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"Daily Dose of Discernment: Quote 5 A Day" 2003
by Kevin E. FitzMaurice, M.S., LPC
2003-12-31
Who and what am I willing to use right now to help and support me in my positive thinking, feeling, and behavioral changes?
How can I use my negative emotions and-or stress to do better instead of worse?
What am I thinking or doing to maintain the problems?
What thinking is preventing me from taking corrective action?
What thinking is preventing me from coping with the situation?
2003-12-30
Add without subtracting.
When I tell I repel and they rebel.
Talk about your behaviors NOT theirs.
Attraction, example, and influence lead peacefully.
Pay attention to the contact first and then the content.
2003-12-29
Disciplined virtue is unvirtuous.
Discipline leads and you follow.
Self-discipline is self-destruction.
Self submitting to discipline is humility.
Disciple is the natural response to demand.
2003-12-28
Virtue is simple care.
Virtue through freedom is virtuous.
Virtue through disciple is unvirtuous.
Right virtue is unknowing and free.
Virtue is neither god nor conscience.
2003-12-27
Nonsense is NOT making sense.
Nonsense is NOT sharing sense.
Nonsense is NOT relating sense.
Nonsense is NOT speaking sense.
Nonsense is NOT promoting sense.
2003-12-26
Life is variability.
Life is NOT fixation but flow.
Life is NOT knowing but updating.
Life is as accidental as it is purposeful.
Life is unfair and neither equal nor the same.
2003-12-25
Values, morals, and ideals help if you serve them humbly.
Values, morals, and ideals help if you let them work through you without taking any credit.
Values, morals, and ideals hurt if you try to do them.
Values, morals, and ideals hurt if you try to be them.
Values, morals, and ideals hurt if you worship or credit them instead of God.
2003-12-24
Worry is negative prayer.
Worry is negative intention.
Worry is a form of whining.
Worry is a negative self-fulfilling prophecy.
Worry is a lack of humility as it assumes god like powers.
2003-12-23
What could I tell myself to do better?
What thinking do I need to change to do better?
What negative evaluations am I making that are making the problem?
What needs to change in me so that I can either problem-solve or cope better?
While life is NOT some magical school that creates problems for me to learn from, I will choose to use my challenges to develop my character, coping skills, and problem-solving skills.
2003-12-22
Whine without mind.
Whine without whine.
Whine without winning.
Whine without blaming or accepting.
Whine without condemning or justifying.
2003-12-21
Whining is too easy.
Whining is a copout.
Whining is immature.
Whining is false drama.
Whining is manipulation.
2003-12-20
Knowing kills.
Knowing ends.
Knowing ruins.
Knowing stops.
Knowing destroys.
2003-12-19
Fame is false.
Fame is unsure.
Fame is NOT honor.
Fame is NOT success.
Fame is NOT happiness.
2003-12-18
What am I willing to do right now to improve my life?
What am I willing to do with the resources that I have right now (current living conditions, finances, relationships, education, employment, etc.) to improve my life right now?
What things, of all the things that I already know that it would be wise to do (eat better, sleep better, exercise more, manage my finances better, curb my spending, listen more, act kinder, practice acceptance, pray more, etc.), am I willing to do right now?
What is in the way of my choosing to make these improvements?
What am I willing to do right now to remove these obstacles to my success and happiness?
2003-12-17
Psychotherapy is more than having a paid friend.
Psychotherapy is more than having a paid listener.
Psychotherapy is more than just having insight into your problems.
Psychotherapy is more than just reframing or replacing your problems.
Psychotherapy is more than having someone to agree with your whining.
2003-12-16
Good counseling recognizes your poor coping due to a lack of skill development, which is due to poor developmental conditions.
Good counseling promotes your development of new skills and the application of old and new skills to improve both specific and general coping functioning.
Good counseling recognizes that your decision systems drive your coping mechanisms.
Good counseling recognizes that your thought-things drive your dysfunctional meaning, rule, script, or decision systems.
Good counseling removes and replaces the thought-things that drive your dysfunctional meaning, rule, script, or decision systems.
2003-12-15
Blaming and damning others (or life) puts others in charge of your life and robs you of your personal power to better your life.
Blaming and damning your being (yourself) makes you worse NOT better.
Blaming and damning your being causes you to serve rebellion, self-centeredness, depression, codependency, and-or antisocial styles.
Blaming and damning your behavior is a waste of time and energy as behaviors cannot be focused on because they are only descriptions of processes.
Blaming and damning your decision system can result in positive and constructive change if: (1) it is NOT allowed to include the blaming and damning of your being, and (2) you learn more effective skills to replace your less effective choosing styles.
2003-12-14
What to change? Not your being--you are NOT God, you did NOT make your being and you cannot change or alter it in any way.
What to change? Not your behavior--your behavior is already done and beyond change or control of any kind.
What to change? Not your ego--that is a waste of time as ego is only a collection of dead judgments based on descriptions of nonexistent behaviors.
What to change? Your process of choosing and thereby your choices and thereby your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
What to change? What you choose to pay attention to and what you choose to identify with--your only real power and control.
2003-12-13
Focus on failure and feel like a failure.
Focus on the problem and feel negative.
Focus on the final goal and feel negative.
Focus on the solution and feel positive.
Focus on progress to the final goal and feel positive.
2003-12-12
To know is to own.
To own is to identify with.
To identify with is to create dead sensation.
To create dead sensation is to create illusion.
To live in illusion is to deny God.
2003-12-11
Hear it out.
Watch it out.
Follow it out.
Expose it out.
Witness it out.
2003-12-10
You are what you know.
You identify with experience to know it.
You name experience so you can identify with it.
Ego is dead sensation pretending to be alive.
Ego is the result of giving your identity to thought.
2003-12-09
Doing better NOT being better.
Living better NOT being better.
Can't be better but can do better.
Learning to do better NOT be better.
Never being better always doing better.
