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Passive to Aggressive: Using the 5 Thinking Positions




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DISCOVER DRINK

	PASSIVE	PASSIVE- AGGRESSIVE	ASSERTIVE	AGGRESSIVE- PASSIVE	AGGRESSIVE
HELPS WHO	them	them with resentment	me and them	me with insecurity	me
NEGATIVE	doormat	sarcastic	self-centered	all bark and no bite	violent
POSITIVE	agreeable	flexible	strong	will compromise	takes care of number 1
FIGHTING	surrenders	sabotages	defends	threatens	attacks
MENTAL-COURT	victim	prosecutor	judge jailer	defender	offender
REQUESTS	yes	probably	we will see	doubtful	no

This table is based on: 5 Thinking Positions

See it used in another table: 25 Relational Styles

QUOTATIONS VARIOUS SOURCES

"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."--Dr. Seuss

"It is better to keep one's mouth shut and be thought a fool than to open it and resolve all doubt."--Abraham Lincoln

"Blessed is the man who, having nothing to say, abstains from giving us worthy evidence of the fact."--George Eliot

"Silence is one of the hardest arguments to refute."--Josh Billings

"Some man holdeth his tongue, because he hath not to answer: and some keepeth silence, knowing his time."--Ecclesiasticus 20:6

"Treat a man as he is, and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he could be, and he will become what he should be."--Ralph Waldo Emerson

"The most precious things in speech are pauses."--Ralph Richardson

"Don't speak unless you can improve on the silence."--Spanish proverb

"Foolishness always results when the tongue outraces the brain."--Unknown

"Among my most prized possessions are words that I have never spoken."--Orson Card

"Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones."--Proverbs 16:24

"Draw me not away with the wicked, and with the workers of iniquity, which speak peace to their neighbours, but mischief is in their hearts."--Psalms 28:3

"But as he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy in all manner of conversation;"--I Peter 1:15

"Education is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence."--Robert Frost

"The first duty of love is to listen."--Paul Tillich, 1886-1965