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Passive to Aggressive: Using the 5 Thinking Positions

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 PASSIVE

 PASSIVE-
AGGRESSIVE

 ASSERTIVE

 AGGRESSIVE-
PASSIVE

 AGGRESSIVE

 

HELPS WHO

 

them

 

them with resentment

 

me and them

 

me with insecurity

 

me

 

NEGATIVE

 

doormat

 

sarcastic

 

self-centered

 

all bark and no bite

 

violent

 

POSITIVE

 

agreeable

 

flexible

 

strong

 

will compromise

 

takes care of number 1

 

FIGHTING

 

surrenders

 

sabotages

 

defends

 

threatens

 

attacks

 

MENTAL-COURT

 

victim

 

prosecutor

 

judge

jailer

 

defender

 

offender

 

REQUESTS

 

yes

 

probably

 

we will see

 

doubtful

 

no

This table is based on: 5 Thinking Positions

See it used in another table: 25 Relational Styles



QUOTATIONS VARIOUS SOURCES
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."--Dr. Seuss
"It is better to keep one's mouth shut and be thought a fool than to open it and resolve all doubt."--Abraham Lincoln
"Blessed is the man who, having nothing to say, abstains from giving us worthy evidence of the fact."--George Eliot
"Silence is one of the hardest arguments to refute."--Josh Billings
"Some man holdeth his tongue, because he hath not to answer: and some keepeth silence, knowing his time."--Ecclesiasticus 20:6
"Treat a man as he is, and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he could be, and he will become what he should be."--Ralph Waldo Emerson
"The most precious things in speech are pauses."--Ralph Richardson
"Don't speak unless you can improve on the silence."--Spanish proverb
"Foolishness always results when the tongue outraces the brain."--Unknown
"Among my most prized possessions are words that I have never spoken."--Orson Card
"Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones."--Proverbs 16:24
"Draw me not away with the wicked, and with the workers of iniquity, which speak peace to their neighbours, but mischief is in their hearts."--Psalms 28:3
"But as he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy in all manner of conversation;"--I Peter 1:15
"Education is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence."--Robert Frost
"The first duty of love is to listen."--Paul Tillich, 1886-1965

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