2003-12-08
Nonsense is senseless.
Nonsense is NOT sensing.
Nonsense is without sense.
Nonsense is NOT being sense.
Nonsense is NOT having sense.
2003-12-07
I am to sense.
To sense I am.
I sense therefore I am.
Sense or have no sense.
To sense or NOT to sense is the question.
2003-12-06
Being is sensing.
Being sensing is being.
Sensing is the task of being.
Sensing being being sensing.
Sensing being being sensing having sensations.
2003-12-05
Shame shame.
Shame the shamers.
Shame is but a game.
Shame on you for shaming them.
Shame is the illness so how can it be the cure?
2003-12-04
Now is life.
Be where you are.
Do what you are doing.
You live here so be here.
Here is neither past nor future.
2003-12-03
Selflessness is when the self is identified as being NOT doing.
Selflessness is when one never knows the self as any thing.
Selflessness is when one is neither becoming nor dying as any thing.
Selflessness is when the self is aware of itself as container NOT contents.
Selflessness is NOT a loss of self but a regaining of self through a loss of ego.
2003-12-02
Follow out.
Follow along.
Follow further.
Follow deeply.
Follow to the bitter end.
2003-12-01
Pride in good is pure evil.
Knowing good is the cover for evil.
Preaching good is the cover for serving evil.
Pleasure is the cover for spiritual, intellectual, and material sin.
If you want to know what a religion doesn't stand for, then examine its followers.
2003-11-30
If it does NOT lead back to energy, then stop teaching it.
Your needing to problem-solve does NOT excuse your poor solution.
The problem is the answer when you change the "how" of the problem.
Trying to end the problem by acting out thoughts that are too often, fast, or big starts the problem over.
Do you feel that because you think it or because you experience it? Do you know the difference? How?
2003-11-29
All that glitters is NOT good.
To act mean to the mean act nice.
Memory is a poor excuse for identity.
The challenge is NOT to be challenged.
A hand-up helps but a handout may hurt.
2003-11-28
Empty to be awake.
Single to be awake.
The best music is quietude.
I'm too spiritual to be religious.
The truth sets you free from ego while hurting ego.
2003-11-27
Try NOT to try.
If you must then you will.
Defend against defensiveness.
Disturbance is mental repetition of disorder.
You recover when your motivation is stronger than your attachment.
2003-11-26
I am quiet because God speaks.
There is nothing to do but be still.
Fear no thing but only God and Satan.
1% pride and 99% humility is still death.
There is nothing to say but what God gives us to say.
2003-11-25
When work stops life stops.
Psychology produces sociology.
Equality and fairness are a denial of life.
A beginning for one is an ending for another.
Stress is wanting to change things you cannot.
2003-11-24
Believing is seeing as seeing is believing.
Teenagers conform to teenagers to nonconform.
In romantic love each one is nothing for themselves and everything for the other.
If you want to be right, then assume people are doing what they should NOT be doing.
There is no communication only assertions of what conditioning you want to keep and what you want to change for "better" conditioning.
2003-11-23
Picking on others gets you to stop picking on your self.
To destroy a relationship, be the other person's conscience.
In intimate communication, focus on the contact NOT the content.
The one thing all humans abhor most is having anyone else run their mind.
You do NOT have to give people trash, everyone will get enough without yours.
2003-11-22
Things are dead, I am no thing.
You can be a thinking or a being.
Identify with sensing and pay attention to sensations.
My burden is to know, do, and be self--no more and no less.
Self is still, silent, single, simple, empty, receptive, passive, waiting.
2003-11-21
Refuse to awfulize.
I will live beyond this too.
I won't fall apart without it.
Today is the opportunity of a lifetime.
The past is only a weak influence compared to my self-talk.
2003-11-20
Don't think--sense.
Not thinking but sensing.
Get out of your mind and into life.
Thinking is lying if it does NOT lead back to sensing.
Adults are lost in thought and need to come back to their senses.
2003-11-19
School is one long, boring vocabulary lesson.
School is where knowledge passes for intelligence.
School is where we can keep out prayer but NOT violence or guns.
School is where the study of oneself over others and things should come first but where, instead, it is NOT explored at all.
School is where they do NOT teach "how" to think but only "what" to think.
2003-11-18
Passion over wrong reason is right.
Reason over wrong passion is right.
Christianity favors passion over reason.
Philosophy and psychology favor reason over passion.
Right passion is reasonable, but right reason can be passionless.
2003-11-17
The inner overrides the outer.
The outer disorder mirrors the inner disorder.
Human nature will never be overcome from without.
Revolution needs counter-revolution needs revolution.
Social control is as endlessly ineffective as social reform.
2003-11-16
If psychoanalysis was true, then people wouldn't use it.
If behaviorism was true, then people wouldn't need it.
Behaviorism is the fantastical belief that people learn from consequences.
Psychoanalysis is the fantastical belief that people guide their life based on insight.
People are rarely so rational as to learn from mistakes or to be guided by what they know is right.
2003-11-15
Death and destruction are your twin gods.
You call evil good and think you are covered.
Without intervention, you are the servant of death.
Your question is how to hide death seeking as good.
Your aim in life is death and your method darkness.
2003-11-14
Attitude is all you have.
Attitude is all you need.
Attitude is all you control.
Attitude is all you are responsible for.
Attitude is always dependent on you NOT your experiences.
2003-11-13
Failure is the path to winner.
Failure is the advice to learn.
Failure is final only in suicide.
Failure is often mistreated as fear so causes failure.
Failure makes you stronger or weaker depending on your attitude.
2003-11-12
Self-esteem is self-idolatry.
Self-esteem is self as comparisons.
Self-esteem is the modern name for ego.
Self-esteem is the duality of pride and shame.
Self-esteem is what causes ego pleasure and pain.
2003-11-11
Error is the measure of activity.
A fool is a fool because he won't see it.
Mistakes teach lessons easy to remember.
