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"Daily Dose of Discernment: Quote 5 A Day" 2009-10
by Kevin E. FitzMaurice, M.S., LPC
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2010-03-12
If the start is poison claiming to be good, then you prove it is still poison by the finish being poison.
If the means is derision claiming to be helpful, then you prove it is still destruction by the end being destruction.
If the method is malicious claiming to be nice, then you prove it is still malicious by the result being harmful.
If the order is venomous claming to be healthy, then you prove it is still venomous by the outcome being sickness.
If the procedure is toxic claming to be positive, then you prove it is still toxic by the product being toxic.
2010-03-11
If the start is poison hiding behind morality, then the finish is still poison.
If the means is derision hiding behind conscience, then the end is still destruction.
If the method is malicious hiding behind virtue, then the result is still harmful.
If the order is venomous hiding behind righteousness, then the outcome is still sickness.
If the procedure is toxic hiding behind ethics, then the product is still toxic.
2010-03-10
If the start is poison, then the finish is poison.
If the means is derision, then the end is destruction.
If the method is malicious, then the result is harmful.
If the order is venomous, then the outcome is sickness.
If the procedure is toxic, then the product is toxic.
2010-03-09
The start is the finish.
The means is the end.
The method is the result.
The order is the outcome.
The procedure is the product.
2010-03-08
There is only one desirable result for self-damning: self-destruction as things.
Hypercritical people and thoughts have one aim: to break you into being like them.
Listening to the critical one becomes critical: in order to cope with the critical one becomes its slave.
The consequences of valuing self-damning are death and destruction that one then escapes through other-damning.
Death and destruction breed death and destruction and though they hide behind values, moral, ideals, conscience, or some high notion--the purpose is the method.
2010-03-07
If knowing attempts to do any task, then that task must fail.
If knowing attempts to be anything, then that thing will not be.
If knowing attempts to teach anything, then that thing will not be learned.
If knowing attempts to practice anything, then that thing will be practiced wrongly.
If knowing attempts to understand any practice, then that practice will be misunderstood.
2010-03-06
If you try to be with knowing, then you are not.
If you try to do with knowing, then you do not.
If you try to know with knowing, then you do not know.
If you try to respond with knowing, then you do not respond to reality.
If you try to communicate with knowing, then you do not communicate.
2010-03-05
Respond from peace to inner conflict while hoping in God.
Respond from silence to inner chatter while waiting on God.
Respond from stillness to inner demands while resting on God.
Respond from forgiveness to inner damning while trusting in God.
Respond by turning the other cheek to inner attacks while having charity for God.
2010-03-04
Self is lost not known through customs, habits, traditions.
Self is lost not known through appearances, masks, roles.
Self is lost not known through comparisons, ratings, evaluations, judgments.
Self is lost not known through possessions, collections, heirlooms, histories, genealogies.
Self is lost not known through titles, names, categorizations, classifications, astrological charts, personality tests, personality profile systems, typing.
2010-03-03
Accept your first choice no matter how wrong, then simply switch to your second choice.
Face your ugly thoughts, feelings, and intentions: then resist by choosing to choose again.
Be aware of your foolish first choice regarding thinking, feeling, and acting: then choose to choose again.
Do not fight or struggle with your first choice: you will only make yourself stuck and wind up saying it is hard to change.
Do not try to change or control your first choice: you will only strengthen your first choice and become discouraged by your failure.
2010-03-02
The less you think about your self, the more you can have your self.
Self is so simple that it is easily missed and hard to find in the woods of words.
Think about your behavior, thoughts, feelings, and habits, but there is not much to think of self.
The experience of self is lost to names, definitions, descriptions, feelings as is any experience.
Less is more when it comes to ego, pride, self-esteem, self-love, or anything that puffs up or centers the self.
2010-03-01
You can worship God or science, but you will worship.
You can blindly believe in God or nature, but you will blindly believe.
You will have faith in emotion or reason, but you will have faith.
You will have hope in God or man, but you will have hope.
You will have charity for God or science, but you will have charity.
2010-02-28
To be true to yourself: Stay aware of what you really think and feel and whether it is safe or prudent to share or not.
To be true to yourself: Stay aware of what you really think and feel whether others are open to or interested in it or not.
To be true to yourself: Stay aware of what you really think and feel whether it is what you should be thinking or feeling or not.
To be true to yourself: Stay aware of what you really think and feel and those few who you can make safe contact with on that level.
To be true to yourself: Stay aware of what you really think and feel and whether it is going to fit with your career choice, mate choice, society choice, housing choice, worship choice.
2010-02-27
Little children think money is a tool not an end.
Little children think careers and roles are fun not who they are.
Little children think houses, cars, and clothes are toys not self-worth.
Little children think different appearances are a game not who they are.
Little children think titles, professional designations, and names are possessions not who they are.
2010-02-26
It simply does not occur to little children to make life about themselves.
It simply does not occur to little children to think of themselves, but only of their behavior.
It simply does not occur to little children to personalize or make events about themselves.
It simply does not occur to little children to attach their identity to people, places, or things.
It simply does not occur to little children to think in the narcissistic and self-centered way that adults do about who and what they are.
2010-02-25
It simply does not occur to little children to attach their self-worth to their behavior.
It simply does not occur to little children to attach their self-worth to their appearance.
It simply does not occur to little children to attach their self-worth to their experiences.
It simply does not occur to little children to attach their self-worth to their possessions.
It simply does not occur to little children to attach their self-worth to their approval rating.
2010-02-24
Little children do not worry about how their behavior will make them look, but adults do.
Little children do not worry if they appear stupid unlike adults, but the little child does care if their behavior is stupid.
Little children do not worry if they appear defective unlike adults, but the little child does care if their behavior is defective.
Little children do not worry if they appear worthless unlike adults, but the little child does care if their behavior is worthless.
Little children do not worry if they appear rejected unlike adults, but the little child does care if their company or time is rejected.
2010-02-23
Live today: Remember the past to learn from it, but don't live in the past.
Live today: Plan for the future to make the most of it, but don't live in the future.
Live today: Have dreams and goals for positive motivation, but don't live in dreams or goals.
Live today: Enjoy fantasy and whimsy, but don't live in fantasy.
Live today: Enjoy some nostalgia or sentiment, but don't live in nostalgia.
2010-02-22
When you touch silk, do not try to touch the silk outside your body, instead, touch the silk within.
When you taste food, do not try to taste the food outside your body, instead, taste the food within.
When you see beauty, do not try to see the beauty outside your body, instead, see the beauty source within.
When you smell perfume, do not try to taste the food outside your body, instead, smell the perfume coming from within.
When you hear music, do not try to hear the music outside your body, instead, listen to the music source coming from within.
2010-02-21
Self-parenting: Can your correct yourself out of compassion?
Self-parenting: Can you expect and demand things from yourself out of love?
Self-parenting: Can you say "no" to yourself or delay gratification with kindness?
Self-parenting: Can you redirect yourself to more productive behaviors peacefully?
Self-parenting: Can you set boundaries and limits with yourself in an encouraging way?
2010-02-20
The best teachers learn more than their students.
The best teachers help students learn how to think not what to think.
The best teachers encourage and help students to figure out and find answers for themselves.
The best teachers worry not about memorization but only about process, that is, helping develop critical reasoning ability rather than fact recall.
The best teachers act as a--resource, advisor, counselor, guide, coach, adventurer, explorer, encourager, experimenter, risk taker--not as an encyclopedia, the one who is right, or the one who is better.
2010-02-19
Focusing on your negative keeps you from focusing on problem-solving and coping.
Focusing on your negative and your need to be rid of your negative only increases both.
Focusing on your negative need as a source that needs fixing makes you incapable of receiving any fix.
Focusing on your negative as both the problem and the source for a solution increases the problem and decreases the solution.
Your negative was only a source for a solution when you were a baby and all you could do was whine for what you wanted and hope to be rescued.
2010-02-18
The best overcome the worst.
The positive overcome the negative.
The heroic overcome the negative for the positive.
The wise are driven to the positive by the negative.
The great are challenged and motivated to the positive by the negative.
2010-02-17
There is no point in teaching people as they learn nothing but words.
There is no point in teaching people as they remember nothing but words.
There is no point in teaching people as they understand nothing but words.
There is no point in teaching people as they practice nothing but words.
There is no point in teaching people as they apply nothing but words.
2010-02-16
Resistance is futile as resistance is failure.
Resistance is futile as you do not resist choosing but resist the object of choice.
Resistance is futile as you do not resist giving your identity but resist the object of identity.
Resistance is futile as you do not resist giving your attention but resist the object of attention.
Resistance is futile as you do not resist giving your heart or mind but resist the object of receiving.
2010-02-15
The names and ideas of foods will not feed the hungry.
The thinking and imaging of foods will not feed the hungry.
The labeling and classification of foods will not feed the hungry.
The descriptions and definitions of foods will not feed the hungry.
Not songs of foods, pictures of foods, sculptures of foods, drawings of foods, representations for foods, plans for foods, designs for foods, visualizations of foods, dreams for foods, goals for foods, meanings for foods, purposes for foods, intentions for foods--no nothing but food will feed the hungry.
2010-02-14
Help others get what they want to get what you want.
Help your children get what they want to be a parent they want to turn to.
Help your employees get what they want so they want to help your company get what it wants.
Help your citizens get what they want and they will want to help your government get what it wants.
Help not thwart others as long as what they want is not illegal, immoral, unethical, or hazardous--and they will honor you.
2010-02-13
The "I" in your head is not you speaking.
You are never the one speaking in your mind.
Hypnotized by "I" you feel it to be you when it is no one.
The voices or so-called thoughts in your head are not yours.
When you talk to yourself in your head there are many things going on: who is talking, who is listening, who is evaluating, who is comparing, who is recording, who is storing, who is reacting?
2010-02-12
Your problem about your problem is your worse problem.
How you respond to your problem is more important than your problem.
The worse your problems the more you need solutions which come from encouragement and positive thinking not discouragement and negative thinking.
Your problem is your chance to continue practicing self-defeating thoughts, feelings, and behaviors--or your change to learn helpful positive thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
Your problem is your opportunity to learn how you self-defeat and how you can be more proactive in short-circuiting your self-defeating tendencies like discouragement, whining, blaming, self-damning.
2010-02-11
Your foibles and failings show that you were under the negative and so need more positive and not moronically more negative.
Learn from your errors and mistakes that you need to switch from the negative to the positive not add more negative to make things worse.
Failing means you need to be under the positive more not the negative, because being under the negative caused your failure in the first place.
Learn from your defects and deficiencies that you need to compensate for them with more positive and not guarantee your self-defeat with more negative.
Learn from your shortcomings and weaknesses that you need more positive to make up for them and not more negative to ensure their negative interference and results.
2010-02-10
The past has supernatural, magical, and ESP powers to make it weigh on me today.
The future has supernatural, magical, and ESP powers to make it weigh on me today.
Present problems have supernatural, magical, and ESP powers to make them weigh on me all day.
My past, present, and future relationships all have supernatural, magical, and ESP powers to make them weigh on me today and everyday.
No one can expect me to be responsible for my mind and heart with such powers controlling what I think and feel.
2010-02-09
The secret of life is not the lie that your thoughts convert life, but that you will get what you serve.
The secret of life is not the lie that your thoughts change life, but that you must give what you want.
The secret of life is not the lie that your thoughts cause life, but that you must give positive for negative.
The secret of life is not the lie that your thoughts create life, but that your mind works like a magnet not a creator.
The secret of life is not the lie that your thoughts control life, but that you must do what you love or love what you do.
2010-02-08
The life challenge is to always respond to the negative with the positive.
The right challenge is to always respond to the negative with the positive.
The adult challenge is to always respond to the negative with the positive.
The healthy challenge is to always respond to the negative with the positive.
The curative challenge is to always respond to the negative with the positive.
2010-02-07
Stay fragile and frail with abstract thinking, art, and God, but end it with people.
Stay overly sensitive with abstract thinking, art, and God, but end it with people.
Stay broken and unsure with abstract thinking, art, and God, but end it with people.
Stay weak and vulnerable with abstract thinking, art, and God, but end it with people.
Stay open and transparent with abstract thinking, art, and God, but end it with unsafe people.
2010-02-06
Is it more important to be right or is it more important to do right?
Is it more important to be right or is it more important to feel right?
Is it more important to be right or is it more important to think right?
Is it more important to be right or is it more important to help others feel right?
Is it more important to be right or is it more important not to hurt the relationship?
2010-02-05
"If only…" claims to be the solution but is the problem.
"If only…" claims to be the solution but only maintains the problem of blame.
"If only…" claims to be the solution but only maintains the problem of whining.
"If only…" claims to be the solution but only maintains the problem of damning.
"If only…" claims to be the solution but only maintains the problem of not taking responsibility for your life.
2010-02-04
Get out of the way: Let the bat hit the ball.
Get out of the way: Let the music move your feet.
Get out of the way: Let your muse write the poem.
Get out of the way: Let your fingers do the knitting.
Get out of the way: Let the brush paint the painting.
2010-02-03
Relationship matching: You are going to pick someone with either the same or the opposite self-talk.
Relationship matching: If your self-talk is mainly parental and you pick someone whose self-talk is also mainly parental, then you must learn to negotiate, accept different points of view, and divide up responsibilities.
Relationship matching: If your self-talk is mainly parental and you pick someone whose self-talk is mainly childlike or vice versa, then you must learn to take the best from each other for balance and to choose against the worst in yourselves such as controlling from the parent and manipulation from the child.
Relationship matching: If your self-talk is mainly childlike and you pick someone else whose self-talk is also mainly childlike, then you must learn to soothe and comfort each other as well as to seek outside systems to motivate, direct, and hold you accountable.
Relationship matching: If your self-talk is mainly the same as another's, then you must avoid arguments as both will be right and wrong at the same time in mirror fashion causing an infinite negative-loop.
Relationship matching: If your self-talk is mainly the opposite from another's, then you must avoid being too narrow-minded, judgmental, and sure that you are right or you will miss the value of the other's style and perspective while hurting and distancing them.
2010-02-02
Stuck in a relationship: You will not fix them so stop whining.
Stuck in a relationship: You will not leave them so stop blaming.
Stuck in a relationship: You will not murder them so stop damning.
Stuck in a relationship: You will not drive them away so stop whining, blaming, and damning.
Stuck in a relationship: You can choose to focus on fixing yourself and coping better as this will improve your life and may improve the relationship.
2010-02-01
If the start is bad, then the results will be bad.
If the beginning is negative, then the end will be negative.
Your self-talk may claim it is about some virtue, but when it starts with negative attacks it ends with discouragement and depression.
Your other-talk may claim it is about some moral, but when it starts with negative attacks it ends with damning and dehumanizing.
Test your thoughts from the beginning and if their start is bad, then switch to thoughts that start good.
2010-01-31
Here and now is a nonexistent static place.
Life is never here but is always unfolding there.
All that we have is the ever emerging moment not any present moment.
Death is present, death is now, death is static, death is fixed, but life is nascent.
The past is forever gone, the present never is, and the future never happens: what we have is the current unfolding of the future.
2010-01-30
You must know both the right and the wrong path.
You must know both when you are on the wrong and when you are on the right path.
You must know when you are turning to the wrong path.
You must know how to go back to the right path when you start to go wrong.
You must know how to get back on the right path when you have gone wrong.
2010-01-29
Arrive then decide.
Take the journey then comment.
Experience it before you compare.
Wait till you get there before you judge it.
Try to follow out your thoughts and feelings before you buy or reject them.
2010-01-28
Be by the behavior of self not self.
Be by the serving and sharing of self not self.
Be by the humility and hosting of self not self.
Be by the enjoying and praising of Spirit by self not self.
Be by the stillness, singleness, simpleness, suppleness, seriousness, sensitivity, silence of self not self.
2010-01-27
The little child tries to do nothing with self, but the adult tries to do all things with the self.
The little child tries to accomplish with the body or learning but never the self.
The little child tries to know with words or thoughts but never the self.
The little child tries to be with behavior or experience but never self.
The little child never is concerned with self, but the adult is always concerned with self.
2010-01-26
One mental state never becomes another mental state.
Trying cannot know, do, or be--because trying is not under but only trying.
Claiming cannot know, do, or be--because claiming is not under but only claming.
The acts of trying and claiming are what they are and will never be what they are only about.
The mental state of being under can know, do, and be--because under is receiving them and not them.
2010-01-25
Do by being under not by self.
Do by being under not by thinking.
Do by being under not by knowing.
Do by being under not by being or becoming.
Do by being under not by learning, memorizing, method, technique, practice, discipline, determination, effort, trying, working at it, giving it your best.
2010-01-24
No matter how comforting it is for your dentist to listen to your problems, if they perform no procedures, then get a new dentist.
No matter how comforting it is for your attorney to listen to your problems, if they perform no procedures, then get a new attorney.
No matter how comforting it is for your medical doctor to listen to your problems, if they perform no procedures, then get a new doctor.
No matter how comforting it is for your accountant to listen to your problems, if they perform no procedures, then get a new accountant.
