debits.

Your opinions of yourself are real, but your opinions are based on what you think others think and no one can think of you as a being.

Your reactions based on threats to your ego are real, but threats to your ego are as delusional as your ego: self as thought and image.

Your sensitivity to ego threats is real, but the dangers you fear to your ego are as unreal as your ego: your collection of subjective opinions of self.

2008-05-25

Some things can only be experienced and not thought.

Some things can only be experienced and not measured.

Some things can only be experienced and not known, captured, or mapped.

Some things can only be experienced and not contacted in any material or physical way.

Some things can only be experienced and not understood, assimilated, comprehended, fathomed, or penetrated.

2008-05-24

When you try to control somebody else's behavior, they get angry and resentful.

When you try to control somebody else's life, they get rebellious and sabotage.

When you try to control somebody else's thinking, they get oppositional and defiant.

When you try to control somebody else's feelings, they get violent and punishing.

When you try to control somebody else's conscience, they get enraged and murderous.

2008-05-23

Communication: If it is opinion, then let them be wrong and say something like "that's one way to look at it" and be done.

Communication: If it is manipulation, then let them be wrong and say something like "sorry you feel that way but I have to go now" and be done.

Communication: If it is information, then explore, exchange, examine, investigate, research, and give freely.

Communication: If it is sharing, then listen, comfort, support, relate, and empathize.

Communication: If it is caring, then accept, compliment, show gratitude, and encourage.

2008-05-22

When is it about you? Never, no one can make it about you because you are not any part of it.

Who speaks about you? No one, no one has ever seen or known your being to speak of your being.

What is about you? Nothing, nothing can influence what or who you are so nothing can be about you.

What is known about you? Nothing, the living is unknowable and unmeasurable because it is not static, not dead, not capturable.

What is remembered of you? Nothing, there is no way to remember a being, because only the behaviors of a being can be recorded.

2008-05-21

There is no person, place, or thing.

Whatever you say is a person is no person.

Whatever you say is a place is no place.

Whatever you say is a thing is no thing.

All that exists, exists in quiet namelessness.

2008-05-20

Is there a limit to how still you can be and still be you? No, on the contrary, to be you is to be still.

Is there a limit to how silent you can be and still be you? No, on the contrary, to be you is to be silent.

Is there a limit to how empty you can be and still be you? No, on the contrary, to be you is to be empty.

Is there a limit to how selfless you can be and still be you? No, on the contrary, to be you is to be selfless.

Is there a limit to how sensitive you can be and still be you? No, on the contrary, to be you is to be sensitive.

2008-05-19

Communication: Do you believe in the power of the positive over the negative?

Communication: Do you still send positive out when you get negative in?

Communication: Do you send out negative hoping to get positive back in?

Communication: Do you only send positive out if you get positive in first?

Communication: Do you send negative out if you get negative in without realizing that only increases negative for all?

2008-05-18

It is a gift to know: you do not know.

It is a gift to know: you never understand.

It is a gift to know: you have no intelligence of your own.

It is a gift to know: you do not have a single thought of your own.

It is a gift to know: you have no insights, realizations, comprehensions, or awarenesses of your own.

2008-05-17

No one can think of you: worrying about what people think of you is delusional.

No one can think of you: people can only think of images or ideas of you and you are more than that.

No one can think of you: no one sees or knows you as they only see your body and behavior not your being.

No one can think of you: people can only think of you as part of themselves, so what they think of you only affects them not you.

No one can think of you: even generalized thinking is fragmentary and exclusive by nature--so thinking is incapable of speaking inclusively, comprehensively, integrally, or of representing completeness, totality, or the whole story.

2008-05-16

Hope is love as it praises the good.

Hope is pure as it is single-minded.

Hope is humble as it never claims for you.

Hope is faith based on knowledge of the good.

Hope is honest as it expresses the right relation of self to the good.

2008-05-15

I will live on faith not thought.

I will live on hope not worry.

I will live on charity not resentment.

I will live in faith not belief.

I will live in hope not doubt.

I will live in charity not judgment.

2008-05-14

Science is science and useful only because science is limited to what is experimentally repeatable and verifiable.

Science speaking about what is unknowable, unrepeatable, or unverifiable is poor religion speaking not science.

Science that promotes belief in nature, evolution, or the universe is superstitious science and not real science.

Science is free to imagine and make any hypothesis, but science is not free to believe in anything it imagines or hypothesizes without being able to experimentally demonstrate it through consistent repetition.

Science that says what its methods reveal exists and what its methods cannot reveal does not exist is the deaf and blind fool who trusts only himself: for the real is always more than what any method can show and much exists that no method can show.

2008-05-13

Belief in nature or the universe is ignorance.

Belief in nature or the universe is blind belief.

Belief in nature or the universe is superstitious.

Belief in nature or the universe is childish religion.

Belief in nature or the universe is magical thinking.

2008-05-12

Nature does not exist.

Belief in nature is pantheism.

Belief in nature is called atheism.

Belief in nature is called evolution.

Nature has no power, no intelligence, no agency, no motivation, no intention, no interest, no plan, no purpose, no proof, no palpability, no visibility, no evidence, no existence.

2008-05-11

The universe is not anything; no, not even the universe.

The universe does not do anything; no, not even the universe.

The universe does not run anything; no, not even the universe.

The universe does not know anything; no, not even the universe.

The universe does not create anything; no, not even the universe.

2008-05-10

You can't think your way to love.

You can't think your way to faith, hope, or charity.

You can't think your way to capability, talent, or skill.

You can't think your way to physical, mental, or spiritual health.

You can't think your way to flexibility, adaptability, responsibility, understanding, forgiveness, or compassion.

2008-05-09

You have no intelligence of your own.

You have no capability of your own.

You have no talent of your own.

You have no skill of your own.

You have only gifts.

2008-05-08

What results do you love? Then love the means to those results.

Love gardening because you love the harvest.

What results work? Strengthen the means to results that work and weaken the means to results that don't work.

Acting strong and kind in the face of meanness keeps me from owning their problems and brings me closer to God.