The fool seeks to justify and the wise to learn from error.
The elimination of error would often result in the elimination of useful discovery.
2003-11-10
Victimhood is often an excuse to abuse abusers.
The abuse of abusers proves your belief in abuse.
Reliance on abuse to stop abuse reinforces and teaches abuse.
We will NOT get rid of abuse by hypocritically using and abusing abusers.
Abuse is NOT an excuse for abuse or victimhood, but only a conditioning factor.
2003-11-09
Whining is baby talk.
Whining is blackmail.
Whining is victimhood.
Whining is depowering.
Whining is dependence.
2003-11-08
There is no thing it.
There is no thing society.
There is no thing the system.
It is superstitious to imagine it gets to you.
It is superstitious to imagine things or people get to you.
2003-11-07
The ideal is NOT real.
The ideal is NOT the real.
The real ideal is NOT real.
The ideal denies the real.
The ideal is the enemy of the real.
2003-11-06
Begin within.
Conformity is insensitivity.
The outer mirrors the inner.
Inner freedom brings outer freedom.
Outer control can never be inner control.
2003-11-05
No thing can make me anything.
No place can make me anything.
No event can make me anything.
No person can make me anything.
Only God can make me anything.
2003-11-04
Human nature remains the same precluding progress.
The best you can do is nothing; the best you can be is nothing.
You can do less and less but you cannot do or become better.
Your way guarantees failure but God's way guarantees success.
Right progress is becoming less and less active and relying more and more on angels.
2003-11-03
Thought can't cause sensing.
Thought can't create sensing.
Thought can't change sensing.
Thought can't correct sensing.
Thought can't control sensing.
2003-11-02
My opinion of my behavior matters.
My opinion of my self does NOT matter.
Other people's opinion of my behavior matters.
Other people's opinion of me does NOT matter.
Only God's opinion of me matters.
2003-11-01
Sensing is no-mind.
Don't mind sensing.
Be here sensing now.
Lose your mind sensing.
Come to your senses as self.
2003-10-31
I will focus on coping NOT whining.
I will focus on controlling what I can.
I will focus on and practice solutions.
I will focus on the positive NOT the negative.
I will focus on encouraging NOT discouraging.
2003-10-30
Do it now or forget it later.
Now is the only time it can get done.
Since I thought of it, it is now my job.
Today is the only day I will ever have.
There is nothing to wait for but here and now.
2003-10-29
I dislike failing but failing cannot make me a failure.
I dislike negative opinions of me but I am NOT opinions.
I dislike experiencing bad but I am NOT what I experience.
I dislike making mistakes but I cannot become my mistakes.
I dislike being mistreated but I am NOT how people treat me.
2003-10-28
I find it annoying but NOT awful and I will cope with it.
I find it annoying but NOT horrible and I'll manage in spite of it.
I find it annoying but NOT terrible and I will learn how to deal with it.
I find it annoying but NOT impossible and I will find a way to adjust to it.
I find it annoying but NOT the end of the world and I will come to terms with it.
2003-10-27
I don't like it but I will bear it and work around it.
I don't like it but I can live with it and cope with it.
I don't like it but I will stand it and make the best of it.
I don't like it but I can take it and learn to make do with it.
I don't like it but I it is NOT unbearable and I will learn to adapt to it.
2003-10-26
I want it but I don't need it.
I want it but I can live without it.
I want it easy but hard won't hurt me.
I want it but I can stand NOT getting it.
I want it but I will make do with whatever.
2003-10-25
No place can get to me.
No event can get to me.
No thing can get to me.
No one can get to me.
Only I can get to me.
2003-10-24
It doesn't have to be fair.
It doesn't have to be easy.
It doesn't have to be perfect.
It doesn't have to be my way.
It doesn't have to be what it should be.
2003-10-23
Where your mind is you are.
Now is the time of self, of being.
Your mind can only be present now.
The best present is to be your present mind.
Being the inner here and now is being the place and space only you are.
2003-10-22
The address is NOT the property.
The street sign is NOT the street.
The musical score is NOT the music.
The prescription is NOT the medicine.
The instructions are NOT the assembly.
2003-10-21
Thinking can't create.
Thinking can't discover.
Thinking can't remember.
Thinking can't understand.
Thinking can't be anything but thinking.
2003-10-20
Life is flowing NOT fixed images.
Life is process NOT the processed.
Life cannot be captured by thought.
Life is unfolding NOT static thought.
Life is alive so in constant movement.
2003-10-19
You cannot see with thought.
You cannot hear with thought.
You cannot sense with thought.
You cannot discover with thought.
You cannot understand with thought.
2003-10-18
You are here.
Here you are.
Be the inner here.
All you are is here.
The here inside is you.
2003-10-17
The past is past so it NOT here.
The present is unfolding so is NOT here.
The future is future so is NOT here.
"Here" is NOT a fixed place that can be occupied.
"Here" is a stream that cannot be known, captured, or defined.
2003-10-16
Energy is doing
Sensation is being.
Thinking is remembering.
Rely on energy by sensing.
Find self by sensing sensing.
2003-10-15
Be nothing.
Do nothing.
Think nothing.
Know nothing.
Sense nothing.
2003-10-14
Change focus NOT thinking.
Control attention NOT thinking.
Follow sensations NOT thinking.
Switch thinking NOT control thinking.
Use both negative and positive thinking NOT either-or.
2003-10-13
Simple NOT pride.
Receiving NOT doing.
Sensing NOT thinking.
Single NOT self-esteem.
Waiting NOT demanding.
2003-10-12
To know self sense self.
To do self do sensing.
To be self be sensing.
Sensing is living.
Sensing is being.
2003-10-11
Sense self sensing.
Sensing self NOT thinking self.
Sense self or kill self as something.
Sensing being NOT thinking self-esteem.
Sensing self is living and thinking self is dying.
2003-10-10
Try to be everyone's friend and be no ones.
The outer attracts the man but the inner binds him.