No matter how comforting it is for your counselor to listen to your problems, if they perform no procedures, then get a new counselor.
2010-01-23
Art is not beautiful as art can only symbolize, indicate, or point to beauty.
Music is not beautiful as music can only symbolize, indicate, or point to beauty.
Poetry is not beautiful as poetry can only symbolize, indicate, or point to beauty.
Women are not beautiful as women can only symbolize, indicate, or point to beauty.
Architecture is not beautiful as architecture can only symbolize, indicate, or point to beauty.
2010-01-22
No amount of control will ever lead to consciousness or spirit.
No amount of practice will ever lead to consciousness or spirit.
No amount of discipline will ever lead to consciousness or spirit.
No amount of information or knowledge will ever lead to consciousness or spirit.
No amount of computation or analysis will ever lead to consciousness or spirit.
2010-01-21
Beauty will neither save you nor cure you.
Knowledge will neither save you nor cure you.
Philosophy, religion, success, fame, fortune will neither save you nor cure you.
Right view, intention, speech, action, livelihood, effort, mindfulness, concentration will neither save you nor cure you.
The only chance for you is death as flesh and rebirth as Spirit.
2010-01-20
Talk about your self inside only as the container and never as its contents.
Talk about others inside only as a reflection of you living differently with a different life and conditioning.
Talk about life inside as the greatest gift for your one opportunity to be with God.
Talk about meaning inside as God not you or others.
Talk about stress inside as opportunity to choose to be under the higher when presented with the lower.
2010-01-19
To change your self-talk you must switch entirely how you talk about your self inside.
To change your self-talk you must switch entirely how you talk about others inside.
To change your self-talk you must switch entirely how you talk about life inside.
To change your self-talk you must switch entirely how you talk about meaning inside.
To change your self-talk you must switch entirely how you talk about stress inside.
2010-01-18
You will not change your self-talk by marrying someone.
You will not change your self-talk by having success, fame, or fortune.
You will not change your self-talk by having some counselor listen to you.
You will not change your self-talk by becoming a monk, priest, rabbi, or guru.
You will not change your self-talk by finding the right environment, location, milieu, venue, arena, situation, setting, scene, surroundings, circumstances, context, conditions.
2010-01-17
Stop thinking about you: you are not composed of human thought.
Stop thinking about you: whatever you are thinking about you is not you.
Stop thinking about you: at worst your thoughts of self are delusions and at best illusions.
Stop thinking about you: no human thoughts have any magical or ESP power to make you anything.
Stop thinking about you: if you think mainly about yourself, then you are narcissistic and self-centered.
2010-01-16
Nothing regards you.
Nothing refers to you.
Nothing relates to you.
Nothing points to you.
Nothing pertains to you.
2010-01-15
Don't damn people for damning.
Don't blame people for blaming.
Don't whine about other people's whining.
Don't be intolerant of other people's intolerance.
Don't be mean about other people's meanness.
2010-01-14
If listening is all you need from a counselor, then see your barber or hairdresser.
If listening is all you need from a counselor, then get a massage as it is cheaper and has more benefits.
If listening is all you need from a counselor, then find a good friend or relative who you don't have to pay to listen.
If listening is all you need from a counselor, then take some interesting noncredit classes and meet some nice people.
If listening is all you need from a counselor, then join some volunteer organization and talk to decent people while you help others.
2010-01-13
Life and the world are not chasing or stressing you, but your mind is.
Conditioning and training are not chasing or stressing you, but your mind is.
Environments and events are not chasing or stressing you, but your mind is.
People, places, and things are not chasing or stressing you, but your mind is.
Memories, thoughts, and feelings are not chasing or stressing you, but your mind is.
2010-01-12
Lose your life: surrender self.
Lose your life: give up worrying about self.
Lose your life: relinquish all thoughts of self.
Lose your life: let go of ego, pride, and shame.
Lose your life: part with concerns about what others think of your self but not your behavior.
2010-01-11
Hate your life: undo pride for humility.
Hate your life: counteract ego with selflessness.
Hate your life: wipe out images and concepts of self.
Hate your life: uproot your ego from the center of your life.
Hate your life: negate your devotion to the world and switch to devotion of God.
2010-01-10
There is no honor from or for humans: all honor belongs to God so only God can give honor.
The is no glory from or for humans: all praise belongs to God so human claiming is human lying.
There is no praise from or for humans: all praise belongs to God so humans cannot give what they do not have.
The is no glory from or for humans: seeking glory from those who do not have it to give is the height of foolishness.
The is no glory from or for humans: if humans receive praise, honor, or glory rightly, then humans receive it from God for serving God and return it to God.
2010-01-09
Overcome desire: no overcome self.
Overcome compulsion: no overcome identity.
Overcome habit: no overcome making it about you.
Overcome anxiety or depression: no overcome personalizing.
Overcome relationship issues: no overcome attachment to self.
2010-01-08
Are you ready to detach and realize life is never about you?
Are you ready to face yourself and go through your internal ugliness?
Are you ready to move beyond the whining, blaming, and damning stage?
Are you ready to face the emptiness of life and to make meaning in service?
Are you ready to focus on what you are doing wrong instead of what others are doing wrong?
2010-01-07
Make it not about you: it never is anyway.
Make it not about you: no one knows you to make anything about you.
Make it not about you: it can be about your appearance, role, or habits--but never you.
Make it not about you: the more others insist that it is about you, the more certain you can be that it is not.
Make it not about you: you can cope and-or problem-solve when it is not about you, but you will overreact or underreact if you make it about you.
2010-01-06
Get out of the way: surrender.
Get out of the way: have faith.
Get out of the way: have hope.
Get out of the way: rest in God.
Get out of the way: nondoing, no mind, flow, detachment, not personalizing, making not about you.
2010-01-05
Get out of the way and it is done.
Get out of the way: wait on the Lord.
Get out of the way and there you are.
Get out of the way: let go and let God.
Get out of the way: turn it over and stop trying.
2010-01-04
The single eye is just that: singularly focused.
The single eye is on one channel, and some call that meditation.
The single eye is never trying to categorize or name while looking.
The single eye lets things flow and come up with their own insight.
The single eye hears things out, follows things out, lets things come to light, and does not choose, resist, or judge till all is revealed.
2010-01-03
The studies showing that the relationship is the primary method of change in counseling usually leave out the fact that this so-called relationship has no affect on continuation.
The studies showing that the relationship is the primary method of change in counseling are missing the point that work begins after the relationship or there is no work.
The studies showing that the relationship is the primary method of change in counseling are designed such that studies with attorneys, doctors, and CPAs would have similar false results.
The studies showing that the relationship is the primary method of change in counseling are deceiving as any fool knows you only work with people you trust, and there is always more work to be done than just trust or coddling.
The studies showing that the relationship is the primary method of change in counseling fail to take into account that they have obviously defined a false variable, because, as defined, the relationship has no influence on whether or not clients stay in counseling.
2010-01-02
Counseling is praising people for blaming and damning.
Counseling is reframing listening to blaming and damning as building a relationship.
Counseling is reframing blaming and damning as understanding and coming to terms with childhood issues.
Counseling is the misguided reinforcement and encouragement of blaming and damning as progress.
Counseling is when the therapist head-bobs while fantasizing that blaming and damning shows the client is getting better when, in fact, it means they are getting worse.
2010-01-01
Counseling is rewarding people for whining.
Counseling is reframing listening to whining as being supportive.
Counseling is reframing whining as exploration and self-expression.
Counseling is the misguided reinforcement and encouragement of whining as cure.
Counseling is when the therapist fantasies that something is happening while head-bobbing to whining.
2009-12-31
How many good feelings have you sacrificed to being right?
How much fun and relaxation have you spoiled by being right?
How many happy moments have you sacrificed to being right?
How much peace in your relationships have you sacrificed to being right?
How many holidays, celebrations, vacations, get-togethers, parties have you ruined by being right?
2009-12-30
Your self-talk is the way you treat intimates as your social control is down with intimates.
Relationships fail because you wind up talking to the person outside the way you talk to yourself inside.
Your self-talk is where you argue for and against imprisonment and punishment of your feelings and thoughts.
Your self-talk is about whining, blaming, and damning, hence, when we get to know you that is what we get too.
Your self-talk is what you give us once we get to know you, hence, you are always telling us what we should and should not be doing.
2009-12-29
Read your own heart.
Find it within where it affects choice.
Make it real for you by matching your experience to it.
Apply it where it matters, not your mind, but your heart and soul.
Feel your way through it after you have thought your way through it, then it will not only mean something but will affect your choices.
2009-12-28
Your heart must be free and your mind locked.
Your self must be free and your choices directed.
Your spirit must be free and your thinking chosen.
Your being must be free and your behavior regulated.
Your soul must be free and your intention single, simple, focused, loyal, true, pure, one, invariant.
2009-12-27
Are you free or hiding your bondage?
Are you free or on the false search for the right bondage?
Are you free to be still or running from one bondage to another?
Are you free to be simple and single or trying to become some perfect bondage?
Are you free to be quiet or listening to an attack or defense on one bondage after another?
2009-12-26
Are you free or strengthening your prison by resisting or fighting it?
Are you free or strengthening your prison by trying to escape or avoid it?
Are you free or strengthening your prison by trying to change or control it?
Are you free or strengthening your prison by denying, hiding, covering, or decorating it?
Are you free or strengthening your prison by trying to fix, convert, develop, evolve, or somehow make it what it is not?
2009-12-25
Life runs free while death is bound.
Keep your spirit free and your choices bound.
A bound spirit is better than a broken spirit, but only free spirit is alive.
We love children for their free spirit, but fail children by either seeking to imprison their spirit or by letting their choices also run free.
Negative binding of spirit causes inferiority feelings (shame, guilt, depression), and positive binding of spirit causes superiority feelings (pride, grandiosity, uniqueness).
2009-12-24
Superior or inferior: do you use pride to make yourself feel superior to others' inferiorities?
Superior or inferior: do you use shame and guilt to make yourself feel superior to your inferiorities?
Superior or inferior: do you use shame and guilt to make others feel inferior so they will act superior?
Superior or inferior: do you make yourself feel inferior or superior depending on your experiences and behaviors?
Superior or inferior: do you make yourself feel inferior whenever others try to manipulate and control you with inferiority feelings?
2009-12-23
The way of nondoing is not the way of trying.
The way of nondoing is not the way of learning.
The way of nondoing is not the way of claiming.
The way of nondoing is not the way of changing.
The way of nondoing is not the way of becoming, evolving, developing, struggling, overcoming.
2009-12-22
The way of nondoing is the way of faith.
The way of nondoing is the way of hope.
The way of nondoing is the way of charity.
The way of nondoing is the way of returning and rest.
The way of nondoing is the way of flow, waiting, turning over, relying on, trusting in, and surrender.
2009-12-21
"If only" thinking keeps you trying and failing.
"If only" thinking claims to be the solution but is another variation of the problem.
"If only" thinking keeps you externally referented and into a victimhood mentality.
"If only" thinking keeps you stuck, looping, and from problem-solving and coping.
"If only" thinking keeps you whining, blaming, and damning as if you were superior.
2009-12-20
Charity before procedures.
Feelings before procedures.
Relationships before procedures.
Faith, hope, and love before procedures.
Mercy, forgiveness, and all high values before procedures.
2009-12-19
Precedence before procedures.
Philosophy before procedures.
Principles before procedures.
Priorities before procedures.
Purpose before procedures.
2009-12-18
Good is the cover for bad.
Evil is committed in the name of good not evil.
Evil hides in the open behind all positions of goodness.
The greater the appearance of good, the greater the evil hiding behind it.
First come up with some good principle or ideal, then hide in darkness the death and destruction you will do in the name of that good.
2009-12-17
Attach to God and detach from all else.
Attach to God and love others in attachment to God.
Ego pleasure (pride, superiority) comes from positive attachment to people, places, and things.
Ego pain (shame, guilt, inferiority) comes from negative attachment to people, places, and things.
Attachment to God is about God not you, and attachment to people, places, and things is about you not God.
2009-12-16
Married men are mules: the best compliment a man gets at his funeral is "he was a good provider."
Married men are mules: a man is a support object and when he underperforms at that role the woman kicks him out.
Married men are mules: women defraud marriage by denying sex but still expect men not to defraud marriage by finding what is missing elsewhere.
Married men are mules: women are so insatiable in their lust for dollhouse and dress-up toys that they fill the garage, basement, and attic with them.
Married men are mules: when a woman verbally and emotionally abuses a man to the breaking point, then she can play her desired martyr or victim role with complete immunity and social support.
2009-12-15
Married men are mules: women will do anything to get you and nothing to keep you.
Married men are mules: women are about you before marriage and themselves after marriage.
Married men are mules: women are encouraging before marriage and discouraging after marriage.
Married men are mules: women are sexy and seductive before marriage and sloppy and uninterested after marriage.
Married men are mules: women are passive and compliant before marriage and demanding and controlling after marriage.
2009-12-14
Awake rest.
Aware quiet.
Pure returning.
Receptive silence.
Beaconing stillness.
2009-12-13
Supple silence.
Secure silence.
Sensitive silence.
Spacious silence.
Serious, single silence.
2009-12-12
The only work for you is no work.
The only change for you is no change.
The only learning for you is no learning.
The only practice for you is no practice: instead, return and rest.
There is no--evolving, becoming, effort, hard, difficult, trying, struggling, improving, progress--only stillness and surrender.
2009-12-11
There is no fixing human nature, but you can rest from human nature.
There is no improving human nature, but you can keep human nature still.
There is no developing human nature, but you can keep human nature inactive.
There is no learning for human nature, but you can have human nature wait on God.
There is no method or practice to overcome human nature, but you can trust in God instead of human nature.
2009-12-10
You are not the experience of your feelings.
You are not the experience of your thoughts.
You are not the experience of your memories.
You are not the experience of your behaviors.
You are not the experience of your body or senses.
2009-12-09
Love does not come from hate.
Life does not come from death.
Health does not come from sickness.
Beauty does not come from ugliness.
Motivation does not come from apathy.
2009-12-08
Order does not come from disorder.
Light does not come from darkness.
Positive does not come from negative.
Intelligence does not come from stupidity.
Meaning does not come from senselessness.
2009-12-07
You can possess self as image or be self.
You can possess self as construct or live self.
You can possess self as concept only at the expenses of self.
You can possess self as role or appearance or be alive as self.
You can possess self as personality only at the expense of being self.
2009-12-06
Self: the selfless space inside your head.
Self: the sensitive space inside your head.
Self: the soundless space inside your head.
Self: the motionless space inside your head.
Self: the single, simple space inside your head.
2009-12-05
Self is alive supple silence.
Self is alive sensitive stillness.
Self is alive as the empty unformed.
Self is alive as the humble amplifier at rest.
Self is alive as the experienceless transceiver.
2009-12-04
Turn the negative on itself.
Focus the negative on itself.
Return the negative to itself.
Make the negative about itself.
To defeat the negative, make the snake eat its own tail.
2009-12-03
The negative reality is negative.
The negative is about the negative.
The negative is true about the negative.
The negative points to and speaks about the negative.
The negative has nothing to say about anything but the negative.
2009-12-02
Can you be right if no one is wrong?
Do you need you to be wrong so you can be right?
Do you need others to be wrong so you can be right?
How often are you willing to hurt relationships in order to be right?
How much--stress, sorrow, sickness, shame, anger, anxiety, guilt, pride, hate, depression--are you willing to suffer in order to be right?
2009-12-01
You are entitled to nothing: you have nothing to give that is yours.
You are entitled to nothing: you have nothing to add that comes from you.
You are entitled to nothing: you cannot improve anything by or of yourself.
You are entitled to nothing: you have nothing to contribute but only to take.
You are entitled to nothing: you came from nothing and will return to nothing.
2009-11-30
Counseling: A counselor can only advise, you must revise.
Counseling: A counselor can only point out, you must find out.
Counseling: A counselor can only point out, you must feel it out.
Counseling: A counselor can only teach skills, you must practice.
Counseling: A counselor can only explore options, you must choose consequences.
2009-11-29
You are not cable of being nothing without assistance.
You are not cable of doing nothing without assistance.
You are not cable of knowing nothing without assistance.
You are not cable of experiencing nothing without assistance.
You are not cable of having or desiring nothing without assistance.
2009-11-28
They have to be nice to me--no you have to be nice to them.
They have to treat me better--no you have to treat them better.
They have to respect me more--no you have to respect them more.
They have to respond to me better--no you have to respond to them better.
They have to do the right thing for me--no you have to do the right thing for them.
2009-11-27
The problem is the first choice for the solution.
People invariably use the very problem they are trying to fix on itself.
Doing the problem longer and harder will not turn the problem into the solution.
You must switch from the problem for all your attempts to control or change the problem will only strengthen and continue the problem.
You are so fixated on the problem that even when you recognize the problem as the problem, you still continue with the problem as the solution.
2009-11-26
Gratitude is the attitude of the path.
Gratitude is the attitude of humility.
Gratitude is the attitude of recovery.
Gratitude is the attitude of right relation.
Gratitude is the attitude of spiritual health.