Having enough faith to live in Christ gives me rest in God and joy in the good of God.

2008-05-07

Accept where your attention is, then redirect.

Accept where your attention is, then let the light dissolve that place to free your attention.

Accept where your attention is, then make where it is "not important" to free your attention.

Accept where your attention is, then make where it is "not about you" to free your attention.

Accept where your attention is: never try to control or change your attention as that only reinforces your attention being where you do not want it to be.

2008-05-06

You want peace, but there is no lasting peace except in God.

You want security, but there is no lasting security except in God.

You want to share and give, but there is no lasting giving except in God.

You want love and acceptance, but there is no lasting love and acceptance except in God.

You want to feel a part of and to belong, but there is no lasting belongingness except in God.

2008-05-05

More God less me.

More time for God and less time for me.

More dependence on God and less dependence on people, places, and things.

More worry about what God thinks and less worry about what I and others think.

More seeking security and peace in God and less seeking security and peace in self, others, and the world.

2008-05-04

Feelings of emptiness are to be accepted not fixed.

Feelings of emptiness are a symptom of not a cause of problems.

Feelings of emptiness are a defense against feeling pain by not feeling anything.

Feelings of emptiness are the result of using the freeze part of the fight/flight/freeze response.

Feelings of emptiness are overcome by learning self-security so well that you do no longer need to hide.

2008-05-03

Counseling is making negative connections where there were positive connections: sometimes you need to see things worse in order to quit.

Counseling is making positive connections where there were negative connections: sometimes you need to see things better in order to cope or problem-solve.

Counseling is connecting the long-term results to your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors: sometimes your short-term results are not worth their long-term results.

Counseling is making connections from areas that you have skills to areas where you do not apply those same skills: skill transference and skill generalization.

Counseling is making connections between problems and new skills: sometimes you have not learned the communication, coping, or problem-solving skills you need.

2008-05-02

Questions do both lead and direct even if your name is Carl Rogers.

Questions are confrontative, challenging, and controlling even if your name is Carl Rogers.

The one asking the questions is in a controlling and superior position even if their name is Carl Rogers.

When only one person has to directly answer questions, then only one person is behaving genuinely even if the one deflecting and redirecting is named Carl Rogers.

When all the questions of the other person are deflected or redirected while answers are expected for your questions, you are the master of manipulation and without empathy or respect even if your name is Carl Rogers.

2008-05-01

If a thought claims the "I" label does that prove it is you thinking?

Is there any evidence that the thoughts in your head are spoken by you other than claims?

Is the presence of thoughts in your head any proof or evidence of anything other than their presence?

Must you accept any thought that says "I" as self or can you test and verify beyond claims of ownership by possession?

How do you determine which thoughts in your head are speaking for you and which are merely claiming to so as to have your life?

2008-04-30

I live still in Christ.

I am single in Christ.

I live silent in Christ.

I am simple in Christ.

I am selfless in Christ.

2008-04-29

Let the light see and your thoughts scream.

Let the light be and your mental noise free.

Let the light know and let your chatter run wild.

Let the light do and let your mind say whatever it wants.

Let the light be responsible and your thinking irresponsible.

2008-04-28

Depression is hopeless anger.

Depression is anger at self for not coping or problem-solving.

Depression is chronic guilt and shame directed at self instead of behavior.

Depression is the hopeless and helpless feelings that results from applying guilt and shame to self instead of to the behavior of self.

Depression is an endless loop of whining, blaming, and damning the self as if self was the cause of your problematic thinking and behaving.

2008-04-27

You can't control my mind, but stop controlling my heart.

You can't change my mind, but please change my heart.

You can't tell me what to think, but stop making me feel bad.

You have no power to make me change my mind, but please change how I feel.

You cannot choose my opinions for me, but please stop choosing my feelings for me.

2008-04-26

Shame that leads to depression, discouragement, or demoralization is bad.

Shame that leads to more social, productive, or charitable behavior is good.

Shame has bad results when it is focused on self, self-hood, personhood, or being.

Shame can have good results when focused on changing thinking, feeling, or behaving.

Shame has results and those results will be helpful or hurtful depending on if you focus your shame on behavior or being.

2008-04-25

Maturity is when you look to an internal instead of an external parent.

Maturity is when you feel no need to be an external parent for adults.

Maturity is when you feel no need to respond to the external parent of others.

Maturity is when you encourage others to listen to an encouraging internal parent.

Maturity is when you have a good relationship with your internal parent.

2008-04-24

Be aware of the hosted and identify with the host.

Be aware of the reflection and identify with the mirror.

Be aware of the reception and identify with the receiver.

Be aware of the contents and identify with the container.

Be aware of the amplification and identify with the amplifier.

2008-04-23

Be aware of chatter and identify with quiet.

Be aware of any struggle and identify with rest.

Be aware of any doing and identify with nondoing.

Be aware of any fullness and identify with emptiness.

Be aware of any movement and identify with stillness.

2008-04-22

You are neither the light nor the darkness but only the place for them.

You are neither the struggle nor the battle but only the space for them.

You are neither the words nor the thoughts but only the place for them.

You are neither the meaning nor the purpose but only the space for them.

You are neither the understanding nor the insight but only the place for them.

2008-04-21

Can someone else's behavior tell you about you or only them?

Can someone else's behavior tell you what you are feeling or thinking?

Can someone else's behavior tell you about what you want or what they want?

Can someone else's behavior be about what you are feeling or thinking or only about what they are feeling and thinking?

Can someone else's behavior be about you even if they insist it is when you cannot be controlling or choosing their behavior?

2008-04-20

Despite all your self-talk to the contrary, there is nothing going on in your mind but noise.

Despite all your self-talk to the contrary, there was nothing going on in your mind but static.

Despite all your self-talk to the contrary, there will be nothing going on in your mind but clamor.

Despite all your self-talk to the contrary, there is nothing happening but the lies that there is something happening.

Despite all your self-talk to the contrary, there is no change, progress, or development but only mindless chatter or much ado about nothing.

2008-04-19

Words say and mean nothing.