Marriage without sex causes sex without marriage.
Friendship without loyalty is like work without integrity.
Familiarity wears out beauty before time gets the chance.
2003-10-09
Thinking is senseless.
Thinking cannot sense.
There is no sense in thinking.
Thinking doesn't make sense.
Thinking is NOT sensation but only the label for sensation.
2003-10-08
The way out of it is through it.
The ugliness you resist persists.
Stay with it and it won't stay with you.
The answer is to face your inner ugliness and to hear it out past its screaming departure.
All humans are cowards when it comes to facing and hearing out their own inner ugliness.
2003-10-07
Pick it apart and it's dead NOT fixed.
Pick it apart and it's dead NOT understood.
Breaking in pieces is destruction NOT creation.
To commit the perfect murder, pick apart someone.
Breaking in pieces creates misunderstanding NOT understanding.
2003-10-06
Don't try to know--receive knowing.
Don't try to do--receive doing.
Don't try to be--be receiving.
Being receiving is the answer.
Being doing is the problem.
2003-10-05
Hate hate.
Don't don't.
Doubt doubt.
Damn damning.
Suppress suppression.
2003-10-04
Face it or keep it.
The only way out is through.
Bear it and it won't bear you.
Stand it for what it is and it won't stay.
The only way to get to the end of it is to.
2003-10-03
Whining doesn't work.
Whining doesn't help you cope.
Whining doesn't solve problems.
Whining doesn't make you look smart.
Whining doesn't make you look pretty.
2003-10-02
Journalists pimp conflict.
Journalists serve conflict.
Journalists create conflict.
Journalists reduce all to conflict.
Sign over a journalist's desk: Dirt Wanted.
2003-10-01
Thoughts hurt because you attach.
Thoughts race because you chase.
Thoughts repeat because you follow.
Thoughts grow because you magnify.
Thoughts are the problem because you focus on them.
2003-09-30
To love is to be loved.
To love is to win love.
To love is to find love.
To love is to be ready for love.
To love is to be worthy of love.
2003-09-29
Pride says if it feels good do it.
Shame says if it feels bad kill it.
Pride and shame are the two sides of ego.
Self-esteem is the new name game for ego.
Ego is self as things making you expendable.
2003-09-28
You can seek pride or God.
You can serve pride or God.
You can work for pride or peace.
You can have pride or happiness.
You can have pride or spirituality.
2003-09-27
Thinking isn't but sensing is.
Thinking can't but sensing can.
Thinking won't but sensing will.
Thinking will try but sensing will do.
Thinking will fail but sensing will succeed.
2003-09-26
If it can be put into words it is only words.
If it can be put into words there is little to it.
If it can be put into words it has no meaning.
If it can be put into words it was words to begin with.
If it can be put into words it is only the verbal NOT the real.
2003-09-25
Truth is experiential NOT verbal.
Thought cannot convey experience.
Sensation cannot be spoken because it is NOT verbal.
No amount of perfect explanations can transmit even one experience or sensation.
No amount of perfect thought will ever result in the creation of one drop of sensation, life, truth, reality, experience, intelligence.
2003-09-24
To have sense, sense the sensing.
Common sense is most uncommon.
Common sense is to follow sense with thought.
To be smart, follow inner sensation that directs to follow inner sensation.
Wisdom is to follow sense both with thought of the old and with sensing of the new.
2003-09-23
Thought and belief are NOT reality, but they can point to reality.
Thought and belief are NOT the way, but they can point to the way.
Thought and belief are NOT primary, but they can point to the primary.
Thought and belief are NOT important except as they point to the important.
Thought and belief are NOT understanding, but they can point to understanding.
2003-09-22
Think without labels.
Think without words.
Think without thought.
Think without memory.
Think without knowledge.
2003-09-21
The thought of something is NOT it.
The thought of something is NOT 1% of it.
The thought of something is NOT the perception of it.
The thought of something is NOT the sensations of it.
The thought of something is NOT the experience of it.
2003-09-20
The ideal is unreal.
The real is NOT ideal.
The should-be is always possible to imagine though always impossible to execute.
There are neither perfect materials nor perfect tools, hence, there cannot be perfect results.
To be accurate one only need predict that people will be doing whatever it is that they should NOT be doing.
2003-09-19
The love song is NOT love.
The love poem is NOT love.
The sermon on love is NOT love.
The romantic novel is NOT romance.
The romantic movie is NOT romance.
2003-09-18
There is only one human nature.
Whatever anyone has done you have done.
No one has ever been more of less of a human being.
Gossip is when someone is talking about someone else as if they were NOT you.
Whenever anyone is talking about anyone believe they are talking about you, after all, they are talking about your human nature.
2003-09-17
I'm a grateful passenger.
I'm just along for the ride.
I am neither the ride nor the driver.
I ask for a lift and wind up where I know not.
I know neither where the ride comes from nor where the ride goes.
2003-09-16
Becoming is disassembling.
Divisions of self are delusions of self.
Since God is indivisible, so too is His living image.
Self is indivisible so only ego can be broken into pieces.
If you disassemble people, all the King's men and horses can't put them back together again.
2003-09-15
Thinking can't.
Thinking can't be.
Thinking can't do.
Thinking can't think.
Thinking can't know.
2003-09-14
I will stop blaming others for how I feel when I put myself down.
I will stop trying to make my problems other people's problems.
I will stop avoiding my problems by focusing on other people's problems.
I will stop claiming others control my mind and heart and take responsibility for my own feelings.
I will stop my superstitions thinking that others make me feel and take responsibility for making myself feel.
2003-08-13
Less is more than plenty.
Addition is endless but subtraction soon has a result.
Deconstruction contributes more than does construction.
Construction leads to a life of pretense and deconstruction to a life of purpose.
As a child you are taught to construct self, as an adult seeker of truth you learn to deconstruct self.
2003-09-12
I am single because I am NOT many.