2009-11-25
The positive focus is a blind focus.
The positive focus misses the point of the positive.
The positive focus is a lie as it denies the power of the negative.
The positive focus keeps you stuck from receiving motivation from the negative.
The positive focus denies the neutral, the negative, the mildly negative, the mildly positive, and any variation but the extreme positive.
2009-11-24
The negative focus is a blind focus.
The negative focus misses the point of the negative.
The negative focus is a lie as it denies the power of the positive.
The negative focus keeps you stuck from receiving help from the positive.
The negative focus denies the neutral, the positive, the mildly negative, the mildly positive, and any variation but the extreme negative.
2009-11-23
The negative is increased by the negative.
The negative is only overcome by the positive.
The negative is a gift if it leads you to the positive.
The negative is an alarm for the positive to respond to.
The negative is fixed by the positive not more negative.
2009-11-22
The negative is need for positive.
The negative is a call for positive action.
The negative is why you should be positive.
The negative is a cry for help from the positive.
The negative is why your body, mind, and soul need the healthy, curative, and encouraging positive.
2009-11-21
Problem two: Claiming self-experience is a source.
Problem two: Claiming self is both source and transceiver.
Problem two: Claiming to create, think, know, understand, or have from self.
Problem two: Claiming self-experience is a knowing, being, or doing source.
Problem two: Claiming self is, was, or can ever be more than the perfect transceiver it already is.
2009-11-20
Problem one: Thinking as experience.
Problem one: Thinking as the object of perception.
Problem one: Sensing looking to thinking instead of the actual.
Problem one: Perceiving thought instead of "what is" as if thought was "what is."
Problem one: Thinking pointing to sensing and sensing pointing back to thinking.
2009-11-19
You seek to be experience so you can claim to know experience.
You seek to do experience so you can claim to know experience.
You seek to be experience so you can try to know experience.
You seek to do experience so you can try to know experience.
You seek to be experience so you can be the signal source and not just the signal transceiver.
2009-11-18
Self as both the signal transceiver and the signal source is failing when the source is negative experience, however, there is still a good chance for recovery.
Self as both the signal transceiver and the signal source is failing when the source is positive experience, and there is little chance for recovery.
Self as both the signal transceiver and the signal source is failing when the source is neutral experience, and there is no chance of recovery.
Self as the signal transceiver when God is the source as positive experience is winning.
Self as both the signal transceiver and the signal source is failing when either trying to make or claiming the source is positive experience.
2009-11-17
You need to be not being while under being.
You need to be not doing while under doing.
You need to be not trying while under doing.
You need to be not claiming while under doing.
You need to be not knowing while under knowing.
2009-11-16
You need to be blind while under seeing.
You need to be deaf while under hearing.
You need to be dumb while under speech.
You need to be thoughtless while under thought.
You need to be emotionless while under emotion.
2009-11-15
You will never learn anything because you are incapable of experience.
You will never know anything because you are incapable of experience.
You will never learn to choose the good because you are incapable of experience.
You will never learn to practice the good because you are incapable of experience.
You will never understand, remember, or follow the good because you are incapable of experience.
2009-11-14
Your experience is dead as your experience is always past and not alive now.
Since your experience is dead, then your knowing based on experience is dead.
Since your experience is dead, then your opinions are dead as your opinions are based on your dead experience.
Since your experience is dead, then your ideas of who others are and who they are not are dead as your thoughts of others are based on your dead experience.
Since your experience is dead, then your ego, self, self-concept, self-construct, self-image, and self-esteem is dead as it is based on your dead experience.
2009-11-13
Only the mind free of experience is free to have experience.
Only the mind free of experience can respond to "what is" as "what is" is not experience.
Only the mind free of experience can live with someone and continually discover them anew.
Only the mind free of experience can meet the present, because experience is past and the present is never repeated in the past.
Only the mind free of experience can demonstrate talent or genius, because neither talent nor genius can be contained or captured by human experience.
2009-11-12
Your experience is nonexistent because you cannot create experience because you are not God.
Your experience is nonexistent because you have no intelligence, thinking, or sensing of your own.
Your experience is nonexistent because you are existent as a host for experience and as such cannot be what you host.
Your experience is nonexistent because you have no ability to either be aware of or to make use of experience on your own.
Your experience is nonexistent because you are not capable of experience as you have no capability other than reflecting, mirroring, or hosting the experience of the One.
2009-11-11
Your experience of you is not you as your experience is always past and you are always present.
Your experience is your claim to know, but your experience is not knowing but only distorting, limiting, and controlling.
Your experience you call your reality, therefore, you speak correctly for it is not reality nor a partially shared reality but only fantasy.
Your experience is not real experience because you fix it, fasten it, freeze it with labels in order to possess it in order to claim it is knowing.
Your experience of the song, painting, or play is not the song, painting, or play as you cannot sell your experience as if it was the song, painting, or play.
2009-11-10
Nothing matters the most: be nothing.
Nothing matters the most: do nothing.
Nothing matters the most: know nothing.
Nothing matters the most: experience nothing.
Nothing matters the most: try and claim nothing.
2009-11-09
Who is in charge of your identity, and who would do better if your identity was focused better?
Who is in charge of your attention and time, and who would do better if your attention and time were focused better?
Who is in charge of your attitude and outlook, and who would do better if your attitude and outlook were focused better?
Who is in charge of your intention and motivation, and who would do better if your intention and motivation were focused better?
Who is in charge of your learning and skill development, and who would do better if your learning and skill development were focused better?
2009-11-08
My first choice based on clear intuition or a clear gut feeling is worth following.
My first choice based on clear sensing, clear feeling, or simple common sense is worth following.
My fist choice based on thinking alone is worth only rejection.
My first choice that is a combination of thinking and feeling or intuition is worth only rejection.
My first choice that is a combination of thinking with any system that works well is worth only rejection.
2009-11-07
That is what my insecurity as pride wants me to do, but what does God want me to do?
That is what my weakness as blaming wants me to do, but would be a better second choice?
That is what my hurt as anger wants me to do, but what do my values and morals want me to do?
That is what my weakness as laziness wants me to do, but what do my goals and dreams want me to do?
That is what my hurt as jealousy wants me to do, but what better problem-solving or coping options do I have?
2009-11-06
Interpretations: Since life is meaningless, then life is what you make it.
Interpretations: Since life is meaningless, then life is positive and joyful.
Interpretations: Since life is meaningless, then life is negative and depressing.
Interpretations: Since life is meaningless, then life is to be avoided and escaped.
Interpretations: Since life is meaningless, then life is not what is important but only God.
2009-11-05
Identify with the rest in action, because that is you not the action or reaction.
Identify with the quiet in thinking, because that is you not the thinking, imaging, remembering, interpreting, comparing.
Identify with the silence in listening, because that is you not the listening, connecting, relating, sorting, filing.
Identify with the stillness in work and play, because that is you not the work, play, effort, struggle, trying, or claiming.
Identify with the emptiness in feeling, sensing, and experience, because that is you not the feelings, sensations, or experiences whether of the mind or of the body.
2009-11-04
Pay attention to the rest in action, because that is you not the action.
Pay attention to the quiet in thinking, because that is you not the thinking.
Pay attention to the silence in listening, because that is you not the listening.
Pay attention to the stillness in work and play, because that is you not the work or play.
Pay attention to the emptiness in feeling, sensing, and experience, because that is you not the feeling, sensing, or experience.
2009-11-03
Eastern psychology: less is more you.
Eastern psychology: stop trying to do less.
Eastern psychology: do less about doing less.
Eastern psychology: less mental noise more quiet.
Eastern psychology: less mental things more space.
2009-11-02
Counseling works by helping you to understand that right intentions have right results.
Counseling works by helping you to be aware of your intentions and choosing better and more honest intentions.
Counseling works not by force, violence, manipulation, negative motivation, creating false pride, or punishment, but by your learning right choice through awareness of right results.
Counseling works by helping you have new options, new choices, new perspectives, new skills, new habits, new responsibility for your feelings, new responsibility for your script, and a sane new identity.
Counseling works by helping you to deconstruct your escapism, avoidance, controlling, looping, dwelling, poor coping, poor problem-solving, whining, blaming, damning, poor identity, and to switch to more effective methods and practices.
2009-11-01
Counseling works to help you to have a clear "yes" and a clear "no."
Counseling works by helping you to develop consistent values for your "yes" and "no."
Counseling works by strengthening good options and choices and weakening bad options and choices.
Counseling works by replacing ineffective habits with effective habits through right repetition and practice.
Counseling works by encouraging you not to try, not to have instant success, but by doing the good more and the bad less.
2009-10-31
Are you choosing that based on being pain avoidant?
Are you choosing that based on our tendency to negativity?
Are you choosing that based on letting your weak nature rule?
Are you choosing that based on proving you can choose differently?
Are you choosing that based on being attached to some fantasy beauty?
2009-10-30
How will the story play out if I continue this way?
Where will that thinking, feeling, or choice lead me?
What choices does that thinking or feeling encourage?
What path does this thinking, feeling, or choice put me on?
What design changes will this thinking, feeling, or choosing lead to for my life?
2009-10-29
Damning, demonizing, and condemning is seeking more pain.
Damning, demonizing, and condemning is compounding pain.
Damning, demonizing, and condemning is continuing the cycle of pain.
Damning, demonizing, and condemning is how the system of pain is sustained.
Damning, demonizing, and condemning is the pride payoff for the dysfunctional pain motivational-system.
2009-10-28
Blaming, fault-finding, and accusing is justifying your pain.
Blaming, fault-finding, and accusing is excusing your pain.
Blaming, fault-finding, and accusing is covering and armoring your pain.
Blaming, fault-finding, and accusing is avoiding while protecting your pain.
Blaming, fault-finding, and accusing is escaping while defending your pain.
2009-10-27
Complaining, whining, and so-called venting is choosing pain.
Complaining, whining, and so-called venting is praying for and praising pain.
Complaining, whining, and so-called venting is spreading pain so it can grow.
Complaining, whining, and so-called venting is reinforcing and maintaining pain.
Complaining, whining, and so-called venting is sharing pain so it can become stronger.
2009-10-26
It is meaningless until you give it meaning.
It is meaningless because it can never care.
It is meaningless even if you give it meaning.
It is meaningless because on its own it is incapable of meaning.
It is meaningless because meaning is mental and it is not mental except to the superstitious.
2009-10-25
People become religious so they don't have to be.
People become Christian so they don't have to be.
Theology exists to rationalize the function of religion.
The function of religion is to replace original sources and meanings with customs and traditions.
Join some group that you can believe is right so that you become right and thereby become excused from having to do right.
2009-10-24
Fantasy is the basis for much motivation.
Fantasy leads people to lie, cheat, steal, and kill to maintain it.
Fantasy can easily take the place of purpose, meaning, and even God.
Fantasy overcomes all reason, logic, sensibility, custom, mores, values, beliefs, and habits.
Fantasy is the basis for romance, which is why marriage kills romance because marriage kills fantasy.
2009-10-23
You have no self: the One true self is the only good, and you can never be good.
You have no self: the One true self is self-sustaining, and you will always be dependent.
You have no self: the One true self is the only source, and you will never be a source for anything.
You have no self: the One true self is intelligent and capable, and you will never have any intelligence or ability of your own.
You have no self: the One true self is independent and free, and you will always only exist in mix of dependent and interdependent relationships.
2009-10-22
Quiet before words.
Still before pictures.
Empty before sensations.
Be these three: nothing, motionless, vacant.
In words be naught, in experience be at rest, in energy be unoccupied.
2009-10-21
Beauty of person, place, or possession will not last.
Beauty of person, place, or possession will not satisfy or save you.
Beauty of person, place, or possession will not repair or resolve you.
Beauty of person, place, or possession will not comfort or soothe you for long.
Beauty of person, place, or possession will not answer or solve your problems.
2009-10-20
The beauty about women is not women.
The beauty ascribed to women rarely applies to their character.
To confuse a woman with her cultural beauty is to miss the woman.
Women do not possess beauty, because it is possessed in other people's minds.
Giving women the benefit of the doubt because of their perceived beauty betrays both justice and truth.
2009-10-19
Either you or God decides how to prioritize.
Either you or God decides what is important.
Either you or God decides what has meaning.
Either you or God decides how to spend your life.
Either you or God decides what is worth fighting for.
2009-10-18
What you think is what you kill.
What you think is what you distort.
What you think is what you deform.
What you think is what you leave out.
What you think is what you twist, slant, spin.
2009-10-17
The meaning is deforming.
The perspective is the twist.
The interpretation is the spin.
The perception is the distortion.
The insight is the insult to reality.
2009-10-16
Refocus and redirect your thinking from trying.
Refocus and redirect your thinking from claiming.
Refocus and redirect your thinking from whining.
Refocus and redirect your thinking from blaming.
Refocus and redirect your thinking from damning.
2009-10-15
Remove your dysfunctional thoughts by repeatedly hearing them as stupid, ugly, sick.
Remove your dysfunctional thoughts by repeatedly seeing them as stupid, ugly, and sick.
Remove your dysfunctional thoughts by repeatedly sensing and experiencing them emotionally as stupid, ugly, and sick.
Develop an aversion to your dysfunctional thoughts by repeatedly interpreting them to be stupid, ugly, sick.
Develop an aversion to your dysfunctional thoughts by repeatedly viewing them as: self-defeating, ineffective, untrue, irrational, illogical, impractical, distasteful, hurtful, wasteful, painful, stressful.
2009-10-14
Counseling is: when they seek to make you just feel better not get better about your being sick.
Counseling is: when they seek to make you just feel better not get better about your not getting better.
Counseling is: when they seek to make you just feel better not get better about your poor coping and problem-solving skills.
Counseling is: when they seek to make you just feel better not get better about your poor relationship and communication skills.
Counseling is: when they seek to make you just feel better not get better about your self-defeating whining, blaming, and damning.
2009-10-13
Devolve: If you want to devolve anything, then just put a committee in charge of it.
Devolve: The house or garden you build does not evolve when left alone, but, instead falls apart.
Devolve: Religion does not evolve original teachings, rather, religion replaces original teachings with traditions and customs.
Devolve: Not only does nothing evolve, you cannot even make a perpetual-motion machine to just maintain something the same as friction overcomes all in the end.
Devolve: All systems require outside systems to either prove or maintain themselves, even theoretical systems such as mathematics, because all devolves not evolves when left to itself.
2009-10-12
Devolve: Technology does not evolve life, but, instead, creates toxic instead of organic waste.
Devolve: Technology does not evolve life, but, instead, creates products that devour resources only to soon become obsolete toxic waste.
Devolve: Technology does not evolve life, but, instead, creates the billion-dollar packing industry which is devoted to producing ever more toxic garbage.
Devolve: Technology does not evolve life, but, instead, creates ways to make more and more products either to be thrown away or to be not worth repairing.
Devolve: Technology does not evolve life, but, instead, creates materials such as plastic that become waste that kills animals and won't go away or naturally recycle.
2009-10-11
Devolve: Technology does not evolve life, but, instead, creates ways to destroy more efficiently.
Devolve: Technology does not evolve life, but, instead, has already annihilated countless species.
Devolve: Technology does not evolve life, but, instead, creates ways to isolate, dissociate, disintegrate, and fragment all social systems.
Devolve: Technology does not evolve life, but, instead, is destroying the entire planet and all ways of survival including air, water, ocean, and land.
Devolve: Technology does not evolve life, but, instead, stands ready to destroy the very fabric of life as the blind-faith religion called science continues to manipulate the building blocks of life without first understanding the consequences.
2009-10-10
You can be better or worse at work or school, but not at being human.
You can be better or worse at sports or games, but not at being human.
You can be better or worse at a skill, talent, or ability, but not at being human.
You can be better or worse at art, architecture, or music, but not at being human.
You can be better or worse at thinking, feeling, or sensing, but not at being human.
2009-10-09
Things are not stupid, but your mind can be stupid.
Things are not boring, but your mind can be boring.
Things are not difficult, but your mind can be difficult.
People are not a problem, but your mind can be a problem.
The day or week is not long or short, but your mind can be long or short.
2009-10-08
Life is not suffering, but your mind can be suffering.
Life is not a burden, but your mind can be a burden.
Life is not challenging, but your mind can be challenging.
Life is not meaningless, but your mind can be meaningless.
Life is not hard or tough, but your mind can be hard or though.
2009-10-07
Trying not to worry is worrying.
Trying not to offend is offensive.
Trying not to fail is ensuring failure.
Trying not to forget is planning to forget.
Trying not to harm is excusing some harm.
2009-10-06
There is no "them" only us.
There is no "them" only one.
There is no "them" only your mirror.
There is no "them" only another you.
There is no "them" only your same human nature acting out its conditioning.
2009-10-05
It is none of your business what I think.
It is none of your business what I think of you.
It is none of your business what you think of me.
It is none of your business what you think of you.
It is none of your business what you think: my and your neglected business is the effect and consequences of what we allow to stay in our minds and not the thoughts themselves.
2009-10-04
Win: effort empty and goal full.
Win: present empty and future full.
Win: desire empty and objective full.
