 |
|
|
|
|
3 Rs Meta Theory: 3 Stages of Switching
SEARCH
DRINK
DISCOVER
DISCOVER
"Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end."--Proverbs 19:20
THREE STAGES OF THERAPY:
A META THEORY OF THERAPY
The Three Rs of Therapy are:
recognize, remove, and replace.
RECOGNIZE: Stage I
You must recognize
the self-defeating habit.
REMOVE: Stage II
You must remove
the self-defeating habit.
REPLACE: Stage III
You must replace
the self-defeating habit.
STAGE I THERAPY: RECOGNIZE
You must RECOGNIZE
the self-defeating habit.
Therapeutic work at the first stage
concerns two kinds of movement:
MOVEMENT
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
OR--
FROM denial TO intellectual understanding.
FROM no desire TO mental desire to change.
COUNSELOR'S STAGE I TASKS
1. Help increase understanding (insight) regarding the nature of the problem by exploring its consequences.
2. Help increase desire (motivation) to get rid of the problem by increasing understanding of practical solutions.
3. Teach cognitive (thinking) skills, e.g., sorting, testing, accurate recall.
4. Teach awareness and introspection skills so client can learn to recognize the problem.
STAGE II THERAPY: REMOVE
You must REMOVE
the self-defeating habit.
Therapeutic work at the second stage
concerns two kinds of movement:
MOVEMENT
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
OR--
FROM thinking awareness TO feeling awareness.
FROM thinking desire TO emotional desire.
COUNSELOR'S STAGE II TASKS
1. Help increase emotional awareness of the impact of the problem by heartily disputing the thinking, feeling, and behaving that maintains the problem.
2. Help increase emotional motivation to get rid of the problem by increasing emotional awareness of practical solutions.
3. Teach emotional (feeling) skills, e.g., emotional responsibility.
4. Teach meditation and detachment skills.
STAGE III THERAPY: REPLACE
You must REPLACE
the self-defeating habit.
Therapeutic work at the third stage
concerns two kinds of movement:
MOVEMENT
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
OR--
FROM feeling awareness TO acting awareness.
FROM emotional desire TO acting desire.
COUNSELOR'S STAGE III TASKS
1. Help increase behavioral awareness of the impact of the problem by encouraging the client to persistently practice the new thinking, feeling, and behaving solutions.
2. Help increase behavioral motivation to get rid of the problem by reinforcing and generalizing new behavioral successes.
3. Teach behavioral and social skills, e.g., assertiveness.
4. Teach motivation, endurance, and persistence skills.
Dental Analogy of Counseling
NOTE: In same cases, it is best to modify the Three Rs to be Recognize, Reduce, Replace. Clearly, there are some situations that the best that can be hoped for is a reduction of the negative and an increase in the positive.
QUOTATIONS VARIOUS SOURCES
"A fool is only a fool because he won't see he is a fool."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"A man of genius makes no mistakes. His errors are volitional and are the portals of discovery."--James Joyce
"Failure doesn't have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person."--Albert Ellis & Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 206
"When receiving correction, the wise seeks to learn and the fool seeks to justify with excuses."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"My son, despise not the chastening of the LORD; neither be weary of his correction:"--Proverbs 3:11
"Correction is grievous unto him that forsaketh the way: and he that hateth reproof shall die."--Proverbs 15:5
"For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth."--Hebrews 12:6
"If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?"--Hebrews 12:7
"But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons."--Hebrews 12:8
"The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism."--Norman Vincent Peale
"By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future benefit."--Albert Ellis & Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 194. Order A Guide to Rational Living
"If we eliminated all errors, we would also eliminate much discovery, art, insight, learning, and creativity that results from facing errors."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"The greatest explorer on this earth never takes voyages as long as those of the man who descends to the depth of his heart."--Julien Green
"The great man is he who does not lose his child-heart."--Mencius
QUOTATIONS SCRIPTURE
"A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels:"--Proverbs 1:5
"Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety."--Proverbs 11:14
"The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise."--Proverbs 12:15
"Deceit is in the heart of them that imagine evil: but to the counsellors of peace is joy."--Proverbs 12:20
"Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counsellors they are established."--Proverbs 15:22
"Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end."--Proverbs 19:20
"Every purpose is established by counsel: and with good advice make war."--Proverbs 20:18
"Take counsel, execute judgment; make thy shadow as the night in the midst of the noonday; hide the outcasts; bewray not him that wandereth."--Isaiah 16:3
"Extol not thyself in the counsel of thine own heart; that thy soul be not torn in pieces as a bull [straying alone.]"--Ecclesiasticus 6:2
"As timber girt and bound together in a building cannot be loosed with shaking: so the heart that is stablished by advised counsel shall fear at no time."--Ecclesiasticus 22:16
"Give not over thy mind to heaviness, and afflict not thyself in thine own counsel."--Ecclesiasticus 30:21
"A man of counsel will be considerate; but a strange and proud man is not daunted with fear, even when of himself he hath done without counsel."--Ecclesiasticus 32:18
"And let the counsel of thine own heart stand: for there is no man more faithful unto thee than it."--Ecclesiasticus 37:13
"Let reason go before every enterprize, and counsel before every action."--Ecclesiasticus 38:33
"Gold and silver make the foot stand sure: but counsel is esteemed above them both."--Ecclesiasticus 40:25
|
RELATED PAGES |
|