I am single because I am one person.
I am single because I have one set of senses.
I am single because I have but one heart, soul, mind, and body.
I am one and NOT the two of what I should have done versus what I did.
2003-09-11
I am still because God does.
I am silent because God speaks.
I am empty because God is full.
I am lowly because God is high.
I am without intelligence because God is intelligence.
2003-09-10
You do good to be called good.
You do good to boost your ego.
You serve only to serve your ego.
You do good to cover your damning.
You do good to excuse your damning.
2003-09-09
Fix it or love it.
Fix it or enjoy it.
Fix it or accept it.
Fix it or tolerate it.
Fix it or play with it.
2003-09-08
Your effort to do good prevents good.
You can do good but you cannot be good.
You can host good but you cannot be good.
You can host knowing good but NOT know good.
Trying to be right is the problem NOT the solution.
2003-09-07
Arguing over maps will NOT affect reality.
The map is the trap of ego, pride, and shame.
Peace is more important than whose map is right.
Fighting for your map is NOT the same as fighting for truth.
Does your truth serve violence or peace? If violence, it is no truth at all.
2003-09-06
What you serve is what you get.
What you believe is what you get.
What you spent yourself on is what you get.
What you listen to and repeat is what you get.
What you set your mind and heart on is what you get.
2003-09-05
The map is the trap.
The map cannot create the territory.
The map cannot change the territory.
The map cannot replace the territory.
The map is a limited representation NOT a reality.
2003-09-04
Your behavior is about you NOT me.
Your actions reveal your scripts NOT mine.
Your attitude informs me about you NOT me.
You may try and make your reaction about me, but it can only be about you.
Blaming me for your reactions tells me you are weak-minded and unaware of reality.
2003-09-03
Humans are emotionally retarded because they think acting mean will teach others to act nice in return.
Humans are emotionally retarded because they think treating people like devils will make them like angels.
Humans are emotionally retarded because they think if they make themselves feel bad then they will act good.
Humans are emotionally retarded because they are rudest and meanest to the people they claim to love the most.
Humans are emotionally retarded because they think demoralizing someone with name-calling will motivate them.
2003-09-02
Let it be but don't be with it.
Let it go but don't go with it.
Work the wave don't just ride it.
Flow with the wind but point your boat to your goal.
Float down stream but avoid the traps on the banks.
2003-09-01
You cannot try and be.
Trying is the way of sin.
Try it you will destroy it.
You cannot try and succeed.
Trying starts with pride ends with shame.
2003-08-31
All that exists persists in simplicity.
Truth is simple and lies complicated.
Simple is pure and complicated unclean.
The simple-minded fool does NOT discriminate.
Even the intricate breaks down into simple parts.
2003-08-30
Sound requires quiet.
Quietude is deafening.
If it rings true it rings quiet.
If it is done well, it is done quiet.
Music is the relationship of noise to quiet.
2003-08-29
Emptiness is being.
Emptiness is aliveness.
Emptiness is the way of life.
Emptiness is the joy of being.
Emptiness is the abundant life.
2003-08-28
Trying is the excuse of failing.
Trying harder will make it harder.
Get out of the way and let it be done.
When you find yourself trying, take a break.
If you are working at it, you are making a mess.
2003-08-27
Intend to follow the flow.
Resist the flow and drown.
Don't be a leaf on the river, rather, paddle a canoe.
When the flow changes direction, choose that direction.
Choose a direction, but when the wind changes, change tack and go with the wind.
2003-08-26
Unlearning is crucial to learning.
It's NOT what you do it's how you do it.
Accept the constant, improve the variable.
Note the slogans people hang up and know they do the opposite.
If you don't seek your own company, then why should anyone?!
2003-08-25
Still to be awake.
Stop to be awake.
Sleep to be awake.
Serve to be awake.
Silent to be awake.
2003-08-24
Faith because you are quietude.
Hope because you are emptiness.
Charity because you are a baby.
Love because you are lowliness.
Peace because you are stillness.
2003-08-23
I am the host NOT the hosted.
I am the experiencer NOT the experienced.
While my experiences come and go, I remain.
The place and space inside do NOT change so I do NOT change.
The space and place inside are never at risk, in danger, or under threat so neither am I.
2003-08-22
The pain is equal to how much you think the "it" is about you.
What you personalize is your ego and what you detach from is NOT you.
Trying to control others to control how you see yourself cannot lead to peace.
Your images of self cannot be secure for they are always arbitrary and never you.
Making others feel bad is an attempt to control them by controlling how they feel.
2003-08-21
My humanness is never at risk.
No one can take away or effect my humanness.
I cannot become more or less as a human being.
I cannot fail as a human being to be a human being.
No one has ever been more or less of a human being.
2003-08-20
Make place inside for God.
You are the space and place inside.
God will enter when there is a clean place and space.
Is there room inside for God or are you full of your self?
The furniture in a room is no more the room than your thoughts, feelings, and sensations are your mind.
2003-08-19
Only the empty is fit for service.
To understand emptiness be internally still.
Full of yourself, you are fit only for the dung heap.
The higher rests on the lower, so be low as you can't be high except in a lie.
The emptiness of spirit is vibrant life but the emptiness of flesh is a disintegrating vacuum.
2003-08-18
The loss of self is rarely noticed or mourned.
You traded your self for things yet wonder why you are dull.
You worked long to lose your self yet wonder where it's gone.
You sacrificed your self on the altar of becoming yet wonder why you feel empty.
You pursued ego under the guise of self-esteem yet wonder why pride and shame are all that remains.
2003-08-17
Calling the evil good will NOT make it so.
Calling the good evil will NOT make it so.
Calling others bad will NOT make them good.
Convincing others they are bad won't make them good.
Convincing others they don't love you won't make them love you.
2003-08-16
Damning others won't make them love you.
Damning others as stupid will NOT make you smart.
Damning others as inferior will NOT make you superior.