Win: motivation is focused on aim not work.
Win: drive contains nothing and purpose contains everything.
2009-10-03
Almost: effort almost empty and goal almost full.
Almost: present almost empty and future almost full.
Almost: desire almost empty and objective almost full.
Almost: motivation is somewhat focused on work but mostly aim.
Almost: drive contains not much and purpose contains a lot.
2009-10-02
Fail: effort full and goal empty.
Fail: present full and future empty.
Fail: desire full and objective empty.
Fail: motivation is focused on work not aim.
Fail: drive contains anything and purpose contains nothing.
2009-10-01
Fairness is just one more excuse to know better.
You can know better or you can forgive and be free.
Oppression is the excuse for revolution to know better only to install harsher oppression when in power.
The payoff for knowing better is pride, and that payoff is taken despite either immediate or long-term harmful and hurtful consequences.
Beliefs in right and wrong, what should be and should not be, superior and inferior, and good and evil are mainly used as excuses to play the game of knowing better.
2009-09-30
You would rather know better than others than make peace.
You would rather know better than yourself than find what you misplaced.
You would rather know better than others than forgive or show compassion.
You would rather know better than yourself than give up self-defeating anxiety, guilt, shame, and depression.
You would rather know better than others than give up self-defeating anger, revenge, resentment, hate, and pride.
2009-09-29
All principles of mental-health, spirituality, and happiness require you to give up knowing better:
Forgiveness, tolerance, and compassion all require you to stop knowing better than self, others, or life.
Flexibility, openness, vulnerability, and sharing all require you to stop knowing better than self, others, or life.
Problem-solving, coping, and emotional-responsibility all require you to stop knowing better than self, others, or life.
Interrupting, distracting, refocusing, redirecting, rechanneling, and switching all require you to stop knowing better than self, others, or life.
Acceptance, letting go, surrender, following out, meditation, prayer, fasting, and detachment all require you to stop knowing better than self, others, or life.
2009-09-28
Better to think than talk or tell.
Better to listen than talk or tell.
Better to question than talk or tell.
Better to understand than talk or tell.
Better to feel compassion than talk or tell.
2009-09-27
Right marriage: each person puts the other first.
Right marriage: kindness not meanness is used to get what you want.
Right marriage: perspective, the big picture, and forgiveness are daily practices.
Right marriage: each person thinks well of the other, which includes support, encouragement, confidence, and comfort.
Right marriage: commitment to the happiness and success of the marriage, family, and couple before self and as part of self.
2009-09-26
Do you want to give up fun? Then get married.
Do you want to give up sex? Then get married.
Do you want to give up choice? Then get married.
Do you want to give up your lifestyle? Then get married.
Do you want to give up what you want most? Then get married.
2009-09-25
Do you want to argue? Then get married.
Do you want to feel bad? Then get married.
Do you want to be wrong? Then get married.
Do you want to listen to whining, blaming, and damning? Then get married.
Do you want to feel guilty, ashamed, anxious, angry, or depressed? Then get married.
2009-09-24
False fullness comes from trying, instead, be empty for God.
False fullness comes from claiming, instead, be empty for God.
False fullness comes from knowing, instead, be empty for God.
False fullness comes from doing, instead, be empty for God.
False fullness comes from being, instead, be empty for God.
2009-09-23
If you are right, then you need someone else to be wrong.
If you are right, then you live in darkness and serve destruction and death.
If you are right, then you no longer examine what you do to see if it is also right.
If you are right, then you respond with fight, flight, or freeze to maintain your life as right.
If you are right, then you need someone else to agree and boost your pride in being right.
2009-09-22
Self is a mirror: kept it free of dirt.
Self is a mirror: what you reflect you get.
Self is a mirror: focused on itself a mirror is worthless.
Self is a mirror: the higher the quality and purity of the mirror the more valuable the things it gets to reflect.
Self is a mirror: an empty, blank, clean, clear, still, silent, simple, single, secure, quiet mirror is a useful mirror.
2009-09-21
Can you see without thinking being a part of your seeing?
Can you see without images being a part of your seeing?
Can you see without names being a part of your thinking?
Did you not know that names and images end seeing?
Did you not know that thinking ends seeing, and what you call seeing with names and images is only projection?
2009-09-20
Eastern psychology: no-mind means seeing without mind.
Eastern psychology: no-mind means seeing without conditioning.
Eastern psychology: no-mind means seeing without name or image.
Eastern psychology: no-mind means seeing as experience.
Eastern psychology: no-mind means seeing with emptiness.
2009-09-19
To know is to regard the name as the image and the image as the sensations and so not to know at all.
First is perception, then sensation, then image, and lastly name.
Reality is discerned by perception as sensation and reality can never be approached by either image or name.
Name points to image and needs to be dropped once image reception begins.
Image points to sensation and needs to be dropped once sensation reception begins.
2009-09-18
See self with nothing and see what is.
See other with nothing and see what is.
See self with something and see that something.
See other with something and see that something.
See self or other with something while naming that something and see nothing that is.
2009-09-17
Trying to appear good to us so that you appear good to yourself is a game lost at the start.
Trying to avoid appearing bad to us so that you avoid appearing bad to yourself is a game lost at every play.
Trying to become what you should be is a game that guarantees death in every move and result.
Trying to reconcile who you think you are with who you think you should be is a game lost in delusions.
Trying to focus on how others fail to be who they should be to avoid focusing on how you fail is a game that hardens whatever was left of your heart.
2009-09-16
Because you are identified with an idea, you feel free to take an all-or-nothing view of its veracity.
Because you are identified with an idea, you feel free to overgeneralize both in its promotion and defense.
Because you are identified with an idea, you feel free to disqualify and minimize any negative objections to it.
Because you are identified with an idea, you feel free to mislabel and emotionally reason away any disagreements with it.
Because you are identified with an idea, you feel free to mentally filter out what disagrees with it and to mentally filter in what supports it.
2009-09-15
If someone is mean to you to get you to be nice, then you can rebel and be mean back.
If someone is mean to you to get you to be nice, then you can feel guilty, ashamed, and depressed.
If someone is mean to you to get you to be nice, then you can try to prove it is really they who are mean.
If someone is mean to you to get you to be nice, then you can apologize and sabotage them behind their back.
If someone is mean to you to get you to be nice, then you can try to defend and argue that you are not until even you are convinced you are.
2009-09-14
Never worry about what people are thinking of you, because they cannot.
Never worry about what people are thinking of you, because they never are.
Never worry about what people are thinking of you, because there is nothing to think about.
Never worry about what people are thinking of you, because whatever they think, it is not you.
Never worry about what people are thinking of you, because they cannot even think of themselves.
2009-09-13
If you are doing well in arts, sports, or work, then you are knowing nothing.
If you are doing well in arts, sports, or work, then you are doing nothing.
If you are doing well in arts, sports, or work, then you are being nothing.
If you are doing poorly in arts, sports, or work, then you are trying or claiming to know something.
If you are doing poorly in arts, sports, or work, then you are trying or claiming to do or be something.
2009-09-12
The world's right is wrong.
Your and my right is wrong.
Religion's and institution's right is wrong.
The right of thinking is wrong.
Only God's right is right.
2009-09-11
You prove us wrong only to make yourself right.
You seek to be the good and right at our expense.
If we are wrong, then we will be wrong without you making us wrong.
You say you are fighting for the truth, but you are only fighting to be the truth.
You claim you damn us for our own good, but it is really for your own good as the ideal.
2009-09-10
Pray for the best, but expect and plan for the worst.
Work for the best, but expect and prepare for the worst.
Hope for the best, but expect and provide for the worst.
Reinforce and encourage the best, but expect and make provision for the worst.
Bring out, accentuate, and focus on the best, but expect and organize for the worst.
2009-09-09
Your desire to be right is wrong.
You cannot be right as only God can be right.
Your effort, trying, and attempting to be right is wrong.
You are incapable of being right so are always wrong when right.
Your claiming, asserting, and professing to be right is always wrong.
2009-09-08
Making people feel bad so they will be good is the way of shame and manipulation.
Making people feel good so they will be good is the way of pride and being the enemy of God.
Giving the good to God alone is the way of spirit.
Giving the bad to thinking is the way of sanity.
Giving the bad to behaviors not beings is the way of wisdom.
2009-09-07
You defend being wrong so become wrong.
You argue being wrong making yourself wrong.
You resist being wrong so reinforce being wrong.
You fight being wrong so strengthen being wrong.
You deny or suppress being wrong so guarantee being wrong in darkness.
2009-09-06
Do you find questions or answers?
Do you find problems or solutions?
Do you find excuses or experience?
Do you find blame or responsibility?
Do you find complaints or compliments?
2009-09-05
Guilt: I am right so I can treat myself wrong.
Anxiety: I am right so I can make myself crazy with worry.
Depression: I am right so I can punish myself into discouragement.
Shame: I am right so I can harass myself into feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy.
Anger: I am right so I can do wrong to others.
2009-09-04
It is not shoulds themselves that are the problem, rather, it how you misuse shoulds that is the problem: combining shoulds with expectations.
It is not shoulds themselves that are the problem, rather, it how you misuse shoulds that is the problem: combining shoulds with control issues.
It is not shoulds themselves that are the problem, rather, it how you misuse shoulds that is the problem: combining shoulds with trying to change.
It is not shoulds themselves that are the problem, rather, it how you misuse shoulds that is the problem: combining shoulds with trying to convince, argue, or resist.
It is not shoulds themselves that are the problem, rather, it how you misuse shoulds that is the problem: combining shoulds with trying to convert, conform, correct, or transform.
2009-09-03
Making others wrong is war.
If I am right, then I must make you wrong: war.
Making us wrong so you can be right is the way of war.
War is two sides believing they are right and the other is wrong.
War comes from people being right so justifying making others wrong.
2009-09-02
Behind fortune hides death.
Behind position prowls darkness.
Behind fame lurks excuses for damning.
Behind prominence skulks excuses for destruction.
Behind--titles, degrees, status, class, standing, prestige, glory, importance, dignity, popularity, ran--comes ambush: self-condemnation, other-condemnation, life-condemnation.
2009-09-01
Behind right hides death.
Behind principles prowls darkness.
Behind morals lurks excuses for damning.
Behind ideals skulks excuses for destruction.
Behind values ambush comes: self-damning, other-damning, life-damning.
2009-08-31
The search for self is the search for nothing alive.
The search for self is the search for nothing doing.
The search for self is the search for nothing being.
The search for self is the search for nothing serving.
The search for self is the search for nothing knowing.
2009-08-30
Your real goal is the real effect not what you say it is.
Your real plan is the true result not what you say it is.
Your real point is the practical outcome not what you say it could be.
Your real purpose is the factual aftermath not what you say it should be.
Your real intention is the actual consequence not what you say it will be.
2009-08-29
Not trying to control self: being under God only.
Not trying to evolve self: relying on God only to lead.
Not trying to fix self: trusting only God to direct my paths.
Not claiming any good for me: praising God as the one source for all good.
Not tying to know, do, or be any good: worshiping God as the only source for knowing, doing, and being good.
2009-08-28
Not guilty in relation to self, others, or life: guilty in relation to God only.
Not angry in relation to self, others, or life: angry in relation to God only.
Not anxious in relation to self, others, or life: anxious in relation to God only.
Not shameful in relation to self, others, or life: shameful in relation to God only.
Not depressed in relation to self, others, or life: depressed in relation to God only.
2009-08-27
REBT to understand General Semantics.
General Semantics to understand Eastern psychology.
Eastern psychology to understand Christianity.
Christianity to understand God.
God to understand myself in right relation.
2009-08-26
Korzybski for contact with reality without thought.
Krishnamurti to stop trying to fix self and to stop trying to know with thought.
Kierkegaard for despair of self and surrender to God.
Lao Tzu for the heart of spiritual life.
The Bible for the standard of truth.
2009-08-25
My happiness is not from that bad choice.
My identity is inconsistent with that bad choice.
My desired results are not from that bad choice.
My values are inconsistent with that bad choice.
My relief, relaxation, and rewards are frustrated by that bad choice.
2009-08-24
You are your internal habits not your external habits.
You are your internal choices not your external choices.
You are your internal behavior not your external behavior.
You are your internal experience not your external experience.
You are your memories of internal events not your memories of external events.
2009-08-23
Perceive perception.
See that you are seeing and be sentient.
Be aware that you are aware and be alive.
Sense that you are sensing and be present.
Hear that you are hearing and be in the now.
2009-08-22
Do not think about seeing, but, instead see that you are seeing.
Do think about sensing, but instead sense that you are sensing.
Do not think about hearing, but, instead hear that you are hearing.
Do not think about being aware, but, instead, be aware of being aware.
Do not think about perceiving, but, instead perceive that you are perceiving.
2009-08-21
My life is not that bad choice.
My self is not that bad choice.
My goal is not that bad choice.
My body is not that bad choice.
My solution is not that bad choice.
2009-08-20
Your self is never at risk: no amount of opinions can change your self in any way.
Your self is never at risk: no amount of thinking can change your being is any way.
Your self is never at risk: no amount of experience can change your personhood in any way.
Your self is never at risk: no amount of positive or negative self-talk can change your selfness in any way.
Your self is never at risk: no amount of learning, practice, rituals, knowledge, insight, or wisdom can change you in any way.
2009-08-19
No one is ever talking about you: it is never about you.
No one is ever talking about you: no one knows you to be talking about you.
No one is ever talking about you: people can talk about your behavior, appearance, and habits not you.
No one is ever talking about you: not even family or friends know you as a being but only as behaviors.
No one is ever talking about you: not even you really know or are consistently in touch with your self, being, personhood, selfness.
2009-08-18
Awareness is life and awareness of awareness is light and love.
Self is attention for attention, awareness for awareness, consciousness for consciousness.
Thoughts, feelings, sensations, and behaviors do not constitute life: consciousness constitutes life.
You do not exist because you think as trees and computers also think; you exist because you are aware.
The first lie is that you are your experience, and the second lie is that you are the knowledge of your experience.
2009-08-17
I am consciousness.
I identify with my awareness.
I am conscious of my consciousness.
I am not alive because I think or experience; I am alive because I am aware.
Identity is awareness of self and right identity is awareness of self as awareness.
2009-08-16
Experience is by definition of the past so is dead, hence, self as experience is dead.
Thought is about experience so thought is doubly dead, hence, self as thought is dead.
Thought about thought is only thought about thought as experience making you thrice removed from life.
The one defining characteristic of self is attention, awareness, consciousness, and the choice on where to focus that: so be that which you are.
You are what you are aware of; you are what you identify with; you are what you are conscious of as self even if that is not you, a lie, an illusion, or some delusion because identity makes it so.
2009-08-15
I think therefore I am: No, the living dead also think.
I experience therefore I am: No, the living dead also experience.
I am conscious therefore I am: No, the living dead are also conscious.
I am conscious of my consciousness as self, therefore, I am real.
I am identified with my consciousness not my experience or thoughts, therefore, I am real.
2009-08-14
I must make me feel bad so I will be good.
I must make you feel bad so you will be good.
I must make me feel bad so I will do the good I should.
I must make you feel bad so you will do the good you should.
I must make me and you feel shame and guilt so we will not do things to feel shameful and guilty about.
2009-08-13
There are two kinds of people in the world: those focused on other-control and those focused on self-control.
You can recognize those who focus on other-control by their whining, blaming, and damning.
You can recognize those who focus on self-control by their gratitude, responsibility, and humility.
Those who specialize in other-control practice: superiority, pride, claiming, trying.
Those who specialize in self-control practice: equality, selflessness, worship, surrender.
2009-08-12
Being still allows your second choice to move.
Being quiet allows your second choice to be heard.
Being simple allows you to see your second choice.
Being single allows you to focus on your second choice.
Being sensitive keeps you from missing the ugliness, stupidity, and distastefulness of your first choice.
2009-08-11
Facing the consequences of your first choice helps to wake you up to switching to your second choice.
Tempering your first choice that is pleasure-based with boundaries and limits is often the right response.
You can have a such good habit of choosing your second choice in some areas that it appears as if it is your first choice.
First choices that are about ego are always wrong, however, some first choices about the body can be right for the short-term.
Some first choices are wired to pleasure and survival, these need to be respected and followed but only with conditions for how far to go and when to end.
2009-08-10
Trying to deny or suppress your first choice can only keep it acting in darkness.
Trying to control or change you as your first choice can only maintain your first choice.
Arguing, fighting, or resisting you as your first choice can only keep your first choice alive.
Trying to make your first choice choose your second choice can only keep your first choice active.
Damning, punishing, or being mean to you as your fist choice can only keep your first choice active.
2009-08-09
Resist your first choice by deconstructing it.
Resist your first choice by detaching your identity from it.
Resist your first choice by facing its negative long-term consequences.
Resist your first choice by turning your attention to your second choice.
Resist your first choice by redirecting, refocusing, rechanneling onto your options, problem-solving, and-or coping.
2009-08-08
Trying to fix your first choice is losing.
Weakness is accepting your first choice.
Stuck is being identified with your first choice.
Hard is your habit of accepting your first choice.