Words have and contain nothing.

Words know, do, and are nothing.

Words are not spirits so are nothing.

Words are not beings so are cable of nothing.

2008-04-18

Thought is not what it is about.

Thinking is never what it is thinking about.

Thinking about it is not it, but only what you are thinking about it.

Thinking about it cannot be it, or it would not be thinking about it but it.

Thinking about it is by definition, process, and purpose a different experience than it, so thinking is never it.

2008-04-17

How sad that the host wants to be the hosted so loses being the host.

How foolish that the mirror wants to be the reflected and so loses being the mirror.

How distressing that the amplifier wants to be the amplified so loses being the amplifier.

How unfortunate that the container wants to be the contained so loses being the container.

How regrettable that the transceiver wants to be the transmission so loses being the transceiver.

2008-04-16

Thinking fuels but does not create appetites.

Temptation fuels but does not create appetites.

Imagination fuels but does not create appetites.

Comparison fuels but does not create appetites.

Stress, loneliness, hunger, tiredness, and anger can all fuel but not create the appetites.

2008-04-15

Counseling is when you pay someone to believe in you and it helps.

Counseling is when you pay someone to bring out the best in you and it helps.

Counseling is when you pay someone to teach you coping skills you should have learned as a child.

Counseling is when you whine about your problems and they make you responsible for them instead of feeling sorry for you.

Counseling is when you recognize and accept your good and bad learned-psychological habits, and you persistently work to remove and replace your bad ones.

2008-04-14

Live in hope not worry.

Live under hope not fear.

Live beneath hope not pride.

Live below hope not overconfidence.

Live inside hope not self-esteem/ego.

2008-04-13

What is all this self-talk about what you are doing? You are doing nothing.

What is all this self-talk about what you have done? You never did anything.

What is all this self-talk about what you will do? You never will do anything.

What is all this self-talk about what you would have, should have, or could have done? You have never done and never will do anything.

Your only sane self-talk about your doing needs to be about your: hosting, receiving, resting, waiting, listening, hearing, following, resending, transmitting, magnifying, amplifying, praising, enjoying, experiencing, standing, suffering, serving.

2008-04-12

Anxiety directs you to care but is not care.

Anxiety is not capable of right thought or action.

Anxiety is neither an approach nor a solution: anxiety is a warning of danger.

Anxiety is a survival alarm that lets you know that there is potential danger that needs attention.

Anxiety can be kept alive to keep you focused on the need for care or caution, however, anxiety must not ever be mistaken for or used for problem-solving.

2008-04-11

Anger directs you to action but is not action.

Anger is not capable of right thought or action.

Anger is not a solution: anger is a cry for a solution.

Anger is a survival alarm that lets you know that there is pain that needs attention.

Anger can be kept alive to keep you focused on the need for a solution, however, anger must not ever be mistaken for or used for problem-solving.

2008-04-10

First, you do not accept it.

Then, you learn to work around it.

Next, you learn either to work with it or to tolerate it.

Eventually, you learn to accept and make peace with it.

Finally, you learn either to fix it or to overcome any influence it has.

2008-04-09

If you want love, then love others.

If you want acceptance, then accept others.

If you want forgiveness, then forgive others.

If you want understanding, then understand others.

If you want encouragement, then encourage others.

2008-04-08

If you want to live a better dream tomorrow, then live a better today.

If you want to live a better dream tomorrow, then live a better way today.

If you want to live a better dream tomorrow, then live your better dream today.

If you want to live a better dream tomorrow, then live better in your relationships today.

If you want to live a better dream tomorrow, then live a kinder, more accepting, more forgiving life now.

2008-04-07

No matter how long you study something, you will not have the whole truth of it.

No matter how much knowledge you have of something, you will not have the whole truth of it.

No matter how many perspectives you have of something, you will not have the whole truth of it.

No matter how much information you have about something, you will not have the whole truth of it.

No matter how many thoughts, experiences, or feelings you have of something, you will not have the whole truth of it.

2008-04-06

You cannot practice or do silence.

You cannot practice or do stillness.

You cannot practice or do nondoing.

You cannot practice or do sensitivity.

You cannot practice or do selflessness.

2008-04-05

Trying to be right is wrong.

Trying to do right is wrong.

Trying to know right is wrong.

Be under the good not in control.

Surrender to the good not make or be a source for the good.

2008-04-04

I am inferior, but I can feel superior by finding others inferior.

I am inferior, but I can feel superior by knowing or doing more than others.

I am inferior, but I can feel superior by knowing or doing better than others.

I am inferior, but I can feel superior by focusing on the faults and mistakes of others.

I am inferior, but I can feel superior by choosing work, friends, lovers, groups, and activities that can be used to claim I am superior.

2008-04-03

Satan's workers are the gatekeepers of the law because: those who seek God can be turned from God to the law.

Satan's workers are the gatekeepers of the law because: sin enters through the law by getting you to try to know, do, and be the good.

Satan's workers are the gatekeepers of the law because: those who seek God can be turned away by the impossible demands of the law.

Satan's workers are the gatekeepers of the law because: as gatekeepers of the law they represent God so that God will be rejected by being confused with the hypocrisy and evil of the gatekeepers.

Satan's workers are the gatekeepers of the law because: as gatekeepers of the law they represent the way to God so that the way to God will be rejected by being confused with the hypocrisy and evil of the gatekeepers.

2008-04-02

Meditation: practice "no response" to what you see and hear in your mind.

Meditation: practice "no comment" on what you see and hear in your mind.

Meditation: stubbornly refuse to respond to what you see and hear in your mind.

Meditation: practice "keep your peace" regarding what you see and hear in your mind.

Meditation: practice--be single, keep still, be silent, hold your tongue, active listening, wait, allow, accept, follow out, hear out, non-resistance, non-interruption, non-interference, passive attention, passive awareness, turn it over, let God take care of it, unconditional acceptance, bring to the light, have faith in the light, trust to the light--with what you see and hear in your mind.

2008-04-01

I hate it when others try to think for me, yet, not to speak my mind to them is to betray my point of view.