Damning others won't motivate them to be what you want.
Any fool can damn, but it takes wisdom to focus on, find, and bring out the positive.
2003-08-15
Labels as an end is the end.
Labels are tools NOT realities.
Labels are a convenience NOT a contemplation.
To trust labels as knowing is to be a fool's fool.
The labeling of a feeling is the loss of that feeling.
2003-08-14
Mental chatter is avoidance of life.
Mental chatter is self lost in/to thought.
Mental chatter is debate of self as things.
Mental chatter is the maintenance of ego.
Mental chatter is protection from exposure.
2003-08-13
Less is more than plenty.
Addition is endless but subtraction soon has a result.
Deconstruction provides more than does construction.
Construction leads to a life of pretense and deconstruction to a life of purpose.
As a child you are taught to construct self, as an adult seeker of truth you learn to deconstruct self.
2003-08-12
To label is to end feeling.
To label is to end thinking.
To label is to prevent being.
To label is the way of death.
To label is to end experiencing.
2003-08-11
Words have no meaning of their own.
There is no thing society.
Nature does NOT exist as some thing.
The universe is a concept NOT a reality.
Whatever you identify anything as is NOT it.
2003-08-10
The deeper the simpler.
Going in you eventually find self at rest.
Inwardness is the path of both the good and the wise.
Outwardness is the path of both the fool and the worldly.
The journey is inward into sensation NOT outward into form.
2003-08-09
Emptiness is fullness.
Emptiness is happiness.
Emptiness is your true nature.
Emptiness is the first step to service.
Whatever is NOT empty is full of itself and useless.
2003-08-08
Decreasing is the way to increase.
Know less to know more.
Do less to do more.
Become less to become more.
Out of the way is the way.
2003-08-07
I become no thing.
I am no thing.
I know no thing.
I do no thing.
I be no thing.
2003-08-06
I can't become what I did, do, or will do.
Self is so simple it is more important to focus on what self is NOT than on what self is.
What I experience is just that and never me.
I am NOT my hurt or pleasure.
I can no more be what I think than a radio can be the music it plays.
2003-08-05
Meditate on what you are not.
Deny identity as thoughts or things.
Refute identifying with experience.
Resist giving identity to any thought or thing.
"Not self" is the bigger issue.
2003-08-04
Christianity is as true as Churchianity is false.
Christianity is as real as Churchianity is phony.
Christianity is as much about love as Churchianity is about hate.
Christianity is as much about equality as Churchianity is about superiority.
Christianity is as much about freedom from sin as Churchianity is about excusing and bondage to sin.
2003-08-03
Belief may be blind but NOT faith.
Belief is past, faith present, and hope future.
As belief is to fact so is faith to intuition.
Faith is neither belief nor based on belief.
The way of faith is the way of perceiving the unperceived.
2003-08-02
Eastern philosophy and mythology are as foolish as Eastern psychology is wise.
To retreat inside is to make space for victory.
The doing of nondoing is right doing.
Hosting knowing without knowing is right knowing.
To be lowly is to make place for the great.
2003-08-01
Identity is the other attention that is for self NOT other.
Identity is the problem and the solution.
There can only be one identity per being, but adults have an endless supply.
To be identified with your baby nature is to solve the riddle of life.
As surely as a baby has right identity an adult has wrong identity.
2003-07-31
Knowledge is no more wisdom than the name 'apple' is an apple.
Knowledge is NOT intelligence but at best only a pointer to intelligence.
Knowledge is form and form is at the bottom NOT the top of existence.
Knowledge is NOT an end in itself but only a steppingstone to experience.
Knowledge without experience is like plans for a house that is never built.
2003-07-30
If you can't speak from silence, then don't speak.
If you can't act from stillness, then don't act.
If you can't think of self as one, then don't think of self.
If you can't think in emptiness, then don't think.
If you can't be in simplicity, then forget self.
2003-07-29
Stress is mental but can be processed physically either positively or negatively.
Some are so busy talking about being good they have no time to do good.
Character is a gift from God.
Life is perfectly unfair as everything is unique.
Most religion is just an excuse to hide hate behind claims of superiority.
2003-07-28
To be free from any evil: detach from it and suffer its death.
Three steps to freedom: detach, resist, stand.
Freedom is NOT physical but mental.
Freedom is nonattachment.
Freedom is emptiness.
2003-07-27
Try to be everyone's friend and be no one's.
Friendship without loyalty is like employment without honor.
Marriage without sex causes sex without marriage.
The outer attracts the man and the inner binds him.
Familiarity wears out beauty before time gets a chance.
2003-07-26
Follow flow.
Problem-solve or cope.
Anger and anxiety are the worst guides.
Don't do anger or anxiety, instead, treat them as only symptoms.
Never act on or as anger or anxiety, instead, act for them.
2003-07-25
Self cannot be known as a form, label, term, name, thing or it is only ego you are knowing NOT self.
Self is a living being and as such can only be lost to knowledge as knowledge is NOT experience.
Stay out of your mind.
Be out of your mind so you can be your mind.
What really matters is NOT matter.
2003-07-24
Choose being or doing.
Either I am a dead thing or I am nothing.
Life cannot be contained, captured, or controlled with human words.
Form cannot contain energy, but all form is contained in energy.
To find self as something is to lose self to death.
2003-07-23
Things are dead. I am alive. Therefore, I am no thing.
Being is NOT doing and doing is NOT being.
Being is NOT knowing and knowing is NOT being.
You can know, do, or be, but you can't be and know or do.
Being precludes doing.
2003-07-22
Self is safe.
Self cannot fail.
Attitude is often more important than action.
Don't have rules you can't enforce.
Read your own mind.
2003-07-21
Anxiety can neither relax you nor solve your problems.
You are someone NOT something.
To earn--learn.
Do NOT reframe--instead--revalue.
You are a being who cannot be broken up as some thing.
2003-07-20
Insight is insufficient unless it involves the heart, mind, and soul.