Failing is trying to control or change your first choice.
2009-08-07
Your first choice is wrong, therefore, choose to choose a higher path.
Your first choice is wrong because you are under desire if you have no habit for high-minded principles.
Your first choice will be wrong, therefore, choose again according to high morals, principles, values, ethics, ideals.
Your first choice is wrong because it is self-centered and lazy, therefore, choose again according to what is best for all.
Your first choice is wrong because all things left to themselves deteriorate, therefore, choose to do the right thing in spite of yourself.
2009-08-06
You may have perfect knowledge but it can do no good.
Your trust, faith, and dependence on thought is your downfall.
Your relying on being right means you will do wrong as thinking cannot do.
Your relying on knowing right means you will do wrong as thinking cannot do.
Your relying on knowing wrong means you will do wrong as thinking cannot prevent wrong.
2009-08-05
Your being right does not give you the right to act wrong.
Your being right does not give you the right to whine, blame, and damn.
Your being right does not give you the right to try to control and change others.
Your being right does not give you the right to act wrong, but it does make you wrong.
Your being right does not give you the right to try to think, feel, or remember for others.
2009-08-04
Either you are right or God is right, but not both.
Either you are good or God is good, but not both.
Either you are the center or God is the center, but not both.
Either you are the purpose or God is the purpose, but not both.
Either you are the meaning or God is the meaning, but not both.
2009-08-03
You can be right or you can be loved.
You can be right or you can be valued.
You can be right or you can be popular.
You can be right or you can be respected.
You can be right or you can be appreciated.
2009-08-02
You can be right or you can sway.
You can be right or you can move.
You can be right or you can affect.
You can be right or you can influence.
You can be right or you can communicate.
2009-08-01
Only God is right not you.
Only God does right not you.
Only God plans right not you.
Only God knows right not you.
Only God chooses right not you.
2009-07-31
You can be right or you can be kind.
You can be right or you can be nice.
You can be right or you can be helpful.
You can be right or you can be agreeable.
You can be right or you can be: accommodating, caring, cooperative, compassionate, supportive, understanding.
2009-07-30
There is One who can be right: not you.
There is One who can do right: not you.
There is One who can plan right: not you.
There is One who can know right: not you.
There is One who can choose right: not you.
2009-07-29
Your approach to understanding is conflict which prevents understanding by fixating ideas.
Your approach to understanding is conflict which prevents understanding by limiting perception.
Your approach to understanding is conflict which prevents understanding by forcing interpretation.
Your approach to understanding is conflict which prevents understanding by restricting information.
Your approach to understanding is conflict which prevents understanding by fragmenting observation.
2009-07-28
Action based on thought causes conflict because: it is in conflict with all opposite thoughts.
Action based on thought causes conflict because: it is in conflict with reality as reality is fluid and thought is static.
Action based on thought causes conflict because: it is in conflict with any other thought based on any other should or ideal.
Action based on thought causes conflict because: it is in conflict with what is by trying to make the now conform to what was.
Action based on thought causes conflict because: it is in conflict with what is by trying to make the now conform to what is supposed to be.
2009-07-27
If they feel unloved, then I tell them how unloved that makes me feel to help them get over it.
If they feel discounted, then I tell them how discounted that makes me feel to help them get over it.
If they feel unwelcome, then I tell them how unwelcome that makes me feel to help them get over it.
If they feel unappreciated, then I tell them how unappreciated that makes me feel to help them get over it.
If they feel misunderstood, then I tell them how misunderstood that makes me feel to help them get over it.
2009-07-26
Package deal: Getting lost in the spaghetti plate of a problem is easy, however, it is also easy to step back and solve the problem as one.
Package deal: Make resistance a package deal by resisting giving your time and attention to anything and everything associated with the temptation.
Package deal: Some bad habits have so many positive and negative connections and associations that you fail to stop the habit by trying to stop it piecemeal.
Package deal: A real problem or temptation cannot be overcome by picking and choosing parts, instead, you must face the entirety and choose against it as one.
Package deal: Some problems and temptations are so great for the moment that you need to flee them, however, if you try to flee this or that part instead of the whole, it will chase you down with a vengeance.
2009-07-25
You are the gatekeeper to your mind: kick them out and they must leave.
You are the gatekeeper to your mind: keep the door closed and they cannot enter.
You are the gatekeeper to your mind: argue with them and they are automatically in.
You are the gatekeeper to your mind: resist them instead of resisting letting them in and they are entirely in.
You are the gatekeeper to your mind: try to change them instead of resisting letting them in and they are completely in.
2009-07-24
Woman: You won't agree with me so you don't care about me.
Woman: You avoid arguing with me so you don't care about me.
Woman: You won't disagree with me so you don't care about me.
Woman: You just give in all the time so don't really care about me.
Woman: You won't listen to, agree with, and accept my pain so don't care about me.
2009-07-23
Not psychologically trying to do, but, instead, having faith God will do.
Not psychologically trying to learn how to do, but, instead, waiting on God to do.
Not psychologically trying to perfect what to do, but, instead, relying on God to do.
Not psychologically trying to learn why to do, but, instead, having charity God will do.
Not psychologically trying to practice what to do, but, instead, having hope God will do.
2009-07-22
Arrive so you can leave.
You cannot go somewhere if you are nowhere.
You cannot leave somewhere if you are not first there.
You must follow out where you are till you get there, then you can decide to stay or leave.
You cannot switch channels unless you are on a channel and are aware of another channel.
2009-07-21
Hard will always be hard.
Stuck will always be stuck.
Trying will always be trying.
Claiming will always be claiming.
Becoming will always be becoming.
2009-07-20
Alone is alive.
Alone is lonely to the empty.
The spiritual person is never alone.
Alone is what you are at birth, death, and always.
You must do it alone but you do not have to be alone.
2009-07-19
Beauty is interpretation not fact.
Beauty is approximation to an ideal.
Beauty is the best hideout for ugliness.
Beauty is based in culture, procreation, and physics.
Beauty is what you think it is because you respond to your thinking not reality as beautiful.
2009-07-18
Is the main way for you to object to whine?
Is the main way for you to feel better to damn?
Is the main way for you to say "no" to be angry?
Is the main way for you not to feel guilty to blame?
Is the main way for you to ask for what you want to be hurt?
2009-07-17
Self will make or break you.
Stress will make or break you.
Support will make or break you.
Success will make or break you.
Suffering will make or break you.
2009-07-16
To find your real enemy look in the mirror.
You are both the problem and the solution.
You are the only enemy you will ever have.
The bad news is that you are the problem; the good news is that you control the problem.
The good news is that you are the solution; the bad news is that you want others to solve you.
2009-07-15
You are not the world's responses to you.
You are not other people's responses to you.
Other people are not your responses to them.
Other people are not the world's responses to them.
How you respond says something about you and neither others nor the world and vice versa.
2009-07-14
At the center be nothing.
At the center do nothing.
At the center try nothing.
At the center know nothing.
At the center claim nothing.
2009-07-13
Nothing shows you.
Nothing signifies you.
Nothing supports you.
Nothing suggests you.
Nothing substantiates you.
2009-07-12
The pursuit of convenience is inconvenient.
The pursuit of convenience creates inconvenience.
The pursuit of convenience is folly as the inconvenient often provides the best not the worst.
The pursuit of convenience is folly as the inconvenient includes effort, work, determination, and discipline.
The pursuit of convenience creates many things that need their own time, maintenance, and care: generating more opportunity for inconvenience.
2009-07-11
If your self is judging, then it is your false self.
If your self is whining, then it is your false self.
If your self is blaming, then it is your false self.
If your self is damning, then it is your false self.
If your self is claiming, then it is your false self.
2009-07-10
If your self is trying, then it is your false self.
If your self is doing, then it is your false self.
If your self is knowing, then it is your false self.
If your self is being anything, then it is your false self.
If your self is becoming anything, then it is your false self.
2009-07-09
I have to feel bad to shame you to control you.
I have to feel bad so you will give me what I want.
I have to feel bad so you will try to make me feel good.
I have to feel bad to make you feel bad to make you give me what I want.
I have to feel bad so you will feel bad and try to make me feel good so you can feel good.
2009-07-08
You cannot control or conform self, instead, switch back to original self.
You cannot convince or convert self, instead, switch back to original self.
You cannot change, fix, or correct self, instead, switch back to original self.
You cannot leave, stop, end, or kill self, instead, switch back to original self.
You cannot cause, create, or replace self, instead, switch back to original self.
2009-07-07
Visit today.
Go where you are.
Vacation in the now.
Dream you are here.
Plan to be here this instant.
2009-07-06
Serve the Impalpable One not mystery.
Turn to the Invisible One not the unseen.
Magnify the Intangible One not imagination.
Rely on the Unknowable One not the unknown.
Be under the Unspeakable One not labels or images.
2009-07-05
Nothing criticizes you.
Nothing compares you.
Nothing convinces you.
Nothing completes you.
Nothing corresponds with you.
2009-07-04
Nothing converts you.
Nothing connects you.
Nothing conforms you.
Nothing concerns you.
Nothing condemns you.
2009-07-03
Nothing causes you.
Nothing controls you.
Nothing corrects you.
Nothing changes you.
Nothing captures you.
2009-07-02
Nothing is personal.
Nothing is about you.
Nothing is close to you.
Nothing is familiar with you.
Nothing is intimate with you.
2009-07-01
Practice zero: Zero being.
Practice zero: Zero doing.
Practice zero: Zero knowing.
Practice zero: Zero worrying.
Practice zero: Zero stressing.
2009-06-30
Practice zero: Zero trying.
Practice zero: Zero moving.
Practice zero: Zero claiming.
Practice zero: Zero becoming.
Practice zero: Zero controlling.
2009-06-29
Self does not do, but ego is always doing.
Self does not try, but ego is tirelessly trying.
Self does not judge, but ego is forever judging.
Self does not know, but ego is endlessly knowing.
Self does not change, but ego is constantly changing.
2009-06-28
Self is not variable, but ego is ever variable.
Self is not an effort, but ego is a constant effort.
Self is not a source, but ego is always a source.
Self is not anything, but ego is invariably something.
Self is not becoming, but ego is perpetually becoming.
2009-06-27
Do you believe in love when you cannot see, hear, touch, or taste love?
Do you believe in gravity when you cannot see, hear, touch, or taste gravity?
Do you believe in evolution when you cannot see, hear, touch, or taste evolution?
Some of your beliefs are based on interpreting effects (inductive reasoning). This is the identical reasoning process that concludes there is a God.
Do you believe in the power and ability of nature or the universe? Then you are a pantheist and neither an atheist nor an agnostic. Your god is the invisible forces of "nature," "evolution," and-or "universe."
2009-06-26
Are you a human being or a religious belief?
Are you a human being or a defender of some culture?
Are you a human being or a member of an ethnic group?
Are you a human being or an affiliation with a political party?
Are you a human being or a representative of some country?
2009-06-25
Focus on the beautiful smile not the ugly nose.
Focus on the positive personality not the lack of proper speech.
Focus on the rewards and benefits not the costs and disadvantages.
Focus on the beautiful, contrasting colors not the sloppy brush strokes.
Focus on the pleasant taste of the food not the unpleasant texture of the food.
2009-06-24
Insight is insufficient: It is common for drinkers to say they know they should quit even while they are drinking, because what they lack is a deep disgust for drinking.
Insight is insufficient: It is common for overeaters to say they know they should quit even while they are eating, because what they lack is a robust distaste for overeating.
Insight is insufficient: It is common for addicts to say they know they should quit even while they are drugging, because what they lack is a vigorous aversion to drugging.
Insight is insufficient: It is common for gamblers to say they know they should quit even while they are gambling, because what they lack is a potent allergic reaction to gambling.
Insight is insufficient: It is common for smokers to say they know they should quit even while they are smoking, because what they still need is a compelling, negative, emotional reaction to smoking.
2009-06-23
Pride is the number one addiction.
Pride is the payoff for drama games.
Pride is based on feeling superior to self or others.
Pride is the payoff for shame and guilt: judging and knowing better than self.
Pride is the payoff for sarcasm, crudeness, rudeness, harshness, unkindness, meanness, gossip, anger, entitlement, privilege: judging and knowing better than others.
2009-06-22
You respond from your plans not your values.
You respond from your plots not your principles.
You respond from your purposes not your beliefs.
You respond from your intentions not your ideals.
You respond from your motivations not your morals.
2009-06-21
You respond to your mind not life.
You respond to your thoughts and images not life.
You respond to your imagined thoughts and images for others not life.
You respond to your dreams, desires, worries, fears, irritations, pains, hurts, and feelings not life.
You respond to your imaginations, fantasies, illusions, delusions, misinterpretations, and projections not life.
2009-06-20
The bad boss blames the bad employees.
The good boss focuses on what the boss is doing right and wrong to help or hinder the employees.
The bad parent blames the bad children.
The good parent focuses on what they are doing to help their children learn to parent themselves.
Leaders can be responsible to make a difference or whine, blame, and damn to make things worse.
2009-06-19
Be place inside.
Be space inside.
Be what hosts inside.
Be what receives inside.
Be what transmits inside.
2009-06-18
The universe is neither good nor bad, but only neutral.
The universe has neither use for you nor plans for you.
The universe is neither alive nor dead, but only an idea that corresponds to no thing.
The universe is neither caring nor uncaring, but functions within a balance of chaos and order.
The universe is neither working for you nor against you, and any belief to the contrary is only a superstition.
2009-06-17
Bear bad and channel good.
Face bad and refocus on good.
Stand bad and redirect on good.
Endure bad and replace with good.
Suffer bad and substitute with good.
2009-06-16
Sad not mad.
Pity not hate.
Hope not worry.
Gratitude not pride.
Humility not depression.
2009-06-15
What makes or breaks you? Right identity.
What makes or breaks you? Right priorities.
What makes or breaks you? Enduring till the end.
What makes or breaks you? Self-centered or God-centered.
What makes or breaks you? Standing the negative inside while preferring the positive.
2009-06-14
What makes or breaks you? Stress.
What makes or breaks you? Suffering.
What makes or breaks you? Emotional responsibility.
What makes or breaks you? Doing the right thing anyway.
What makes or breaks you? Being able to say "no" to yourself.
2009-06-13
Do it more but do not try to do it: Do you want the pilot to try and land the airplane?
Do it more but do not try to do it: Do you want them to try to get you breathing again?
Do it more but do not try to do it: Do you want your brain surgeon to try and be careful?
Do it more but do not try to do it: Do you want your wife to try and give birth to your baby?
Do it more but do not try to do it: Do you want your fiancée to try and make it to the wedding?
2009-06-12
Right focus.
Right credit.
Right identity.
Right attribution.
Right locus of control.
2009-06-11
Right suffering.
Right self-awareness.
Right other-awareness.
Right standing, bearing, facing.
Right attachment and detachment.
2009-06-10
Not to do it, but to be under it.
Not to be it, but to be under it.
Not to live it, but to be under it.
Not to know it, but to be under it.
Not to choose it, but to be under it.
2009-06-09
You will never be either good or bad.
You will never be either right or wrong.
You will never be either better or worse.
You will never be either superior or inferior.
You will never be either something or nothing.
2009-06-08
All conscious beings have both self-consciousness and other-consciousness: the wrong focus for them causes ego problems such as self-esteem issues.
All conscious beings have both self-consciousness and other-consciousness: the wrong focus for them causes spiritual problems such as trying to be good.
All conscious beings have both self-consciousness and other-consciousness: the wrong focus for them causes identity problems such as self as behavior and roles.
All conscious beings have both self-consciousness and other-consciousness: the wrong focus for them causes social problems such as superior and inferior beliefs about humans.
All conscious beings have both self-consciousness and other-consciousness: the wrong focus for them causes psychological problems such as guilt, anxiety, depression, shame, anger, pride.
2009-06-07
There is the rememberer and the remembered: if you are the remembered, then you are trapped in the past.
There is the rememberer and the remembered: if you are the remembered, then you cannot experience the present.
There is the rememberer and the remembered: if you are the remembered, then you are paying attention to yourself as the dead.
There is the rememberer and the remembered: if you are the remembered, then you are bound to the past as projected into the future, and so incapable of the present.
There is the rememberer and the remembered: if you give your awareness of self to the remembered, then your awareness of other goes to remembering and observes you as the other.
2009-06-06
There is the experiencer and the experienced: if you are the experienced, then you are trapped in the past.
There is the experiencer and the experienced: if you are the experienced, then you cannot experience the present.
There is the experiencer and the experienced: if you are the experienced, then you are paying attention to yourself as the dead.
There is the experiencer and the experienced: if you are the experienced, then you are bound to the past as projected into the future, and so incapable of the present.
There is the experiencer and the experienced: if you give your awareness of self to the experienced, then your awareness of other goes to experiencing and observes you as the other.
2009-06-05
P: practice peace.
E: encourage, engage, educate.
A: action, proactive, positive action.
C: charity, counsel, console, comfort.
E: enlighten, endure.
2009-06-04
What you accept you can fix, but what you do not accept you can never fix.
What you accept you can give up, but what you cannot accept you are stuck with.
