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Facts about Anger
"He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city."--Proverbs 16:32
Anger is an appropriate response to physical danger and pain.
Anger is not an appropriate response to mental, ego, or self-esteem danger and pain.
Anger is about hurt.
Anger is about hurt that can be actual, imaginary, or potential. The hurt can be vicarious, that is, about others rather than self.
The three steps of anger: hurt to anxiety to anger.
Anger is about anxiety about hurt.
Anger is problem-solving anxiety about hurt.
QUOTATIONS VARIOUS SOURCES
"Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools."--Ecclesiastes 7:9
"Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go:"--Proverbs 22:24
"He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city."--Proverbs 16:32
"I do not have the same kind of feeling as the feeling I am choosing to feel about."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"A man has no more character than he can command in a time of crisis."--Ralph W. Sockman
"Trusting anger gets you into the problem and trusting pride keeps you in it."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"I do not have to have feelings about my feelings."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"I do not have to act the way I feel."--Anonymous
"The weakling gives more evil than he gets. The weak gives an eye for an eye or the same amount. The strong gives good for evil."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"Maturity is doing good for evil."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"Do not weep; do not wax indignant. Understand."--Baruch Spinoza
"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one getting burned."--Buddha
"To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it."--Confucius
"To disagree, one doesn't have to be disagreeable."--Barry Goldwater
"He who angers you conquers you."--Elizabeth Kenny
"If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will avoid one hundred days of sorrow."--Chinese proverb
"Education is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence."--Robert Frost
"Be careful of anger--it's just one letter away from danger."--Anonymous
"Let us not look back in anger or forward in fear, but around in awareness."--James Thurber
8 Steps of Reacting: page 1 of 4
8 Steps of Reacting: page 2 of 4 Detail
8 Steps of Anger Reacting: page 3 Corrected
8 Steps of Anger Reacting: page 4 Example
12 Steps of Reacting: page 1 of 4 Format
12 Steps of Reacting: page 2 of 4 Detail
12 Steps of Reacting: page 3 Example Simple
12 Steps of Reacting: page 4 Example Formal