The highest form of intelligence is the simple "yes" and "no".
Simplicity is the highest form of intelligence.
If change is certain then there is no change.
Suicide is the only failure.
2003-07-19 last updated in original first to last order.
How much it takes to change whiner into winner depends on you.
Resentment is drinking poison to poison your enemy.
Expectations are developing resentments.
Character is measured by how well you treat those who are mistreating you.
You cannot be present in the past.
You cannot make a future of the past.
Even with worry, you cannot make the future present.
The future is NOT your past.
Carrying your past into the present and future divides you from both.
Worry splits you between your effort and your result.
You are what you hate NOT what you ate.
Making others feel bad to be good is called parenting.
Acceptance is right awareness.
Gratitude is right understanding.
Surrender is right attitude.
Willingness is the better part of humility.
You stop being physically sick when you stop identifying sick sensations with your body.
You stop being mentally sick when you stop identifying with any thoughts as your self.
Happiness is wanting what you have--not what you want. (Said before slightly differently.)
Reacting is doubling the way you are feeling by feeling that same way about it, for example, being anxious about being anxious.
Responding is thinking differently from the way you are feeling, for example, thinking compassionately when feeling angry.
If you need then give.
To get--give.
The only way out is through.
Want one thing.
Acting conquers feeling.
Words have no meaning.
Adults are lost in thought.
Will to will.
Motivation is a parent's primary job.
Care what people think about your behavior, but never care what people think about your being.
Your only job is to get to Heaven. What are you doing now and each day to assure your place there?
To live in God's house you must follow God's rules.
Whose opinion of you matters? No one's. No, NOT yours or anyone else's. Only God's opinion of you matters.
No one can make me anything.
Nothing can make me anything.
People's opinions of you do NOT matter because no one can vote you in or out of Heaven.
Change your thinking and change your feeling. (Said by others also.)
Believing is seeing. (Said by others also.)
You are what you identify with.
What you serve is what you get.
Positive thinking, as in naming what a thing is, is miles below negative thinking, as in saying what a thing is not. (See J. Krishnamurti who said negative thinking was the highest form of intelligence.) This is particularly true when it comes to the self.
You have to give what you want to receive.
What you fight grows stronger.
Detaching the identity is the fundamental solution to problems.
Stand the negative and it will NOT stand you.
Less is more both physically and psychologically.
The purpose of rest is work.
We are made to work.
Work is only a pain for fools.
Working for God is the highest joy.
My attitude exists independently of my environment.
Shoot for the stars but be happy with landing on the moon.
If you are living for tomorrow, you are NOT living today.
If you are NOT living for today, you are NOT living.
The weakling gives more evil than he gets. The weak gives an eye for an eye or the same amount. The strong gives good for evil.
Maturity is doing good for evil.
Doing does, trying doesn't.
Life is more than work, but life without work is both meaningless and purposeless.
Pain is purifying IF you stand it and stay detached from it.
Suffering is helpful IF you use it to become humble rather than humiliated.
If you push the river don't expect to win.
What is the most researched, tested, and proven cure for whatever ails you? The placebo!
Stop whining and start coping.
Success requires failure to learn how to succeed.
No one and nothing can make me anything.
Your road to success is paved with your failures.
You can know or you can be alive.
You can be your self or you can try to prove your self.
You can never prove your self to anyone as no one will ever be fully aware of your self but you.
I am the listener NOT the thoughts listened to.
I am the host NOT the intelligence hosted.
I am the vessel NOT the ideas entertained in the vessel.
I am the reflecting NOT the reflected.
Denial is dangerous if you can't swim to shore.
It is never about me--it cannot be.
Their behavior says a lot about how they think--it can say nothing about me.
It is NOT that things happen for the best--it is that we can make the best of what happens.
Face pain for gain.
Face it to replace it.
My strength is in my weakness.
My fullness is in my emptiness.
Are you strong enough to be weak?
Repression is the suppression of suppression.
Maturity is deciding based on the long-range results and immaturity is deciding based on the short-range results.
Character is doing what is right even when it makes you look bad.
The world favors appearance but the wise favors the heart.
Eating other people's garbage is optional.
Other people's behavior is about them NOT me.
No one will rescue you but you.
No one can rescue you but you.
We have met the enemy and it is deifying and demonizing people.
I persistently practice preferring the positive.
Just because there is garbage outside of you--is no reason why there has to be garbage inside of you.
You can bend or you can break and there are only a few things worth breaking for.
The character of a person is determined by how they respond internally regardless of external forces.
What matters most is the inside NOT the outside.
It's NOT what happens, it's how your respond to it that counts.
The outer no more causes the inner than the weather causes your attitude.
The experience of human nature is emptiness. What is typically called human nature is actually ego nature.
People's biggest problem is their problem with their problem.
Your real problem is your problem about your problem.
Today is the first day of yesterday and the last day of tomorrow.
My life is to survive and be alive for God.
Sadness is awful good.
In the space between having and NOT having--sadness does good and depression and anger do bad.
Change rarely exists but variation is constant.
Life is variation NOT change.
Wealth provides friends and poverty proves them.
Suffering is purifying only when you add humility and surrender.
To use discouragement to encourage is to use gasoline to put out a fire.
A wife can destroy a marriage and make it impossible to fix with one easy trick: be her husband's conscience.
In the end, you will regret your lack of effort more than your failures.
You cannot fail to fail.
Life is energy NOT thought or things.
There is nothing more boring than the bored.
For ego, tomorrow can only be yesterday.
Your present thinking about your past is more powerful than your past.
How you maintain your problems is more important than how your problems started.
No one with a mind is ever bored or lonely.
Stop feeding the feeling and it will pass.
Not the past, but your present thinking about your past thinking about your past is what keeps affecting you.
Commonsense is uncommon.
Guilt and shame deny determinism.
The abortion debate is a debate over whether or NOT to burden a current life or to deny a future life.