What you accept you can cope with, but what you do not accept you will never cope with.
What you accept you can reason about, but what you cannot accept you cannot be reasonable about.
What you accept you can make choices about, but what you cannot accept you cannot make choices about.
2009-06-03
If only they would lighten up: believe in them and do the right thing anyway.
If only they would make an effort: believe in them and do the right thing anyway.
If only they would stop nagging me: believe in them and do the right thing anyway.
If only they would give me a break once in awhile: believe in them and do the right thing anyway.
If only they would stop attacking me, putting me down, and would have some faith in me: believe in them and do the right thing anyway.
2009-06-02
You do not have to try illegal drugs before saying "no" to them.
You do not have to take a sip of battery acid in order to reject drinking it.
You do not have to adopt doom and gloom in order to work against them.
You do not have to take insults to heart in order to understand they are hurtful.
You do not have to be wise about the bad, experience the bad, or feel the bad in order to reject the bad.
2009-06-01
Bite, chew, poison, hurt, and spit on people to make them better: so says the media.
Bite, chew, poison, hurt, and spit on people to make them better: so says your self-talk.
Bite, chew, poison, hurt, and spit on people to make them better: so say religions and the religious.
Bite, chew, poison, hurt, and spit on people to make them better: so say governments, control freaks, and law promoters.
Bite, chew, poison, hurt, and spit on people to make them better: so say fascists, superior people, racists, bigots, the intolerant, the prejudiced, the self-righteous, those who have some religion or belief system to justify themselves with, those with high self-esteem.
2009-05-31
1. If the should is irrational, unrealistic, or impossible, then deconstruct it until it is aversive and absurd.
2. If the should is irrational, unrealistic, or impossible, then give it up, surrender it, and make it not an option.
3. If you believe the should is rational and want to keep it, then be more tolerant and accepting of those who either do not follow it or work against it.
4. If you believe the should is rational and want to keep it, but do not have the power and authority to enforce it, then distract, disengage, and detach yourself from it.
5. If you believe the should is rational and want to keep it, but do not have and cannot get the power and authority to enforce it, then let it go and choose to focus on peace.
2009-05-30
Insight is insufficient: You can wait for yourself to get it forever, but at some point you will have to switch or nothing will change.
Insight is insufficient: You can hope that you are changing forever, but at some point you will have to switch or nothing will change.
Insight is insufficient: You can believe you are gradually becoming better, but at some point you will have to reject the old and switch to the new.
Insight is insufficient: You can anticipate, expect, predict, and imagine that you are gradually going to change, but at some point you will have to reject the old and switch to the new.
Insight is insufficient: You can believe you are learning, understanding, gaining, growing, developing, evolving, a work in progress, trying, giving it your best, working at it, etc., but at some point you will have to reject your ways and choose God's ways.
2009-05-29
The wrong you see in others is the wrong you hide in yourself.
The whining you do to others is the whining you want to do to yourself.
The damning you do to others is the damning you want to avoid in yourself.
The blaming you do to others is the blaming you want to escape in yourself.
The complaints you have for others are the complaints you have for yourself.
2009-05-28
Get out of your mind and into your life.
Get out of your mind and into your soul.
Get out of your mind and into your heart.
Get out of your mind and into your attention.
Get out of your mind and into your intention.
2009-05-27
Yes, you are empty inside: the question is empty with doubt or faith?
Yes, you are empty inside: the question is empty with remorse or charity?
Yes, you are empty inside: the question is empty with boredom or curiosity?
Yes, you are empty inside: the question is empty with hopelessness or hope?
Yes, you are empty inside: the question is empty with deadness or aliveness?
2009-05-26
Meaning is more rewarding than fun.
Purpose is more rewarding than pleasure.
Virtue is more motivating than fun.
Intention is more motivating than pleasure.
Goals overcome pain, pleasure, boredom, and fun.
2009-05-25
Wrong attachment: when you think what others are thinking about you makes you think that way too.
Wrong detachment: when you think about yourself the way you do regardless of what you imagine friends, family, or loved ones think of you.
Right attachment: concern only for what God thinks of you.
Right detachment: no concern for what you or others think of you but only God.
Right attachment allows you to love and have compassion without cost or consequence, whereas, wrong attachment knows only conditional love and compassion.
2009-05-24
You call yourself more names than all the names you have been called by others, which do you think affects you more?
You put yourself down in your self-talk more frequently than everyone else ever has, which do you think affects you more?
You put yourself down in your self-talk more intensely than anyone else ever has or can, which do you think affects you more?
You put yourself down for longer periods of time in your self-talk than anyone else ever has, which do you think affects you more?
You are closer to yourself than anyone else, which do you think affects you more your calling yourself names or others calling you names?
2009-05-23
Who is paying attention to your inner conflicts?
Who is listening to yourself talk about yourself?
Who is responding and reacting to your self-concepts?
Who inside is interested in the battle of your self-images?
Who is thinking about yourself while you talk about yourself to yourself?
2009-05-22
To be concerned with self-image is to be out of touch with self.
Your being is infinitely more than any and all self-concepts, self-constructs, or self-images.
Relating to yourself and others through the screen of self-images is to live in a fantasy world.
Self is being, doing, and naming, but you have reduced self to just naming by claiming that naming is doing and doing is being.
The identification and naming of something is not at all that thing, yet, you persist in believing you are the names you call yourself.
2009-05-21
You live in a fantasy world of who you think you are.
You live in a fantasy world of who you think we think you are.
You live in a fantasy world of who you think we are.
You live in a fantasy world of who you think we think we are.
You live in a fantasy world of who you think you and we are, because no matter how accurate your guesses are, neither you nor we can ever be just what is thought.
2009-05-20
You say life is a pain, but what is a pain is your thinking.
You say life is boring, but what is boring is your thinking.
You say life is worthless, but what is worthless is your thinking.
You say there is no point to life, but what is pointless is your thinking.
You say life is not worth living, but what is not worth having or living with is your thinking.
2009-05-19
Your self-image and self-concept cannot perceive because they are dead.
Your self-image and self-concept cannot remember because they are dead.
Your self-image and self-concept cannot experience because they are dead.
Your self-image and self-concept cannot think or feel because they are dead.
Your self-image and self-concept cannot see, hear, touch, taste, or smell because they are dead like all idols.
2009-05-18
What will it take for you to regain control of your mind?
What will it take for you to decide to stop blaming and start claiming control of your mind?
What superstitions about others, life, or memory controlling your mind do you have to give up?
When will you own up to your responsibility for your mind and stop whining about what others cannot be doing to control your mind?
Who do you think is in you besides you running your mind? If no one, then start running it properly. If someone else, then see a good psychiatrist soon.
2009-05-17
The master musician bears the negative to reveal the positive.
Be thankful for having the negative to spur you onto the positive.
The sports star accepts the negative and chooses the positive over it.
The skilled craftsman faces the negative and feeds the positive at every moment.
The master artist wrestles with the negative long enough for the positive to unfold.
2009-05-16
No one has, is, or ever will be talking about you.
No one has, is, or ever will be thinking about you.
You have never, are never, and will never will be talking about you.
You have never, are never, and will never will be thinking about you.
Neither you nor others know you well enough to ever be thinking or talking about you, but, instead, all the talking and thinking about you is only about your habits, conditioning, and behavior--never you.
2009-05-15
Control issues require self-focus.
Maturity issues require social-focus.
Relationship issues require life-focus.
Communication issues require other-focus.
Coping and acceptance issues require meaning-focus or God-focus.
2009-05-14
You say we cannot control your mind, yet, you do not control your mind.
You don't want us to control your mind, yet, you do not exercise control of your mind.
You don't want us to control your mind, yet, you do not learn how to control your mind.
You don't want us to control your mind, yet, you apparently do not want to control your mind either.
You say we cannot control your mind, yet, you also say you cannot control your mind. Who or what do you superstitiously believe comes inside you to control your mind?
2009-05-13
Don't pain us with your pains.
Don't stress us with your stress.
Don't bore us with your boredom.
Don't depress us with your depression.
Don't discourage us with your discouragement.
2009-05-12
Don't bother us with your bothers.
Don't hassle us with your hassles.
Don't irritate us with your irritations.
Don't annoy us with your annoyances.
Don't inconvenience us with your inconveniences.
2009-05-11
What do you want and is what you are doing working to get it?
What do you want for us and is what you are doing helping us to get it?
What do you want from us and is what you are doing helping you to get it?
If what you are doing is not working, then doing it longer and harder will not help.
If what you are doing is not working, then what do you need to improve, learn to practice, or do to find help?
2009-05-10
Who is the you that has your thoughts?
Who is the you that feels your thoughts?
Who is the you that thinks about your thoughts?
Who is the you that remains when your thoughts pass?
Who is the you that thinks, experiences, and responds to your thoughts?
2009-05-09
Where are you when real? Go there more.
When are you authentic? Make more time for that.
Who are you the real you with? Spend more time with them.
What do you do that helps you be the real you? Do more of that.
How are you responding when you feel genuine? Respond that way more.
2009-05-08
Both negative and positive are necessary: the negative must remain for awareness only.
Both negative and positive are necessary: the negative is needed to know what to work against.
Both negative and positive are necessary: the negative must not rule because it can only increase the negative.
Both negative and positive are necessary: the negative cannot become the main focus because that only feeds the negative.
Both negative and positive are necessary: the negative cannot be avoided, ignored, or suppressed without increasing the negative.
2009-05-07
Resist not the negative, but resist feeding or following the negative.
Resist not the negative, but resist making contact with the negative.
Resist not the negative, but resist trying to change or control the negative.
Resist not the negative, but resist trying to accept, understand, or persuade the negative.
Resist not the negative, but resist giving your self, thoughts, feelings, or sensations to the negative.
2009-05-06
Stand the negative, but do not feed the negative anything.
Stand the positive, and feed the positive thoughts, feelings, and sensations.
Face the negative, but stay detached and out of contact with the negative.
Face the positive, and attach and stay in contact with the positive.
Witness both the positive and the negative at the same time, but starve the negative and supply the positive.
2009-05-05
How to avoid yourself and the work of change: Make "I can't, it's just who I am, it's not my nature" excuses.
How to avoid yourself and the work of change: Make "if only they or it would or didn't then I could" excuses.
How to avoid yourself and the work of change: Make "it's hard, too hard, too late" excuses when the fact is that nothing is hard to those who do it.
How to avoid yourself and the work of change: Make "I am different, this or my life is unique or special, no one understands" excuses when in fact we are all the same.
How to avoid yourself and the work of change: Make "why" excuses such as "if I only knew the real or full reasons for my problems" when "why" is never known and solves nothing.
2009-05-04
You can host knowing but not do knowing.
You can house knowing but not be knowing.
You can contain knowing but not know knowing.
You can entertain knowing but not posses knowing.
You can delight in knowing but you cannot know, do, be, own, or control knowing.
2009-05-03
If only scripts: Since they are not trying, then I have an excuse not to try.
If only scripts: Since life is not giving me what I deserve, then I have an excuse to be bitter and fail.
If only scripts: Since things did not happen like they are supposed to, then I do not have to work, change, or cope.
If only scripts: Since they are easy to find fault with, then I can stay focused on them instead of me and what I need to do to mature.
If only scripts: Since they did not do what they could have done, should have done, or would have done, then I can continue to focus on their faults instead of mine.
2009-05-02
stand it
suffer well
bear all things
resist unto blood
endure till the end
2009-05-01
hatch
unfold
incubate
follow out
bring to light
2009-04-30
Control you not me.
Control your attitude not mine.
Control your intentions not mine.
Control your conscience not mine.
Control your values, purposes, responses, memories, and interpretations not mine.
2009-04-29
Poison begets poison.
Poison does not cure poison.
Cure your own poison before curing our poison.
Poisoning those who poison you gets all more poison.
Everyone will get enough poison without getting any poison from you.
2009-04-28
Peace beyond acceptance.
Peace beyond self-interest.
Peace beyond thought and feeling.
Peace beyond struggle, trying, or becoming.
Peace beyond ego pursuits and avoidances.
2009-04-27
Division not oneness: There is no contact without separation.
Division not oneness: There is no consciousness without separation.
Division not oneness: There is no identity or independence without separation.
Division not oneness: There is no detachment or differentiation without separation.
Division not oneness: There is no use, purpose, or love without separation.
2009-04-26
Be free in conformity to God.
Be free in surrender to God.
Be free in allegiance to God.
Be free in obedience to God.
Be free in dependence, reliance, subjection, submission, deference, passivity, pliancy, adaptability to God.
2009-04-25
No one can mess with your head or heart but you.
No one can mess with your values or ideals but you.
No one can mess with your identity or attention but you.
No one can mess with your attitudes or purposes but you.
No one can mess with your intentions or interpretations but you.
2009-04-24
Self-focus versus other-focus: The river and the valley are in harmony because each practices self-focus.
Self-focus versus other-focus: The great biographies are a study of how self-focus worked and other-focus failed.
Self-focus versus other-focus: When people do wrong, they are focused on what others are doing wrong for their excuse.
Self-focus versus other-focus: When marriages are in trouble, you invariably find both people more focused on each other.
Self-focus versus other-focus: Our heroes are those who practice self-focus despite either innumerable or severe struggles, obstacles, problems, and challenges that lead most to excuse other-focus.
2009-04-23
Family life is difficult because: you want to justify yourself to your family and they only want to justify themselves to you.
Family life is difficult because: your evidence is discounted and misinterpreted because it does not fit their story's evidence.
Family life is difficult because: you are basing your self-acceptance and self-approval on people who are interested only in establishing their own.
Family life is difficult because: you try to give evidence of the wrong you were done and they only want to give evidence of the wrong they were done.
Family life is difficult because: you can never find resolution because you are playing court games with no agreed upon rules and no independent judge or jury.
2009-04-22
Don't hate the haters.
Don't abuse the abusers.
Don't damn the damners.
Don't exploit the exploiters.
Don't be mean to mean people.
2009-04-21
Fantasy only requires some slight connection to reality to replace reality.
Positive and negative fantasies about self, others, and life is where most adult lives are wasted.
Fantasy is a drug that serves the purpose of all compulsions, addictions, and distractions--escape from self.
Romance is based on the fantasy of women that they can possess and direct worthwhile men, and the fantasy of men that they can have unlimited great sex with forever admiring worthwhile women.
Romantic relationships start in fantasy, move to disillusionment, and progress to (1) mental-court games and breakup; (2) ignoring them like a feeble roommate; (3) the work of learning to accept, tolerate, forgive, and believe in another despite the facts.
2009-04-20
The first thing you need to do is to face yourself, but you would rather stand any pain instead.
The first thing you need to do is to face yourself, but you would rather face any problem instead.
The first thing you need to do is to face yourself, and the last thing you want to do is to face yourself.
The first thing you need to do is to face yourself, but you would rather face others’ problems instead.
The first thing you need to do is to face yourself, but you would rather run, escape, avoid, and distract instead.
2009-04-19
The weak focus on others to avoid focusing on themselves.
The weak focus on religion and politics to avoid focusing on themselves.
The weak focus on social and moral issues to avoid focusing on themselves.
The weak focus on right and wrong, the law, justice, and fairness to avoid focusing on themselves.
The weak focus on anything and everything to avoid focusing on themselves.
2009-04-18
Focus on what you can fix: yourself not others.
Focus on what you can fix: your attention and identity not the attention and identity of others.
Focus on what you can fix: your thoughts and attitudes not the thoughts and attitudes of others.
Focus on what you can fix: your behavior and responses not the behavior and responses of others.
Focus on what you can fix: your feelings, memories, experiences, sensations, values, dreams, meanings, purposes, projections, interpretations, and intentions not the feelings, memories, experiences, sensations, values, dreams, meanings, purposes, projections, interpretations, and intentions of others.
2009-04-17
Right resistance: Resist giving yourself not what you are resisting.
Right resistance: Resist giving your heart and soul not what you are resisting.
Right resistance: Resist giving your identity and mind not what you are resisting.
Right resistance: Resist feeding what you are resisting not what you are resisting.
Right resistance: Resist fleeing and avoiding what you need to resist, and, instead, stand it and resist giving it anything.
2009-04-16
Music is silent.
Sound is silent.
Hearing is silent.
Thought is silent.
Speaking is silent.
2009-04-15
Fasting is denying any contact to what you are fasting from.
Fasting is resisting giving any response to what you are fasting from.
Fasting is standing the desire while not reacting to the desire in any way.
Fasting is following out the desire while not giving your heart to the desire.
Fasting is facing the desire while refusing to feed the desire with responses to the desire.
2009-04-14
The beautiful person is the ugly prideful person.
The beautiful person is neither the source nor the cause of their beauty.
The beautiful person is more likely to be an ugly being than any ugly person is.
The beautiful person often rests on their beauty to the point of either being useless or a parasite.
The beautiful person does not see what you imagine or interpret them to be nor does anyone else.
2009-04-13
Nothing is hard to those who do it well.
Nothing is hard but what you do not do well.
Nothing is hard to the master but all is hard to the novice.
Nothing is hard but learning because learning is not doing.
