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"It is the part of an uneducated person to blame others where he himself fares ill; to blame himself is the part of one whose education has begun; to blame neither another nor his own self is the part of one whose education is already complete."--Epictetus, Enchiridion
"As long as the mind is in conflict--blaming, resisting, condemning--there can be no understanding. If I want to understand you, I must not condemn you, obviously."--J. Krishnamurti in The Collected Works of J. Krishnamurti, Volume V, page 51

"We can actually put the essence of neurosis in a single word: blaming--or damning."--Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 127.
"Three core irrationalities: A philosophy of self-denigration, an intolerance of frustration, a blaming and condemning of others."--Walen, S., R., DiGiuseppe, R., and Dryden, W. (1992), A Practitioner's Guide to Rational-Emotive Therapy (2nd edition), p.128
"Let us not burden our remembrances with a heaviness that is gone."--William Shakespeare
"The moment you blame anyone for anything, your relationship and your personal power deteriorate."--Brian Koslow
"You can overcome anything if you don't bellyache."--Bernard Baruch
"Give not over thy mind to heaviness, and afflict not thyself in thine own counsel."--Ecclesiasticus 30:21
"Do not weep; do not wax indignant. Understand."--Baruch Spinoza
"Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain and most fools do."--Benjamin Franklin
"When you blame others, you give up your power to change."--Anonymous
"Take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame."--Erica Jong
"Teaching the principle of emotional responsibility can be one of the hardest tasks in REBT as clients may have habitually blamed others for their problems and now the therapist is pointing to the true source of their emotional problems--themselves."--Michael Neenan and Windy Dryden,Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy: Advances in Theory and Practice, page 43
"You can overcome anything if you don't bellyache."--Bernard M. Baruch
"You will become a teacher of yourself when for the same things that you blame others, you also blame yourself."--Diogenes of Sinope, fragment
"When a man points a finger at someone else, he should remember that four of his fingers are pointing at himself."--Louis Nizer
"The farther behind I leave the past, the closer I am to forging my own character."--Isabelle Eberhardt
"Fear less, hope more; eat less, chew more; whine less, breathe more; talk less, say more; hate less, love more; and all good things are yours."--Swedish proverb
"Hate is like acid. It can damage the vessel in which it is stored as well as destroy the object on which it is poured."--Ann Landers
"And be silent for the most part, or else make only the most necessary remarks, and express these in few words. But rarely, and when occasion requires you to talk, talk, indeed, but about no ordinary topics. Do not talk about gladiators, or horseraces, or athletes, or things to eat or drink--topics that arise on all occasions; but above all, do not talk about people, either blaming, or praising, or comparing them."--Epictetus, Enchiridion
"Do not look at the faults of others, or what others have done or not done; observe what you yourself have and have not done."--The Dhammapada, 4:4

"Don't see others' faults, see your own. For if you dwell on others' faults, your own get stronger."--Dhammapada: Flaws, verses 252-253
"Make every effort not to indulge in negative thoughts, cruel words, and bad deeds."--Dhammapada: The Right Way, verse 281
"Hatreds do not ever cease in this world by hating, but by love; this is an eternal truth."--The Dhammapada, 1:5
"Overcome anger by love, overcome evil by good. Overcome the miser by giving, overcome the liar by truth."--The Dhammapada, 17:3
"Not flattered by praise, not hurt by blame."--Buddhist saying
"Do not welcome praise, nor hide from blame. Listen to your Truth and stay calm and clear."--The Dhammapada: The Wise Person, verses 81-82

"Blame is a lazy man's wages."--Danish Proverb
"No one is a failure until they blame somebody else."--Charles (Tremendous) Jones
"A man may fall many times but he won't be a failure until he says someone pushed him."--Elmer G. Letterman
"A man can get discouraged many times but he is not a failure until he begins to blame somebody else and stops trying."--John Burroughs
"People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can't find them, make them."--George Bernard Shaw
"A man should never be ashamed to own he has been in the wrong, which is but saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday."--Alexander Pope
"If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn't sit for a month."--Anonymous
"There can be no doubt that the average man blames much more than he praises. His instinct is to blame. If he is satisfied he says nothing; if he is not, he most illogically kicks up a row."--Arnold Bennett
"The search for someone to blame is always successful."--Robert Half
"When we blame, we give away our power."--Greg Anderson
"When you blame others, you give up your power to change."--Dr. Robert Anthony
"All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you."--Wayne Dyer
"A good leader takes a little more than his share of the blame, a little less than his share of the credit."--Arnold H. Glasgow
"To find a fault is easy; to do better may be difficult."--Plutarch
"In short, luck's always to blame."--Jean De La Fontaine
"I praise loudly, I blame softly."--Catherine II of Russia
"Before we blame we should first see whether we cannot excuse."--George C. Lichtenberg
"Don't be a blame thrower."--Greg Hickman
"Fix the problem, not the blame."--Catherine Pulsifer
"Don't make excuses, make good."--Elbert Hubbard
"The superior man blames himself. The inferior man blames others."--Don Shula

"Be slow to anger, slow to blame,

And slow to plead thy cause.

But swift to speak of any gain

That gives thy friend applause."

--Mary Whitcher, Shaker member

"Damning is when the cure is worse than the illness."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

"Damning people for their crimes is the bigger crime."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"To damn anyone requires that you first damn your self."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"Feeling stupid won't make you smart."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"The whiner equates pain with power."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"Feeling bad won't make you good."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"Damning is turning the living into things, into the dead."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"Damning is when the medicine is worse than the poison."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"Being right does not give you the right to damn."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"Only God can damn without serving Satan."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

"There is only one human species, to damn any member of that species is to damn the entire species."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"Whining, blaming, and damning is throwing dust into the wind only for it to return to hurt your eyes."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"Damning is the worst form of demanding."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"To condemn anyone is to condemn not only everyone, but their maker too."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

"You are what you hate not what you ate."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

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