I hate it when others try to think for me, yet, if I don't point out their faults and stupidities they will never change them.

I hate it when others try to think for me, yet, I can't help giving them advice when I am right because it is for their own good.

I hate it when others try to think for me, yet, I must save them from themselves and help them avoid misfortunes by telling them what to do.

I hate it when others try to think for me, yet, doing what I should "trying to think of others instead of myself" makes me want to think for them too.

2008-03-31

I think I am thinking of others, however, I am really thinking of myself and my benefits or losses.

I think others are thinking of me, however, others are really thinking of themselves and their benefits or losses.

I think others are looking at me and measuring my every move, but others are thinking I am looking at them and measuring their every move.

It is actually my job to think of me and take care of me first because no one else can correctly or accurately, yet, I pretend I think of others first because I am told that is my job.

While it may be true that if I don't take care of myself first, then I won't be any good to anybody else--I have to put others first even if it means nagging and trying to control them instead of myself.

2008-03-30

Christians are the enemy of God when they make Christ into the law.

Christians are the enemy of God when they make faith a matter of law.

Christians are the enemy of God when they make charity just a part of the law.

Christians are the enemy of God when they make the way of Christ the way of the law.

Christians are the enemy of God when they make just professing Christianity the fulfillment of the law.

2008-03-29

The law as an end in itself is evil.

Trying to follow or do the law is evil.

The law cannot know, do, or be the good.

The law corrupts absolutely when one depends on the law.

The law is not spirit, feeling, sense, intelligence, creativity, understanding, compassion, perspective, talent, ability, skill, flow, being, art, or ever what is right.

2008-03-28

The law is a guide to the good and not good in itself.

The law alone is immoral as only spirit can make the law good.

Those whose defense is the law are dead to any sense of right and wrong.

Law-and-order personalities have no moral compass so hide their immorality behind rules and regulations.

The ministers of righteousness and justice are criminals as they betray the spirit of the law for the letter of the law at every turn.

2008-03-27

The fire is not your responsibility, but the gasoline you throw on it is yours alone.

The worst may be served you, however, it cannot mar you unless you respond in kind.

It is not what comes in from the outside that hurts or harms you; it is the reply you give that hurts or harms you.

All your hurt and harm comes from your heart despite any temptation, opportunity, occasion, land-mines, or pressure for it the world hands you.

We can provide you with all the excuses, defenses, and rationalizations you will ever need, but, in the end, hurt and pain is the choice of your own heart.

2008-03-26

Non-knowing is often practiced as knowing nothing so is not non-knowing.

Non-doing is often practiced as doing nothing so is not non-doing.

Non-being is often practiced as being nothing so is not non-being.

Feel the space and place inside that you only are.

Be aware of the space and place inside that you only are.

2008-03-25

Anger motivates well, but anger does not lead well.

Anger makes you aware of harm, but anger cannot deal with harm.

Anger is right when used for awareness, and anger is wrong when used for action.

Anger focuses your awareness on wrong, but anger does not give you the methods to deal with wrong.

Anger is a survival emotion that makes you pay attention to hurt, but anger should not be used to deal with hurt as that is neither what anger is for nor what anger is capable of.

2008-03-24

I am doing nothing.

I am nothing doing.

I am knowing nothing.

I am nothing knowing.

I am being nothing.

2008-03-23

If they feel hurt, then I give them more hurt to teach them not to feel so hurt.

If they feel stress, then I give them more stress to teach them not to be so stressed.

If they feel angry, then I get angry at them to teach them how stupid it is to be angry.

If they feel fear, then I give them things to really be afraid of to teach them not to be afraid.

If they feel weak, then I tell them why they are weak to feel weak to teach them not to be so weak.

2008-03-22

Are you going to cope with what is or what ought to be?

Are you going to live in what could have been, or are you going to live in reality?

Are you going to understand what would have been, or are you going to understand what is?

Are you going to problem-solve what must be, or are you going to problem-solve what actually is?

Are you going to face what is in front of you, or are you going to focus on what should be in front of you?

2008-03-21

Habit is so strong that it is often treated as a disease or addiction.

Habit is so strong that it is misdiagnosed as resistance in counseling.

Habit is so strong that it is much easier to learn than it is to break or unlearn.

Habit is so strong that instilling good habits makes you a good parent, teacher, coach, or boss.

Habit is so strong that it causes stress whenever you try to do something different--even something as simple as tying your shoelaces a different way.

2008-03-20

Habit is so strong that it governs taste.

Habit is so strong that it defines you to others.

Habit is so strong that it decides what you think is beautiful or not.

Habit is so strong that it decides what you think is normal or natural.

Habit is so strong that others with contrary habits seem wrong, foolish, or barbaric.

2008-03-19

Habit is so strong that any loss, no matter how negative, causes grief.

Habit is so strong that rarely can anything overcome it but another habit.

Habit is so strong that many confuse it with genetics, personality, and even who you are.

Habit is so strong that people often give up on change and copout with the lie "that's just who I am."

Habit is so strong that "monkey see monkey do" explains more of human behavior than any other principle.

2008-03-18

If you are seeking the truth it is because you don't know the truth, therefore, you also don't know the true path to the truth.

If you are seeking the truth it is because you don't know the truth, therefore, you also can't know the true path to the truth.

If you are seeking the truth it is because you don't know the truth, therefore, you also won't know the true path to the truth.

If you are seeking the truth it is because you don't know the truth or its path, therefore, you must first seek the spirit of truth: God.

If you are seeking the truth it is because you don't know the truth or its path, therefore, you must first seek the one who is truth: God.

2008-03-17

See it fully before you name it as anything.

Have the experience before the knowledge.

Book learning should follow not precede hands-on learning.

Patiently observe till it finishes at its own pace and time before you label.

Knowledge, name, term, label, and category are all meaningless without experience.

2008-03-16

Am I controlling my thinking so that I have fruitful feelings?

Am I controlling my thinking so that I productively handle problems?

Am I controlling my thinking so that I have helpful self-talk about my self?

Am I controlling my thinking so that I deal with relationships in uplifting ways?

