Overcome your Anger by understanding the 8 steps of anger with corrections.

Copyright © 2002-8 by Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
www.kevinfitzmaurice.com
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8 Steps of Anger with Steps 5-8 Helpful: page 3 of 4




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DISCOVER DRINK

"He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city."--Proverbs 16:32

1. BAD HAPPENS: Notice it

I experienced/did/had/knew the following negative experience ?.

2. BLAME SELF: Should on self

I should not have done ? and it (number one) would never have happened.

3. DAMN SELF: Demonize self

I am inferior/stupid/worthless for experiencing/doing/ having/knowing bad (number one).

4. EGO PAIN: Hurt feelings

I feel hurt, ashamed, despair, discouraged, helpless.

5. ANGER DEFENDS: Helpful anger

I am mad at my self-blaming and self-damning for causing me ego pain (number four).

6. BLAME THINKING: Helpful blaming

I blame my stinking thinking for causing me to both feel bad and to react poorly to adversity.

7. DAMN THINKING: Helpful damning

My self-damning is inferior/stupid/worthless for causing me to feel bad (number four).

8. DEMAND THINKING STOP: Helpful demanding

I must blame and damn myself and others less and less. I must blame and damn my stinking thinking more and more. I must make myself feel better.

MESSAGE: Since you will unlikely quit blaming and damning then make blaming and damning work for you. Turn your blaming and damning urges onto your stinking thinking that is causing you to feel bad and to react ineffectively. Stop blaming and damning your being, your self, and, instead, start blaming and damning your blaming and damning of your being, your self. Blame and damn thinking not being. Blame the real cause--your thinking.

QUOTATIONS VARIOUS SOURCES

"Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil."--Psalms 37:8

"A man has no more character than he can command in a time of crisis."--Ralph W. Sockman

"Do not weep; do not wax indignant. Understand."--Baruch Spinoza

"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one getting burned."--Buddha

"To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it."--Confucius

"To disagree, one doesn't have to be disagreeable."--Barry Goldwater

"He who angers you conquers you."--Elizabeth Kenny

"If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will avoid one hundred days of sorrow."--Chinese proverb