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Correction is Your Best Friend or Worst Enemy!
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Correction is either your friend or your enemy.
Correction is your enemy if you engage in self-esteem styles of thinking and false being: ego. Self-esteem thinking occurs whenever you identify with the knowledge of your comparisons of your self with others.
Why is correction your enemy? Because according to self-esteem: 1) You are your mistakes. 2) You are your failures. 3) You are your faults. 4) You are what you do. 5) You are your comparisons. Therefore, you must resist correction in order to resist the ego pain and self-damning that it will result in. For to you, correction = condemnation.
Correction is your friend when you engage in USE or USA. USE is unconditional self-esteem meaning that you do not identify with comparisons of your self and others: either high or low, either good or bad. USA is unconditional self-acceptance meaning that you accept yourself independently of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
Why is correction your friend? Because according to USE and USE: 1) You are NOT your mistakes. 2) You are NOT your failures. 3) You are NOT your faults. 4) You are NOT what you do. 5) You are NOT your comparisons. Therefore, you seek correction in order to improve your thinking so that you can perform better in the future. For to you, correction = support to succeed.
Correction of self is pain and leads to: anger, rebellion, lying, defensiveness, phoniness, contented conforming cows. Correction of thinking is curative and leads to wisdom.
First Question in Counseling
QUOTATIONS VARIOUS SOURCES
"Don't try to cover your mistakes with false words. Rather, correct your mistakes with examination."--Pythagoras, fragment
"A fool is only a fool because he won't see he is a fool."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"Failure doesn't have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person."--Albert Ellis & Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 206
"A man of genius makes no mistakes. His errors are volitional and are the portals of discovery."--James Joyce
"When receiving correction, the wise seeks to learn and the fool seeks to justify with excuses."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"My son, despise not the chastening of the LORD; neither be weary of his correction:"--Proverbs 3:11
"For the commandment is a lamp; and the law is light; and reproofs of instruction are the way of life:"--Proverbs 6:23
"Correction is grievous unto him that forsaketh the way: and he that hateth reproof shall die."--Proverbs 15:5
"For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth."--Hebrews 12:6
"If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?"--Hebrews 12:7
"But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons."--Hebrews 12:8
"The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism."--Norman Vincent Peale
"By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future benefit."--Albert Ellis & Robert A. Harper, A Guide to Rational Living, Third Edition, p. 194. Order A Guide to Rational Living
"If we eliminated all errors, we would also eliminate much discovery, art, insight, learning, and creativity that results from facing errors."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"The greatest explorer on this earth never takes voyages as long as those of the man who descends to the depth of his heart."--Julien Green
"For what glory is it, if, when ye be buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it patiently? but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it, ye take it patiently, this is acceptable with God."--I Peter 2:20
"No one wants advice--only corroboration."--John Steinbeck
"Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't."--Erica Jong
"Some people like my advice so much that they frame it upon the wall instead of using it."--Gordon R. Dickson
"There is no point to correction unless there is there is the possibility of correction."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful."--Proverbs 27:6
"When you lose, don't lose the lesson."--Anonymous
"Justifying a fault doubles it."--French proverb
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