Am I controlling my thinking so that I think, feel, and act in useful ways for myself and others?

2008-03-15

Discomfort is inevitable: complaining about discomfort is its own discomfort.

Discomfort is inevitable: there is no escape or avoidance of discomfort that does not lead to its own discomfort.

Discomfort is inevitable: if you withdraw from society you escape society's discomforts only to find discomforts also exist outside of society.

Discomfort is inevitable: the more you attempt to relieve discomfort with possessions and convenience products, the more things you have to cause you discomfort.

Discomfort is inevitable: there is no compulsion or addiction that can save you from discomfort as compulsions and addictions create more discomfort than they relieve.

2008-03-14

Nothing is or can be a reflection on you.

No one has ever or ever will think of you.

People can think of images and ideas, not people.

People's ideas of who you are, are just that, just ideas and not you.

Stop worrying about what people think because they never can think of you.

2008-03-13

Virtual reality games: all the drama of your virtual reality is in fact much ado about nothing.

Virtual reality games: your virtual reality for self and others is neither sharable nor verifiable.

Virtual reality games: you live alone in your mental virtual-world where even you are not real.

Virtual reality games: the players in your mental virtual-world games are fictitious and any resemblance to real life persons is purely coincidental.

Virtual reality games: you live in your mental virtual-world that has little to no correspondence with the real world, which is why it is known as Maya in Eastern psychology.

2008-03-12

Prayer is filling and fasting is emptying.

Prayer is good spirits and fasting is no spirits.

Prayer is being under and fasting is cleaning house.

Prayer is the way and fasting is preparing for the way.

Prayer is replacing the bad with the good, and fasting is removing the bad to make place for the good.

2008-03-11

Accepting gifts can be a gift.

It can be charitable to accept charity.

Accepting gifts can be a way to empower others.

Receiving gives the other the better task of giving.

Receiving can be an exercise in humility and interdependence.

2008-03-10

Yes, you can love and be happy again if that is your true intention.

Yes, you can overcome an addiction or bad habit if that is your true intention.

Yes, you can overcome depression and-or anxiety if that is your true intention.

Yes, you can learn new ways to cope and communicate if that is your true intention.

Yes, you can love your work, have financial peace, and positive stress if that is your true intention.

2008-03-09

You are neither great nor terrible, but your behavior may be great or terrible.

You are neither superior nor inferior, but your behavior may be superior or inferior.

You are neither great nor terrible, but your thinking may be great or terrible.

You are neither superior nor inferior, but your thinking may be superior or inferior.

You are neither great nor terrible, but your feelings, attitudes, intentions, scripts, habits, decisions, or desires may be great or terrible.

2008-03-08

Trying to be superior so you are not inferior defines you as inferior.

Trying to be superior so you are not inferior puts you on an endless cycle of success and failure.

Trying to be superior so you are not inferior puts you in conflict with everyone else playing that competitive game.

Trying to be superior so you are not inferior creates anxiety about staying superior and depression about becoming inferior.

Trying to be superior so you are not inferior is a false goal as we are all equal and no one is or can be either superior or inferior.

2008-03-07

If you do not want God for everyone, then you do not want God for you either as you are everyone.

If you do not want mercy for everyone, then you do not want mercy for you either as you are the same as everyone else.

If you do not want compassion for everyone, then you do not want compassion for you either as you are of the same species as everyone else.

If you do not want salvation for everyone, then you do not want salvation for you either as you belong to the same human race as everyone else.

If you do not want forgiveness for everyone, then you do not want forgiveness for you either as you have the same human nature as everyone else.

2008-03-06

You can neither be nor do bad, you can only mirror or reflect bad.

You can neither be nor do bad, you can only host or entertain bad.

You can neither be nor do bad, you can only serve or promote bad.

You can neither be nor do bad, you can only receive and send bad.

You can neither be nor do bad, you can only amplify or magnify bad.

2008-03-05

Deconstruct: there is no bad person only bad habits.

Deconstruct: there is no bad person only bad channels.

Deconstruct: there is no bad person only bad beliefs and conditioning.

Deconstruct: there is no bad person only identifying with and acting out the bad.

Deconstruct: there is no bad person only calling bad good and covering bad with good so as to serve bad in darkness, in unconsciousness.

2008-03-04

Deconstruct: it is not me but my thoughts, attitudes, spirits that are at fault.

Deconstruct: it is not my life but my thoughts, attitudes, spirits that are at fault.

Deconstruct: it is not my body but my thoughts, attitudes, spirits that are at fault.

Deconstruct: it is not my appetites but my thoughts, attitudes, spirits that are at fault.

Deconstruct: it is not my awareness, consciousness, or attention but my thoughts, attitudes, spirits that are at fault.

2008-03-03

You are neither smart nor stupid.

You are neither strong nor weak.

You are neither aware nor unaware.

You are neither capable nor incapable.

You are neither effective nor ineffective.

2008-03-02

The self that is not is the true self.

The self that has not is the true self.

The self that tries not is the true self.

The self that does not is the true self.

The self that knows not is the true self.

2008-03-01

To best be someone, be no one.

To best do something, do nothing.

To best be somewhere, be nowhere.

To best have something, have nothing.

To best know something, know nothing.

2008-02-29

You follow out and prove your scripts: life is a struggle means I exaggerate problems, exacerbate problems, find problems, and even create problems.

You follow out and prove your scripts: life is a pain means I am always whining about something and blaming people, places, and things for causing me pain and problems.

You follow out and prove your scripts: life is about proving myself means I am always striving to reach goals but never find acceptance or satisfaction in any of my achievements.

You follow out and prove your scripts: life is about failing means proving I have bad luck and nothing can work out for me but failure even if it means I have to sabotage myself and my chances.

You follow out and prove your scripts: life is a conflict means proving people are out to get me and are always willing to fight and argue with me by my looking for, escalating, and creating conflicts.

2008-02-28

Make conscious: What were you thinking, feeling, and doing when that problem happened?

Emotional results: How was what you were thinking, feeling, and doing helping or hurting you?