People used to work on having a winning smile, now they work on having a winning whine.
Don't know with thought. Don't do with thought. Don't be with thought. Why? Because thought cannot know, do, or be anything but itself.
Believe and achieve.
"Can do" requires "I can."
Jesus Christ is the only purpose and meaning of life.
I think, therefore, I am NOT ego is.
There is nothing more expensive than a cheap attorney.
Commonsense is logical sense.
The secret of life: what you serve is what you get.
Anger is a "fun" way to punish yourself for the mistakes of others.
Science is nothing more than recording repetition to map out stimulus responses.
There are always 5 sides to every story.
If you don't take care of yourself first, you are NOT fit to care for anyone else.
There is no point to correction unless there is there is the possibility of correction.
Correct it or accept it.
Evolution is a magical misunderstanding, misrepresentation, and misinterpretation of the facts of species adaptability, variability, and commonality.
Scientist is the term given to the kind of fool who tries to prove matter over mind.
Science is nothing more than remembering stimulus-response patterns, repeating stimulus-response patterns, and making rules about stimulus-response patterns if repeating bears the same results.
If you keep your mouth shut you will defeat putting your foot in it.
While there is much to do physically, there is only nothing to do psychologically.
A baby expects to be soothed, but a mature adult soothes themselves.
Adults are expert at self-disturbance and inept at self-soothing.
You are free to host anything as long as you only host, that is, as long as you do nothing but host.
Knowledge does NOT do.
Knowledge does NOT know.
Knowledge does NOT get it.
Knowledge is NOT it.
Knowledge has no intelligence.
Facts can't figure.
Facts can't feel.
Facts can't fix.
A bad movie is better than a good TV show.
No one has ever gotten to anyone.
Life is short pray long.
Failure comes NOT from mistakes but from NOT correcting mistakes.
Failure comes from correcting people instead of mistakes.
The secret of success is learning from mistakes.
It is mind over matter as if you don't mind it doesn't matter.
Damning is when the medicine is worse than the poison.
Damning is when the cure is worse than the illness.
If pleasure first, the pain second.
If pain first, then pleasure second.
Happiness is NOT gratification.
Pleasure is NOT happiness.
To change the outer--change the inner.
Faith is trustful waiting.
Thinking can be wrong but NOT people.
Feeling stupid won't make you smart.
People are closed-minded about being closed-minded.
People think their lack of awareness proves their lack of awareness to be right.
Procrastination is the fear of being revealed in work.
Give what you want.
The beginning contains the ending.
The means are the ends.
The mature move from yearning to learning.
You can either persist at persisting or NOT persisting.
To the victim: pain = power.
Be where you are. Do what you are doing.
Quick fixes get you into a fix quick.
Only you can make yourself reject or devalue yourself.
Recovery does NOT take care of itself no matter how old it is.
Without risk-taking you may be existing but NOT living.
Are you a doer or a stewer?
Crap happens so turn it into fertilizer.
Anxiety is a good tool but a bad master.
You cannot be depressed if you do NOT own crap.
As time flies are you the passenger or the pilot?
How am I spending my time on my values and goals?
Am I the passenger or pilot of my fleeting time?
How much of my time did I invest today on my values and goals?
Trying denies doing.
Trying is wishing NOT acting.
Most thinking problems come from crossing, mixing, or trying to make two signals into one.
Most thinking problems come from crossing, mixing, or trying to be on two channels at the same time.
To be something is to be nothing living.
Seeking to become something is seeking death.
The beginning of wisdom is to fear what God thinks of you, and the end of wisdom is to be yourself.
What counts is important NOT what is counted.
Only things can be measured or counted.
Beings can neither be measured nor counted.
Becoming is disintegration.
Damning is turning the living into things, into the dead.
Short-range gain equals long-range pain.
The worst extreme view is the extreme view that extremes never exist.
Find the fun and the work will get done.
The only good thing I can do is nothing and I do NOT want to do it.
When you convince yourself that something is bad the point then must be to switch from it, however, you must NOT really believe it is bad for you dwell on it.
When I make myself feel bad for doing bad so I won't do bad again, I actually program myself to do bad again by convincing myself that that is who I am and what I do.
Beings are living and doings are dying.
Anxiety is to warn NOT to perform.
Do you want to be a thinking or a doing?
Underneath dysfunctional anxiety is insecurity.
The verbal mind is memory.
The action of flesh is disintegration.
Thinking can't.
No self has ever been broken, wronged, destroyed, damaged, hurt, pressured, torn apart, crushed, or harmed in any way--but every ego has.
There is no fear of success, however, there is fear of exposure as a fraud.
I am the riverbank and neither the river nor the ships on the river.
To be free of pain--free others of pain.
The best present is the present.
No one can control, create, change, or recreate your self but God.
I feel when I think.
Therapist soothing does NOT help like self-soothing training.
You can fight the waves and drown or ride the waves and learn.
You can fight the current and fail or ride the current and win.
The worst judgment is the judgment that judgment is wrong.
Pure sophistry is to say it is bad to label anything as good or bad.
Spend your time--what else can you do with it!?
Happiness is still the best revenge.
The purpose of life is to perform purposely.
How is your negative attitude supposed to either help or correct their negative attitude?
There are exceptions to everything--including this.
The worst absolutism is that there are no correct absolutisms.
Mind over matter only mind doesn't matter.
Mind over matter only mind is matter.
Mind over matter only mind is the matter.
Negative does NOT cure negative.
Sickness no more cures illness than hate cures damning.
If your goal is to make me act like a saint, then why are you trying to make me feel like a devil?
Companionship outlasts friendship which outlasts romance which outlasts infatuation.
Anxiety can neither fix nor figure out the potential problem it can only point to.
No one has ever had so much as even a little bit of an effect on your self.
Self-esteem steals souls.
Anxiety cannot provide security.
Role failure does NOT equal person failure.
2003-07-07: Start Date
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