Nothing is hard but trying and failing because they are not doing.
2009-04-12
You cannot get out of the river by pulling the river.
You cannot get out of the river by pushing the river.
You cannot get out of the river by punishing the river.
You cannot get out of the river by protesting the river.
You can only get out of the river by leaving the river alone.
2009-04-11
Self-damning wastes time, energy, and emotions.
Self-damning does not lead to improving skills but to devaluing, discounting, and despising skills.
Self-damning only leads to more negativity and destruction so in not helpful or part of the solution.
Self-damning is a lie because you are not and cannot be what you damn yourself as: negative thoughts.
Self-damning is demotivating, discouraging, debilitating, defeating, disturbing, disabling, disempowering, and depressing.
2009-04-10
Relationships: You won't change them, leave them, or kill them--so work on you not them.
Relationships: You won't change them, leave them, or kill them--so accept them for the sake of peace.
Relationships: You won't change them, leave them, or kill them--so focus on your end and cope or problem-solve better.
Relationships: You won't change them, leave them, or kill them--so focus on changing, controlling, and improving how you respond.
Relationships: You won't change them, leave them, or kill them--so forget being right or what is fair and practice emotional responsibility.
2009-04-09
Compulsion is helpful or hurtful: compulsively avoiding and escaping is hurtful.
Compulsion is helpful or hurtful: compulsively creating art or inventing is helpful.
Compulsion is helpful or hurtful: compulsively seeking and worshiping God is helpful.
Compulsion is helpful or hurtful: compulsively breathing and pumping blood is helpful.
Compulsion is helpful or hurtful: compulsively doing good works and demonstrating compassion is helpful.
2009-04-08
Suffer well: You can suffer avoidance or you can suffer bearing, but you will suffer.
Suffer well: You can suffer for relaxation or you can suffer for work, but you will suffer.
Suffer well: You can suffer for retirement or you can suffer for goals, but you will suffer.
Suffer well: You can suffer your lusts or you can suffer resisting your lusts, but you will suffer.
Suffer well: You can suffer for comfort and convenience or you can suffer for trials and tribulations, but you will suffer.
2009-04-07
Love is only won by love.
Love is only deserved by love.
Love is the only source of love.
Love is only for and about love.
Love is projected and prayed into others so that you might charitably love them.
2009-04-06
Suffer well: You can suffer hurt and whining or you can suffer pity and detachment, but you will suffer.
Suffer well: You can suffer laziness and procrastination or you can suffer work and planning, but you will suffer.
Suffer well: You can suffer meanness and rudeness or you can suffer kindness and humility, but you will suffer.
Suffer well: You can suffer blaming and damning or you can suffer responsibility and compassion, but you will suffer.
Suffer well: You can suffer resentment and grudges or you can suffer forgiveness and acceptance, but you will suffer.
2009-04-05
If you can transmit experience, then you can transmit insight.
If you can experience for another, then you can teach another.
If you can transmit understanding, then others can benefit from your parental warnings.
If you can have wisdom without experience, then schooling and books can give wisdom.
If you are vulnerable and willing to suffer, then you can give your experiences to the example and stories of others for profit and medicine.
2009-04-04
One-word definition for hypocrite: judge.
One-word definition for hypocrite: political.
One-word definition for hypocrite: religious.
One-word definition for hypocrite: theologian.
One-word definition for hypocrite: Christian, Buddhist, Muslim, Hindu, Jew.
2009-04-03
You can suffer well or you can suffer badly, but you will suffer.
You can use your pain or your pain can use you, but you will have pain.
You can use your suffering to become stronger or weaker, but you will not escape suffering.
You can be thankful and worthy of your suffering or you can be resentful and unworthy of your suffering, but you will not avoid suffering.
You can use your trials and tribulations to learn or you can use your trials and tribulations to whine, but you cannot avoid trials and tribulations.
2009-04-02
I cannot build it, but I can hope God will.
I cannot make it, but I can have faith God will.
I cannot create it, but I can pray and ask God to.
I cannot produce it, but I can believe God can and will.
I cannot originate it, but I can trust God to do what is right.
2009-04-01
Maturity is: regular reality and results testing.
Maturity is: using suffering to become stronger.
Maturity is: willingness to wait for rewards till after the work is done.
Maturity is: seeking correction for ourselves while having compassion on others.
Maturity is: constantly making the connection between your choices and your goals.
2009-03-31
Thinking is nothing but thinking.
Nothing exists by human thinking.
Everything exists without human thinking.
Thinking something is only thinking something.
Human thinking has no more power or potential than mental noise except to the superstitious.
2009-03-30
If it should be, then I will pray it will be and plan it won't be.
If it should be, then I will hope it will be and plan it won't be.
If it should be, then I will work so it will be and plan it won't be.
If it should be, then I will encourage it to be and plan it won't be.
If it should be, then I will value, desire, and do all I can for it to be while I plan it won't be.
2009-03-29
Do more than your best and learn to expect ever more.
Do more than your best and learn that a champion does ever more.
Do more than your best and learn from your efforts how to ever do more.
Do more than your best and learn from your results how to ever do more.
Do more than your best and learn from your mistakes and limits how best to do ever more.
2009-03-28
You say they should do the good, then give them good so they can.
You say they should feel good, then give them good feelings so they can.
You say they should think good, then give them good to think so they can.
You say they should choose the good, then give them good so they can and will.
You say they should not do the bad, then give them good so they can do the good instead.
2009-03-27
Ask yourself and others how your choices are affecting your goals.
Ask yourself and others how your thoughts are affecting your goals.
Ask yourself and others how your feelings are affecting your goals.
Ask yourself and others how your behaviors are affecting your goals.
Ask yourself and others how your attitudes, time management, entertainment choices, hobbies, media choices, and support system are affecting your goals.
2009-03-26
Christianity, unlike Churchianity, is about giving acts of medicine in exchange for acts of poison.
Christianity, unlike Churchianity, is about giving words of medicine in exchange for words of poison.
Christianity, unlike Churchianity, is about giving positive feelings of medicine to those who seek to poison you with negative feelings.
Christianity, unlike Churchianity, is about giving thoughts and prayers of medicine to those who seek to harm you with poisonous thoughts and prayers.
Christianity, unlike Churchianity, is about giving attitudes of medicine to those who seek to poison you with prejudice, discrimination, racism, intolerance, bigotry, hate.
2009-03-25
The more one knows, the stupider one becomes: ever greater awareness of our life in darkness with our primitive motivations.
The more one knows, the stupider one becomes: ever greater awareness that thinking you know is the best definition of stupid.
The more one knows, the stupider one becomes: ever greater awareness of how little knowledge you have of the knowledge available.
The more one knows, the stupider one becomes: ever greater awareness of how irrational, self-defeating, and retarded human behavior is.
The more one knows, the stupider one becomes: ever greater awareness that knowledge and learning do not keep you from thinking, feeling, and acting stupidly.
2009-03-24
Find the actions of self inside: they are your consciousness and awareness of what is inside you.
Find the actions of self inside: they are your responses and reactions to what is inside you.
Find the actions of self inside: they are your choices what to keep inside you.
Find the actions of self inside: they are your choices what to throw out of you.
Find the actions of self inside: they are your choices what to seek and what to avoid for your inside.
2009-03-23
Find the actions of self inside: they are not your dwelling and looping on the past.
Find the actions of self inside: they are not your fears and worries about the future.
Find the actions of self inside: they are not your chattering that does nothing but chatter.
Find the actions of self inside: they are not your unproductive but wearying mental noises that you seek to escape and hide in darkness.
Find the actions of self inside: they are not your so-called thoughts that do not follow reason, logic, testing, verifiability, reliability, or any outcome standards.
2009-03-22
You are the gatekeeper of your heart, keep the good and throw out the garbage.
You are the gatekeeper of your soul, keep the good and throw out the garbage.
You are the gatekeeper of your mind, keep the good and throw out the garbage.
You are the gatekeeper of your body, keep the good and throw out the garbage.
You are the gatekeeper of your time, keep the good and throw out the garbage.
2009-03-21
Your bitterness will only pass when you give up on it.
Acting bitterly towards me will not teach me to give up my bitterness.
Holding onto your bitterness hoping I will give up my bitterness first is the game of married fools.
Focusing on the bitterness in others, to stay unaware of the bitterness in you, will make things worse not better.
Even Western medicine eventually learned, through trial and error, that sickness is a bitterness that needs sweetness.
2009-03-20
Carrying poison and trying to poison others to get rid of it is simply stupid.
How long are you going to blame the poison you choose to carry on others?
How long before you realize that carrying poison to poison others poisons you more?
How long before you realize that adding poison to poison only increases poison for all?
Blaming others for poisoning your self, when no one has access to your self but you, is delusional.
2009-03-19
You can control how I feel about myself, but you cannot control how I feel about you.
You can put my self at risk with your criticism, but you cannot stop me from putting your self at risk too.
You can make me dwell on the bad and so make me feel bad, but you cannot stop me from trying to do the same to you.
You can make it about me and so cause me to personalize it and feel bad, but you cannot control my trying to make it about you.
No, instead, I will stop giving you the opportunity and temptation to hurt yourself, and I will stop taking advantage of the opportunities you give me to hurt myself.
2009-03-18
You can control my self-talk and make me hate myself, but you cannot control what I think of you.
You can control my heart and hurt me, but you cannot control my behavior and make me do anything.
You can control my heart and make me mad, but you cannot control my mind and make me think anything.
You can control my identity and make me think bad of myself and so hurt myself, but you cannot control my attitude.
No, instead, I will stop playing voodoo-emotion games with you, stop thinking you can control some of me but not all of me, and take responsibility for how I feel and not how you feel.
2009-03-17
I am capable of having God do in me, but I am incapable of doing by myself.
I am capable of having God be in me, but I am incapable of being by myself.
I am capable of having God know in me, but I am incapable of knowing by myself.
I am capable of having God know in me, but I am incapable of learning anything myself.
I am capable of having God know in me, but I am incapable of understanding, wisdom, or insight by myself.
2009-03-16
I expect wrong, yet, hypocritically, I insist on right.
I am a pessimist, yet, hypocritically, I demand perfection.
I am a cynic, yet, hypocritically, I demand things be what they should be.
I am a skeptic, yet, hypocritically, I demand people do what they should do.
I always believe in the dark side, yet, hypocritically, I demand people always do what is bright and best.
2009-03-15
If things were easy, then I would have to change; therefore, I find things that are impossible.
If things went well, then I would have to change; therefore, I find things that fail or get worse.
If things were fair, then I would have to change; therefore, I find things that are unfair or unjust.
If people did what they should, then I would have to change; therefore, I find people who do what they should not do.
If people were supportive and encouraging, then I would have to change; therefore, I find people who are demoralizing and discouraging.
2009-03-14
If only things were fair, then I could change.
If only things went better, then I could change.
If only things were easier, then I could change.
If only people did what they should do, then I could change.
If only people were supportive and encouraging, then I could change.
2009-03-13
Forgiveness acknowledges that people choose wrongly, and forgives them but neither their choices nor their actions.
Forgiveness acknowledges that people are fragile, weak, and breakable, and forgives them but neither their choices nor their actions.
Forgiveness acknowledges that people fail themselves more than they fail you, and forgives them but neither their choices nor their actions.
Forgiveness acknowledges that people need to be forgiven so people (including yourself) can be forgiven, and forgives them but neither their choices nor their actions.
Forgiveness acknowledges that people do the best they can with what they have even if that still means they choose and act poorly, and forgives them but neither their choices nor their actions.
2009-03-12
Forgiveness heals you by helping you let go anger, blame, and damning.
Forgiveness heals you by helping you have the mercy you need for yourself by giving it to others.
Forgiveness heals you by helping you find acceptance because without acceptance there is no peace.
Forgiveness heals you by helping you detach your perpetrator from their sins and so yourself from your sins.
Forgiveness heals you by helping you let go of resentment, revenge, and the many poisons you feed yourself in the hopes of feeding others.
2009-03-11
Forgive for freedom.
Forgive humanity not evil.
Forgive the sinner not the sin.
Forgive the person not the crime.
Forgive them forgive you because we are all one.
2009-03-10
Forgive your abusive parent and pity them, because they weakly gave into our poor human nature.
Forgive your abusive parent and pity them, because they failed themselves and God more than you.
Forgive your abusive parent and pity them, because the garbage-baggage you carry is poisoning and convicting you not them.
Forgive your abusive parent and pity them, because we are all equal, and if any of us are not drawn to the good, then we choose the evil.
Forgive your abusive parent and pity them, because they share the same human nature with you, and if they cannot be forgiven, then neither can you.
2009-03-09
The point of duality is the wide in-between.
The point of yin and yang is the tension and motivation between them.
The point of dichotomy is the fertile valley that lies between the two horizons.
The point of bipolar is the light and energy generated between them as happens with light bulbs and electricity.
The point of the opposites is not oneness or synthesis but maintaining the division for the measuring and discovering it provides.
2009-03-08
Tasting is flavorless.
Seeing is imageless.
Smelling is odorless.
Hearing is soundless.
Touching is feelingless.
2009-03-07
You can be experiencing or thinking, but not both at once.
You can be listening to yourself or us, but not both at once.
You can be with your thinking or with us, but not both at once.
You can be in your inner world or in your outer world, but not both at once.
You can be feeling or thinking, but not both at once even though rapidly switching between the two can make them appear simultaneous.
2009-03-06
Trust some intuition but no thinking.
Trust some sensing but no thinking.
Trust some feelings but no thinking.
Trust some gut-feelings but no thinking.
Trust some experiencing but no thinking.
2009-03-05
You have met the enemy and it is you: you repeat negative thoughts about yourself far more than anyone every told them to you.
You have met the enemy and it is you: you are choosing not to test your thoughts for their results when you are the only one who can screen them.
You have met the enemy and it is you: you externalize your problems and so make them out of control, and no one can ever do or undo that for you.
You have met the enemy and it is you: you brainwash yourself with your self-talk more than any advertising, education, government, or religion could ever hope to do.
You have met the enemy and it is you: you alone are making your habits with your self-talk, are not making sure you are making good habits, and are not removing and replacing your bad habits with good ones.
2009-03-04
You have met the enemy and it is you: you are the gatekeeper of your mind and the world can do nothing to take that job from you.
You have met the enemy and it is you: you condition yourself more with your self-talk than anything the world can condition you with.
You have met the enemy and it is you: you cause your luck, fate, and fortune more with your self-talk than anything the world can do.
You have met the enemy and it is you: you cause your feelings more with your self-talk than anything the world can do to cause your feelings.
You have met the enemy and it is you: you control your attitude, outlook, and perspective more with your self-talk than anything the world can do.
2009-03-03
You have met the enemy and it is you: you control your identity and your identity controls you more than what happens to you.
You have met the enemy and it is you: you control your self-talk and your self-talk controls you more than what happens to you.
You have met the enemy and it is you: you control your ego payoffs and rewards and they control you more than what happens to you.
You have met the enemy and it is you: you control what you dwell on and what you dwell on controls you more than what happens to you.
You have met the enemy and it is you: you control what you take to heart and what you take to heart controls you more than what happens to you.
2009-03-02
Right fear of God: fear His justice not Him.
Right fear of God: fear to offend Him not Him.
Right fear of God: fear not serving Him not Him.
Right fear of God: fear His righteousness not Him.
Right fear of God: fear His power and authority not Him.
2009-03-01
To be just fair is to value nothing.
Fairness alone is the enemy of value.
The value of fairness is its impossibility.
Value variableness as much as fairness.
Fairness as the only value is of no value.
2009-02-28
If you believe the past rules the present, then focus on the good in the past.
If you believe the past rules the present, then build your new past starting today.
If you believe the past rules the present, then you mistake habit for determinism.
If you believe the past rules the present, then you need to make better habits now to override your ineffective old habits.
If you believe the past rules the present, then rewrite, reframe, and reconceptualize your past till you can get the good out and leave the bad behind.
2009-02-27
You chose to carry shame and guilt for others, then you blame them and want them to change so you can be free.
You chose a partner who will play your parent, then you blame them and want them to change so you can be free.
You chose someone who has your same faults, then you blame them and want them to change so you can be free.
You chose someone who it is easy to be angry with or to worry about, then you blame them and want them to change so you can be free.
You chose someone who will despise you and make you feel depressed, then you blame them and want them to change so you can be free.
2009-02-26
Don't you want more than a paid listener who is afraid to teach?
Don't you want more than medications that only slow and hide symptoms?
Don't you want more than an endless hunt for unprovable causes to your problems?
Don't you want more than a paid friend who is afraid to tell you what you are doing wrong?
Aren't you ready to learn new coping, problem-solving, and relating skills to help you overcome your emotional and relational problems now?
2009-02-25
What you own owns you.
Products possess purchasers.
You belong to your belongings.
Possessions are the possessors.
Commerce consumes consumers.
2009-02-24
Life is always different from theory.
Truth is always different from theory.
Reality is always different from theory.
Experience is always different from theory.
Actuality, existence, the human condition, the way of life, the story, the tangible, events, happenings, encounters, adversities, danger, misfortune, hard times, and what is are always different from theory.