Practical results: How was what you were thinking, feeling, and doing helping or hurting the problem?

Challenge better: What thinking, feeling, and doing will work better for both you and the problem in the future?

Predict success: Please let me know how your new ways of thinking, feeling, and doing work out better for you and your new challenges.

2008-02-27

Don't tell: teach by example.

Don't tell: share what works for you.

Don't tell: explore till they reprocess.

Don't tell: influence through integrity.

Don't tell: comfort, support, and encourage.

2008-02-26

Worrying about your problems makes them more stressful.

Whining about your discomforts makes them more uncomfortable.

Demanding things go the right way makes you more out of control.

Damning people, places, and things for your problems increases the negative impact of your problems.

Blaming people, places, and things for your problems increases the power your problems have over you.

2008-02-25

Since you are given what you follow out, then follow out the good.

You don't co-create anything, but you do receive what you follow out.

Just as a radio receives the music it follows, so too you will receive the music you follow.

You receive what you believe when you follow what you believe out with your heart, soul, and mind.

Life is just in that you receive what you follow out: so follow out the good with all your heart, soul, and mind.

2008-02-24

If you don't like your life, then follow a different script.

If you don't like your life, then follow your finest dreams.

If you don't like your life, then follow the ancient teachings.

If you don't like your life, then live a better life one hour at a time.

If you don't like your life, then follow a better life with your heart, soul, and mind.

2008-02-23

Happiness born of ego is happiness born in death.

Happiness born of ego is happiness born in futility.

Happiness born of ego is happiness born in sorrow.

Happiness born of ego is happiness born in darkness.

Happiness born of ego is happiness born in self-defeat.

2008-02-22

There is no choice only following.

There is no reasoning only following.

There is no awareness only following.

The appearance of choice occurs when following is floundering.

The appearance of reasoning occurs when rationalizing following one signal over another.

The appearance of awareness occurs when one responds positively or negatively to what they are following.

2008-02-21

Thought can neither be nor do.

Thought can neither think nor be quiet.

Thought can neither prove nor disprove.

Thought can neither create nor uncreate.

Thought can neither remember nor forget.

2008-02-20

"Why" is pride in imagined ability to plan.

"Why" is pride in imagined ability to know.

"Why" is pride in imagined ability to choose.

"Why" is pride in imagined ability to understand.

"Why" is pride in imagined ability to be responsible.

2008-02-19

My body can be hurt not me.

My body can fail but not me.

My body can be lost but not me.

My body can be changed not me.

My body can be damaged not me.

2008-02-18

Speak rightly: my body is tired not me.

Speak rightly: my body is thirsty not me.

Speak rightly: my body is hungry not me.

Speak rightly: my body is at risk not me.

Speak rightly: my body is in danger not me.

2008-02-17

True nature: the eye that does not see but only reflects seeing.

True nature: the ear that does not hear but only reflects hearing.

True nature: the nose that does not smell but only reflects smelling.

True nature: the tongue that does not taste but only reflects tasting.

True nature: the hand that does not touch but only reflects touching.

2008-02-16

You cannot make anyone right.

You cannot make anyone do right.

You cannot make anyone know right.

You cannot make anyone believe right.

You cannot make anyone follow, understand, appreciate, accept, consider, or want right.

2008-02-15

Being right does not bestow magical powers on you.

Being right has nothing to do with whether or not others will listen to you.

Being right has nothing to do with the right to tell others what to do or think.

Being right does not give you the power and authority you need to control others.

Being right has nothing to do with knowing how to motivate, encourage, explore, and help others to figure things out for themselves.

2008-02-14

Your problems cannot affect you, however, your understandings of your problems do affect you.

Your struggles cannot affect you, however, your emotional reactions to your struggles do affect you.

Your life situations cannot affect you, however, your interpretations of your life situations do affect you.

Your life disadvantages cannot affect you, however, your analyses of your life disadvantages do affect you.

Your life circumstances cannot affect you, however, your personalizing of your life circumstances does affect you.

2008-02-13

Less ego feelings allows more genuine feelings.

Less ego feelings allows more feeling awareness.

Less ego conflicts allows more awareness of your true nature.

Less ego concerns allows more awareness of your real intentions.

Less ego fears allows more freedom to be honest internally and externally.

2008-02-12

I want to be nobody as somebody is dead as something.

I want to be unknown rather than a target for gossip, speculation, and analysis as something.

It is said that a nickname is a curse from the Devil, because you then think you are something.

I want to be a little person, someone who is not concerned with being images, concepts, or appearances.

I want to be as a little child: uncarved, unformed, unbegun, undeveloped, unfashioned, unshaped, unstarted, unhewn.

2008-02-11

You did not create the channel your mind is on, therefore, you cannot control that channel.

You are not the origin for any channel your mind is on, therefore, you cannot change any channel.

You are not the author for any channel your mind is on, therefore, you cannot correct any channel.

You did not create the channel your mind is on, however, you can switch from that channel at any time.

You are not the source for the channel your mind is on, therefore, you cannot transform that channel in any way.

2008-02-10

Life cannot make you anything.

You cannot make you anything.

Others cannot make you anything.

Conditioning  cannot make you anything.

Experience, accident, abuse, sickness, genetics, knowledge, learning, skill development, talent, habit, age, sex, race, ethnicity, body type, religious belief, or political belief cannot make you anything.

2008-02-09

For the sake of pride: you believe in being right over practicing peace, diplomacy, care, or respect.

For the sake of pride: you believe in being right over facing reality, using reason, or using common sense.

For the sake of pride: you believe in being right over negotiation, compromise, concession, give and take, finding the middle ground, or joint solutions.

For the sake of pride: you believe in being right over minding your own business, controlling only what you can, focusing on what you should be doing, or humility.

For the sake of pride: you believe in being right over practicing coping, mercy, understanding, conciliation, tolerance, acceptance, kindness, forgiveness, or charity.

2008-02-08

Charity is practicing helpful communication for all.

Charity is practicing hopeful communication for all.

Charity is practicing uplifting communication for all.

