Do Not Argue Reality!

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1. Are you so fragile that you cannot bear to have anyone think different than you?
2. Are you so insecure about your experience that you have to have others agree to it in order to believe in it yourself?
3. Can we love each other and think differently?
4. Clearly, what we are arguing about is of little importance. Why then are we willing to hurt each other over it?
5. Diversity, perspective, and variation are natural parts of life.
6. Do you really want to relate only to people who see, think, feel, and remember as you do?
7. Do you think it makes you lovable when you argue over things of little significance?
8. I appreciate you letting me know what you think, I hope you are also interested in what I think.
9. I do not need your permission to think and feel differently than you do.
10. I have to be true to my experience and so do you, therefore, there is no value in arguing whose experience is right.
11. I understand that you thought I meant that, but I intended a different meaning.
12. If I do not do it perfectly, the right way, the most efficient way, your way--then what horrible magical thing are you predicting will happen to me?
13. If I gave up my reality for you, then I would not be a real person and you wouldn't like me for being so dependent.
14. If it is more important for you to be right about our experience than my feelings, then we will not get along.
15. If the goal is for me to give up my reality for your reality, then the goal is for me to give up my self for your self--a goal I have to reject.
16. Is a war of words more important than a life of love?
17. Is making your point more important than making peace?
18. Is there really more pleasure in being right than in being loved?
19. Isn't it nice that we don't all think alike!
20. It is okay to have a strong point of view, but it is not okay to insist that I share it.
21. My reality does not have to threaten your reality.
22. Please allow me the time and space to experience life the way that I do. It will then naturally change.
23. Please hear me out and make space for my views and I promise to do the same for you.
24. Since everyone distorts their reality to protect their ego, it is quite silly to argue reality.
25. Since no human can grasp all of reality about even one simple thing, isn't it great that we have others to share different points of view with!?
26. Since no one will care in a hundred years, why make a federal case out of it now and sacrifice our peace and harmony for nothing?
27. Thank you for your opinion, but we are still free to believe as we see fit.
28. There is no point in arguing reality as the only judge who can declare a winner, God, is not hearing the case.
29. To argue memories of a situation is at best futile because people remember differently.
30. We sure do get more out of life by having different perspectives to share--don't we!?
31. What catastrophe do you imagine is going to happen to you or us if we don't agree to see things your way?
32. What is more important, my feelings or your being right?
33. What is so crucial about this unimportant event that you need to have the right reality regarding it?
34. What is the worst thing that could happen if we agree to disagree about this?
35. What is your primary concern here, to have the pride of being right or the joy of being loved?
36. What price would I pay if I gave up my experience for yours?
37. When we share realities it happens naturally and spontaneously and is great.
38. When you care more about how I feel than the facts, I feel loved.
39. Why are you so desperate to sacrifice peace and love for being right?
40. Why do I have to give up my reality to be liked by you?
41. Why do you find my having a different point of view so threatening?
42. Why is it so important for you to be right and me to be wrong?
43. You can be right or you can be happy.
44. You can remember it differently, you have that right and so do I.
45. You can think I said whatever you like and so can I.
46. You cannot force someone to experience life the way you do.
47. You have the right to remember it the way you want and so do I.
48. You have the right to your reality and so do I.
49. Your reality does not negate my reality.
50. Your trying to make me have your thoughts, feelings, experiences, and memories instead of my own--only encourages me to rebel against you in many ways.

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