2009-02-23
You know we are evolving when: gossip passes for news.
You know we are evolving when: talking passes for singing.
You know we are evolving when: factory noise passes for music.
You know we are evolving when: whining passes for political commentary.
You know we are evolving when: poetry is either only in the gutter or the ivory tower.
2009-02-22
The wise prefers the inner life to the sham of the outer life.
The wise understands life as a journey from the outer to the inner.
The wise does not want to return to childhood realizing that children foolishly prefer the outer life.
The wise prefers the joy and meaning of the inner life while the foolish seek pleasure and meaning in entertainment and possessions.
The wise knows that returning to childhood with what they know now would ruin childhood with judgment, criticism, and intolerance of the foolishness, misdirection, and naivety of childhood.
2009-02-21
Be the peace the conflict needs.
Be the justice the injustice needs.
Be the forgiveness the feud needs.
Be the directness the politics needs.
Be the freedom the oppression needs.
2009-02-20
Be the love the hate needs.
Be the faith the doubt needs.
Be the charity the anger needs.
Be the peace the anxiety needs.
Be the hope the discouragement needs.
2009-02-19
Who you are is none of your business.
Who you are is the business of your maker not you.
Who you are is beyond your power, authority, or influence.
Who you are is so simple, single, and complete that you miss it.
Who you are cannot be created, changed, converted, or controlled by you.
2009-02-18
The greatest music is silent.
The greatest writing is wordless.
The greatest sculpture is formless.
The greatest architecture is empty.
The greatest painting is imageless.
2009-02-17
Be full in futility.
Be still in singing.
Be effortless in effort.
Be silent in speaking.
Be secure in insecurity.
2009-02-16
Counseling relationship: Believe they can do well, but also teach them the skills they need to do well.
Counseling relationship: Sympathize with their problems, but also teach them how to overcome their problems.
Counseling relationship: Show some interest in how their troubles began, but show great interest in how they can solve their troubles now.
Counseling relationship: Believe in them and their potential, but also teach them the skills they need to develop and implement their potential.
Counseling relationship: Model compassion, but also teach them compassion and have them test how compassion is valuable for their relating.
2009-02-15
Right debt.
Right devotion.
Right distraction.
Right detachment.
Right deconstruction.
2009-02-14
Anger does not attain it warns to end.
Anger does not achieve it alarms to halt.
Anger does not actualize it warns to stop.
Anger does not accomplish it alarms of hurt.
Anger will get you the opposite of what you want if you try to achieve with anger.
2009-02-13
Anxiety does not attain it warns to prevent.
Anxiety does not achieve it alarms to avoid.
Anxiety does not actualize it warns to escape.
Anxiety does not accomplish it alarms to warn.
Anxiety will get you the opposite of what you want if you try to achieve with anxiety.
2009-02-12
The ancient values work best.
The ancient sayings are the deepest sayings.
The ancient teachings are the most relevant teachings.
The ancient practices and principles are the practices and principles with the best results.
The ancient ways of philosophy, psychology, human relations, and spiritual practices are what we need most now.
2009-02-11
There is One who knows: you can never learn or understand but only host His knowing.
There is One who knows: you can find or reveal nothing that is not already known.
There is One who knows: you can invent or create nothing that is not already known.
There is One who knows: you can discover or uncover nothing that is not already known.
There is One who knows: there is no one who can show or teach you what only God can and will when asked humbly and openly.
2009-02-10
There is no way to rest in God but to wait on God.
There is no way to peace in God but to follow God.
There is no way to quiet in God but to be still in God.
There is no way to salvation in God but surrender to God.
There is no way to safety in God but to be a child with God.
2009-02-09
There is no method, practice, or exercise to arrive at nondoing.
There is no struggle, battle, or conflict that will get you to peace.
There is no thinking that can reach stillness, silence, or quietude.
There is no study, knowledge, or learning that can return you to effortlessness.
There is no whining, blaming, or damning that can let go, let be, let pass, surrender, turn over, forgive, move on, detach.
2009-02-08
Right identity.
Right self-talk.
Right motivation.
Right attachment.
Right responsibility.
2009-02-07
Driving in the city there is no city.
Drinking the river there is no river.
Reading in the library there is no library.
Climbing the mountain there is no mountain.
Eating at the restaurant there is no restaurant.
2009-02-06
Counseling relationship: Support and encouragement, yes, and also more tools and skills.
Counseling relationship: Support and encouragement, yes, and also more challenges and risks.
Counseling relationship: Support and encouragement, yes, and also more internal reference, internal locus of control, and focus on your doing the right thing anyway.
Counseling relationship: Support and encouragement, yes, and also more focus on changing your thinking, feeling, and behaving and less on changing that of others.
Counseling relationship: Support and encouragement, yes, and also more responsibility, accountability, and results-oriented testing of your thinking, feeling, and behaving.
2009-02-05
Pray for help and seek help.
Pray for love and love others.
Pray for the well and dig the well.
Pray for the job and look for the job.
Pray for food and hunt, fish, and plant food.
2009-02-04
The purpose of life is not to eliminate work, but to use work as an opportunity to learn to be part of the solution instead of the problem.
The purpose of life is not to eliminate pain and suffering, but to use pain and suffering as an opportunity to learn compassion, forgiveness, and spirituality.
The purpose of life is not to eliminate failure and mistake, but to use failure and mistake as an opportunity to learn new skills, techniques, and procedures.
The purpose of life is not to eliminate frustration and hardship, but to use frustration and hardship as an opportunity to learn better problem-solving and coping skills.
The purpose of life is not to eliminate struggle and difficulty, but to use struggle and difficulty as an opportunity to learn to become stronger and healthier in many areas and ways.
2009-02-03
Self-talk: Negative self-talk does not improve self, but, instead, reinforces self as the bad.
Self-talk: Negative self-talk does not motivate to the good, but, instead, discourages good.
Self-talk: Negative self-talk does not lead to the good, but, instead, often leads to the bad as that is seen as the only choice left.
Self-talk: Negative self-talk is impractical and ineffective because negative self-talk focuses on controlling and changing self instead of behavior.
Self-talk: Negative self-talk does not change or control negative behavior, but, instead, convinces you that negative behavior is both inevitable and inescapable.
2009-02-02
Don't wait to work until it is the right time or place: do it now.
Don't wait to work until you have the right tools or help: start it now.
Don't wait to work until you feel like it or are in the mood: do it now.
Don't wait to work until conditions and timing are just right: start it now.
Don't wait to work until deadlines, pressures, stressors, or outside forces seem to force it: do it now.
2009-02-01
Changing relationship styles to change thinking, feeling, and behaving can be effective, however, a change in feelings will weather trials and tribulations better.
Changing feelings to change thinking, behaving, and feeling can be effective, however, a change in behaviors will weather trials and tribulations better.
Changing behaviors to change thinking, behaving, and feeling can be effective, however, a change in scripts will weather trials and tribulations better.
Changing scripts to change thinking, behaving, and feeling can be effective, however, a change in thinking will weather trials and tribulations better.
Changing thinking to change thinking, behaving, and feeling can be effective, however, a change in identity will be deeper, stronger, and better generalized.
2009-01-31
Other-control is the political way but self-control is the spiritual way.
Other-control is impossible but self-control can be learned and practiced.
Other-control fails but self-control succeeds with both example and influence.
Other-control is ineffective and immature but self-control is effective and adult.
Other-control appears easy and natural but self-control is what actually works and wins.
2009-01-30
Bad choices make the choices bad not the person.
Bad feelings make the feelings bad not the person.
Bad thinking makes the thinking bad not the person.
Bad behaviors make the behaviors bad not the person.
Bad motivating makes the motivating bad not the person.
2009-01-29
There is none good but one: God.
No human being can be good.
All attempts to be good are evil.
There is no such thing as a good person.
There is no greater evil than becoming good.
2009-01-28
Spiritual psychology: There is nothing I will do by myself to follow the good.
Spiritual psychology: There is nothing I can do by myself to follow the good.
Spiritual psychology: There is nothing I can learn by myself to follow the good.
Spiritual psychology: There is nothing I would do by myself to follow the good.
Spiritual psychology: There is nothing I can know by myself to follow the good.
2009-01-27
Advice: Work shorter but smarter.
Advice: Clean less but organize more.
Advice: Donate less money but give more time.
Advice: Speak less about love but show more love.
Advice: Collect less but care more for what you have.
2009-01-26
Advice: Tell less ask more.
Advice: Preach less pray more.
Advice: Speak less show more.
Advice: Eat less exercise more.
Advice: Believe less produce more.
2009-01-25
My attackers are strong, I am weak, my God is all strength.
My attackers are confident, I am hopeless, my God is my salvation.
My attackers are accomplished, I am incapable, my God is all good.
My attackers are self-sufficient, I am helpless, my God is all powerful.
My attackers are unrelenting, I am insecure, my God is an unmovable rock.
2009-01-24
If it should be, then I will pray for it and plan for its opposite.
If it should be, then I will work for it and plan for its opposite.
If it should be, then I will hope for it and plan for its opposite.
If it should be, then I will encourage it and plan for its opposite.
If it should be, then I will value, desire, and do all I can for it while I plan for its opposite.
2009-01-23
Self: What is the sound of the silent self?
Self: What is the action of the resting self?
Self: What is the movement of the still self?
Self: What is the effort of the effortless self?
Self: What is the doing of the nondoing self?
2009-01-22
You cannot know Christianity: you can only live in Christianity.
You cannot do Christianity: you can only be under Christianity.
You cannot be Christianity: you can only be inside Christianity.
You cannot have Christianity: you can only host Christianity.
You cannot be a source for Christianity: you can only be a channel for Christianity.
2009-01-21
Criticism versus judgment: Criticism is emotional sway whereas judgment is rational sway.
Criticism versus judgment: Criticism comes from a bitter root whereas judgment comes from a sweet root.
Criticism versus judgment: Criticism is without boundaries, rules, or limits, whereas, judgment is bound within strict rules and limits.
Criticism versus judgment: Criticism claims to use judgment, however, criticism only distorts, exploits, and misinterprets judgment for its purposes.
Criticism versus judgment: Judgment claims to abhor and avoid criticism in order to keep clean its vision and clear its openness to what comes unwanted or unexpected to light during dialectical discourse.
2009-01-20
Equality: Death demonstrates the finality of human equality.
Equality: There is only one human nature, hence, all humans are one and so equal.
Equality: Human nature is universal to humans, hence, all humans are universally equal.
Equality: God is no respecter of persons so judges the janitor equal to the president, for all are equal before God and justice.
Equality: Yes, humans differ in the quality and goodness of their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, however, humans differ not in any fundamental way one from another.
2009-01-19
There are no problems only fears of solutions.
There are no problems only undiscovered solutions.
There are no problems only better or worse solutions.
There are no problems only poisoned minds unable to let go long enough to discover solutions.
There are no problems only the fears of losing attachments to problems and the habits of problems for unlived solutions.
2009-01-18
I am nothing hosting.
I am nothing reflecting.
I am nothing amplifying.
I am nothing magnifying.
I am nothing transceiving.
2009-01-17
Adult: My feelings are my responsibility to choose and care for.
Child: My feelings are your responsibility to choose and care for.
Adult: My problems are not shared by everyone and are neither their concern nor my excuse to give others more problems.
Child: My problems are everyone's problem and give me every right to expect others to be concerned and to give others more problems.
Adult: My experiences are not shared by everyone and others find their own experiences more valid and important than my experiences.
Child: My experiences are reality, universal, necessary, and not to be denied, differed with, or disputed by anyone or anything.
2009-01-16
On planet Earth it is strange but true that: family, friends, and spouses are the last to trust or encourage you.
On planet Earth it is strange but true that: family, friends, and spouses are the last to support your dreams and goals.
On planet Earth it is strange but true that: family, friends, and spouses are the last to believe in you or to stand up for you.
On planet Earth it is strange but true that: family, friends, and spouses are the last you should go into business with or have money dealings with.
On planet Earth it is strange but true that: family, friends, and spouses are the last to help you overcome shame, guilt, grief, anger, anxiety, or depression.
2009-01-15
On planet Earth it is strange but true that: family, friends, and spouses are the first to tempt and mislead you.
On planet Earth it is strange but true that: family, friends, and spouses are the first to betray and sabotage you.
On planet Earth it is strange but true that: family, friends, and spouses are the first to teach you wrong coping and problem-solving.
On planet Earth it is strange but true that: family, friends, and spouses are the first to ruin holidays, romance, idealism, optimism, and dreams.
On planet Earth it is strange but true that: family, friends, and spouses are the first to gossip, criticize, doubt, discourage, despise, hurt, and harm you.
2009-01-14
Just as avoiding all germs will make you vulnerable to any germ, so too avoiding all frustrations will make you vulnerable to any frustration.
A wise parent puts frustration in their child's path and then helps their child cope and problem-solve that and ever greater frustrations.
Learning to cope with disappointment is part of a practical and balanced childhood education.
Soothing any and all discomforts for a child prepares them for life in Heaven not life on Earth.
Learning to live with pain and suffering is part of a realistic childhood education, and is the best preventive medicine against teenage suicide.
2009-01-13
Mental health is about: right identity.
Mental health is about: right self-talk.
Mental health is about: right attention.
Mental health is about: right coping and problem-solving.
Mental health is about: right thinking, feeling, and behaving.
2009-01-12
You say you do not want a relationship with this person or some type of people, however: your responses and reactions are a relationship.
You say you do not want a relationship with this person or some type of people, however: your thoughts and feelings about them are a relationship.
You say you do not want a relationship with this person or some type of people, however: your prosecution and defense speeches are a relationship.
You say you do not want a relationship with this person or some type of people, however: your poor coping and problem-solving regarding them are a relationship.
You say you do not want a relationship with this person or some type of people, however: your analysis, judging, planning, fixation, focus, worry, belief, and hate are a relationship.
2009-01-11
Deconstruct your ideas of life till they are no more than the illusions they are.
Deconstruct your ideas of self till they are no more than the delusions they are.
Deconstruct your ideas of others till they are no more than the fantasies they are.
Deconstruct your ideas of past, present, and future till they are no more than the hallucinations they are.
Deconstruct your ideas of experience, reality, and memory till they are no more than the apparitions they are.
2009-01-10
What is the good of your being right when it hurts the relationship?
What is the good of your being right when it insults our intelligence and sense of self?
What is the good of your being right when we just want to rebel and prove you wrong?
What is the good of your being right when people resist it because they feel controlled?
What is the good of your being right when it turns us against you and leads to our sabotaging you?
2009-01-09
You will find yourself when you accept yourself as: still and silent.
You will find yourself when you accept yourself as: simple and single.
You will find yourself when you accept yourself as: nondoing and rest.
You will find yourself when you accept yourself as: an empty space and place.
You will find yourself when you accept yourself as: completely incapable, totally dependent, utterly powerless.
2009-01-08
You are the awareness of the visual, not the visual.
You are the awareness of feelings, not the feelings.
You are the awareness of the verbal, not the verbal.
You are the awareness of experience, not experience.
You are the awareness of sensations, not the sensations.
2009-01-07
Spiritual surrender: Lose to win.
Spiritual surrender: Give to receive.
Spiritual surrender: Retreat to advance.
Spiritual surrender: Withdrawal to engage.
Spiritual surrender: Give credit to get credit.
2009-01-06
While you insist that I detach that you might, you remain weakly attached.
While you urge me to detach from the problem and let go, you cling to your demand to see it your way.
While you argue why I should let the matter pass, you also argue why you should keep the matter here.
While you explain your bondage to your view as right and my bondage to my view as wrong, you bind us both the more.
While you demand your correctness and despise my correctness, you steal me against your will to run my very thoughts.
2009-01-05
No matter how hard or long you think snow, the experience of snow will be different.
No matter how hard or long you think about food, thinking about food will never be the same as eating food.
No matter how hard or long you think cold, thinking cold will never be the same as putting your hand in ice and feeling cold.
No matter how hard or long you think about love, experiencing either being loved or loving will never be the same as thinking of love.
No matter how hard or long you think about or believe in faith, hope, or charity--only the deep feeling of faith, hope, or charity is the real.
2009-01-04
Maya: The self you think you are does not exist.
Maya: The person you want to be will never exist.
Maya: The life you think you live does not exist.
Maya: The life you want to have will never exist.
Maya: The people you think were, are, or will be in your life do not exist.
2009-01-03
Sane expectation: What should be will not be.
Realistic prediction: If it should be, then it won't be.
Rational perspective: Pray for the best, expect the worst.
Fair outlook: If it is fair, then it won't be. If it is just, then it won't be. If it is right, then it won't be.
Historical perspective: If there is one sensible course of action, then it will be the last chosen if it is ever chosen.
2009-01-02
There is no work that can lead to rest.
There is no sound that can lead to quiet.
There is no action that can lead to inaction.
There is no doing that can lead to nondoing.
There is no effort that can lead to effortlessness.
2009-01-01
Rest in action.
Inaction in action.
Stillness in motion.
Nondoing in doing.
Motionless in motion.
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