Charity is practicing inspiring communication for all.

Charity is practicing encouraging communication for all.

2008-02-07

Be led by silence.

Listen to silence not thought.

Come from peace not chatter.

What does stillness say to do?

Perform the movements of quiet not thought.

2008-02-06

To be right is to be wrong.

To do right is to be wrong.

To know right is to be wrong.

Only serving right is right.

Only the right can be, do, or know right.

2008-02-05

Men know the space of feelings.

Men know the silence of feelings.

Men have tender hearts and tough hides.

Men express feelings with actions more than words.

Men have more feelings, so men contain their feelings more.

2008-02-04

The worse they treat you, the more they need love from you.

The worse they treat you, the more you need to help them with love.

The worse they treat you, the more you need to save them with love.

The worse they treat you, the more you must stand firm in love for all.

The worse they treat you, the more you need to prove you believe in God's way by loving them.

2008-02-03

I am not capable of the problem or solution.

I am not the cause of the problem or solution.

I am not the means of the problem or solution.

I am not the source of the problem or solution.

I am not responsible for the problem or solution.

2008-02-02

Postmodernism is pre-modernism in disguise: idealism.

You need to practice Deconstructivism and not Constructivism: less is more.

Your mind does work like a magnet, but your mind is never a source.

You can be the space for something, but you cannot create or co-create anything.

Yes, by focusing, praying, waiting, meditating, contemplating, being empty for some good, you can help it materialize--but only because you were a place for it not a source of it.

2008-02-01

Repetition of the right overcomes the wrong.

Repetition of the wrong overcomes the weak right.

Repetition of the right in the light puts things aright.

Repetition of the right done mindlessly will be harmful not helpful.

Repetition of the right with your whole heart, soul, and mind will free you to serve the right.

2008-01-31

It takes work not magic.

The only magic is a change of heart.

Magic will happen when your heart, soul, and mind are aligned on the same goal.

The reliable magic is to practice a new habit until it replaces your old unwanted habit.

The greatest magic in life comes from putting God first, following your dreams, and being yourself.

2008-01-30

Detachment unconditionally accepts feelings.

Detachment allows feelings to freely come and go.

Attachment covets some feelings and fears other feelings.

Attachment conditionally accepts feelings based on how they make the ego appear.

However, people often fear that detachment will make them unfeeling when it is attachment that denies, disguises, and disrupts feelings not attachment.

2008-01-29

Sleep praises action.

Eating esteems hunger.

Drinking celebrates thirst.

Breathing honors fullness and emptiness.

Rest and relaxation worship work and effort.

2008-01-28

Architecture celebrates space.

Music uses noise to reveal silence.

Prose uses words to promote peace.

Dance uses form to disclose formlessness.

Poetry uses images to promote imagelessness.

2008-01-27

Marital counseling: you stop attacking (not them) and you can stop fighting.

Marital counseling: find the loop and work to get each side to stop their half of the loop.

Marital counseling: he rebels against helping thinking she is controlling, and she nags thinking he does not care.

Marital counseling: she discounts him because he pursues so hard, and he thinks he has to pursue harder to make her like him.

Martial counseling: she wants romance to stir passion before sex, and he thinks since she does not want sex he must aggressively pursue sex which turns her off.

2008-01-26

Know self that you might know others.

Forgive self that you might forgive others.

Care for self that you might care for others.

Be kind to self that you might be kind to others.

Be charitable to self that you might be charitable to others.

2008-01-25

Prayer is being under God.

Prayer is praise and gratitude.

Pray to be used.

Pray to be taken over.

Pray to be filled and fruitful.

2008-01-24

Fasting is hope and need.

Fasting is being space for God.

Fast to be empty and available.

Fast to be your true nature: vessel.

Fast to be cleaned, simple, and whole.

2008-01-23

Looping is feeding and attaching.

Do not feed or attach and it is gone.

Retreat until you stop feeding and attaching.

You feed and attach when you resist using denial: what you resist wrongly persists.

You feed and attach when you resist with trying to make it not exist or not be what it is: what you resist wrongly persists.

2008-01-22

When you are emotionally hurt, have ego pain, or feel inferior somehow--you will be choosing to do and say whatever makes things worse.

When you are emotionally hurt, have ego pain, or feel inferior somehow--you will be thinking and acting in a self-absorbed and irrational fashion.

When you are emotionally hurt, have ego pain, or feel inferior somehow--you will be whining, blaming, and damning others for your causing you to feel bad.

When you are emotionally hurt, have ego pain, or feel inferior somehow--you will be reacting from the lizard brain of survival and want to kill your imagined causes of your pain.

When you are emotionally hurt, have ego pain, or feel inferior somehow--you will be focused externally rather than internally where the real cause of your pain is: your taking negative images or concepts of yourself to heart.

2008-01-21

There is no change, but there is switching from one habit to another habit.

There is no change, but there is practicing a new habit until it becomes an easy choice.

There is no change, but there is making an old habit aversive so that you choose your new habit.

There is no change, but there is increasing awareness so that you choose your new habit over your old habit sooner and more often.

There is no change, but there is self-talk that can motivate you to switch to a new habit by continually reminding you that the old habit is hurtful and the new habit is helpful.

2008-01-20

Forget looks, find someone who believes in you.

Forget intelligence, find someone who has integrity.

Forget sense of humor, find someone who is goodhearted.

Forget personality, find someone who brings out the best in you.

Forget money or social status, find someone who honors and encourages your dreams.

2008-01-19

Tired of battling anger and anxiety? Then learn to give up ego and its drug: pride.

Tired of failing relationships? Then learn to give up ego and its game of pride and shame.

Tired of battling stress and ill health? Then learn to give up ego under its new name of self-esteem.

Tired of not getting and doing what you want? Then learn to give up ego and its slavery to appearance.

Tired of your dull, boring, meaningless life? Then learn to give up ego and its traps of trying and improving.

2008-01-18

Non-knowing: self as host of knowing not source of knowing.

Non-doing: self as receiving doing not causing doing.

Non-being: self as no thing, no concept, no construct, no image, no knowledge--but only true being.

Non-thinking: self as vessel for thinking not author of thinking.

Non-feeling: self as container for feelings and neither the author of feelings nor the feelings themselves.

2008-01-17

The self you worry about does not exist except in fantasy: it is knowledge based and not a real self.

The self you fear exposing does not exist except in fantasy: it is knowledge based and not a real self.

The self you are trying to improve does not exist except in fantasy: it is knowledge based and not a real self.

The self you are depressed about does not exist except in fantasy: it is knowledge based and not a real self.

The self you are trying to avoid and escape does not exist except in fantasy: it is knowledge based and not a real self.

2008-01-16

Your self as the knowledge of some habit is a false and unreal self.

Your self as the knowledge of some image is a false and unreal self.

Your self as the knowledge of some concept is a false and unreal self.

Your self as the knowledge of some experience is a false and unreal self.

Your self as the knowledge of some conditioning is a false and unreal self.

2008-01-15

Multitask with your actions not your thinking.

Multitask with your actions not your attention.

Multitask with your actions not your choosing.

Multitask with your actions not your awareness.

Multitask with your actions not your experiencing.

2008-01-14

Multitask with your body not your heart.

Multitask with your body not your soul.

Multitask with your body not your mind.

Multitask with your body not your focus.

Multitask with your body not your sensing.

2008-01-13

You will find your self when you are still: your self has to be still as it is never a source.

You will find your self when you are silent: your self has to be silent as it is never a source.

You will find your self when you are single: your self has to be single as it is only one transceiver.

You will find your self when you are simple: your self has to be simple as it is only the container not the contents.

You will find your self when you are sensitive: your self has to be sensitive as it is an alive being not a dull and dead concept or image.

2008-01-12

You will find your self when you stop trying to make your self.

You will find your self when you stop thinking of your self as something.

You will find your self when you stop seeing your self through a screen of images.

You will find your self when you are content with being the container and not the contents.

You will find your self when you stop trying to develop, improve, evolve, correct, change, convert, conform, or control your self.

2008-01-11

Anger from ego/psychological pain focuses on stopping external causes when the real cause is internal: identifying with negative knowledge.

Anxiety about ego/psychological pain focuses on avoiding external causes when the real cause is internal: taking to heart negative knowledge.

Anger from ego/psychological pain causes you to be defensive and aggressive, hence, this anger causes more negative experiences to be angry about.

Anxiety about ego/psychological pain causes you to be overly cautious and protective, hence, this anxiety imagines more negative experiences to be anxious about.

If your anger or anxiety persists and-or loops, then it is likely your anger or anxiety is about ego/psychological pain and not physical pain.

2008-01-10

Ego/psychological pain blinds.

Ego/psychological pain distorts.

Ego/psychological pain makes one narcissistic.

Ego/psychological pain causes anger and anxiety.

Ego/psychological pain makes one illogical and unreasonable.

2008-01-09

Results reveal intentions.

Results reveal motivations.

You many claim good intentions, but if the results were bad then you better look deeper.

It is not what people do or say that matters, but only the results of what they do or say that matters.

Focus on the results of your thinking, feeling, and behaving till you have right thinking, feeling, and behaving as defined by your goals and morals.

2008-01-08

Knowledge kills.

Define something well enough and it is dead.

Once you have killed something with words, you are free to reframe it into anything you want.

To kill--art, skill, talent, emotion, feeling, sensing, experience, intuition, perception, joy--all you need to do is name it and regard the name as it.

News, law, politics, philosophy, psychology, theology, and all the major forms of deception require firstly the destruction of the real with words and secondly the rebirth of that death with reframing.

2008-01-07

A violin is no more the music it plays than you are the feelings you feel.

A violin is no more the sensations of the music it plays than you are the sensations you have.

A violin is no more the knowledge of the music it plays than you are the knowledge you have.

A violin is no more the experience of the music it plays than you are the experiences you have.

A violin is no more the understanding of the music it plays than you are the understandings you have.

2008-01-06

I don't want fairness I want mercy.

I don't want fairness I want charity.

I don't want fairness I want forgiveness.

I don't want fairness I want compassion.

I don't want fairness I want understanding.

2008-01-05

Grieve your loss: accept and forgive you.

Grieve your loss: accept and forgive them.

Grieve your loss: accept and forgive life.

Grieve your loss: honor the loss by giving it meaning for you, them, and life.

Grieve your loss: honor the loss by using it to motivate you to focus on what really matters.

2008-01-04

If only I can get her to understand me when I am bad, then I can be good.

If only I can get her to love me when I am unlovable, then I will be lovable.

If only I can get her to admit guilt when I am wrong, then I can admit guilt too.

If only I can get her to care about me when she does not, then I will be worthwhile.

If only I can get her to be nice when she is mean, then I will be valuable and acceptable.

2008-01-03

People focus on fairness only when they have less or worse.

People never focus on fairness when they have more or better: they focus on being better.

When people focus on what is unfair they never expose what they already have that is more or better.

No one wants fairness, everyone really wants more or better: fairness is only a way to focus on having less or worse.

People are sometimes guilty about having more and better, so they focus on some unfairness somewhere to feel better.

2008-01-02

The lies you use to protect yourself are vapid, as no one is there to protect.

The masks you use to protect yourself are empty, as no one is there to protect.

The walls you put up to protect yourself are hollow, as no one is there to protect.

The defenses you use to protect yourself are shallow, as no one is there to protect.

The lies, masks, walls, and defenses are all that is left of you: there is nothing left to protect but the protection itself.

2008-01-01

The news serves disinformation not information as disinformation attracts more attention.

The news exploits violence as violence gets attention and attention can be used to sell time to advertisers.

The news survives on exaggerating, distorting, sensationalizing, and exploiting anything that is or can be made to appear unusual.

The news creates violence as the news makes perpetrators famous and that is the reason many perpetrators give for their violence: the desire to be famous.

The news exists not for prevention or rehabilitation, but for copying and promoting dysfunction and dysregulation--because the more dysfunction and dysregulation the more news.

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