|
|
|
|||
|
12 Steps of Anger with Simple Example: page 3 of 4 |
||||
|
|
"Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil."--Psalms 37:8 1. Sally called me an idiot. 2. I am too smart to deserve this. I know better than to experience that. 3. I feel pride in knowing what is right, in knowing what should be, in knowing better than I experienced. 4. I should have known that term. I should have impressed her. I should have figured out what it meant by myself from the context in which she used it. 5. I am stupid for not knowing that word. I am an inferior person for not appearing smarter. I hate myself for making me appear foolish. 6. I feel ashamed and discouraged. 7. I am mad at Sally for calling me an idiot. 8. I am smarter than Sally. I know better than Sally. I know better how to treat people. 9. I feel pride in knowing better than Sally. I feel arrogant. 10. Sally should be more understanding and not uppity. Sally should think well of me. 11. Sally is stupid for not understanding when someone doesn't know a word. Sally is bad for making me feel bad. Sally is my enemy. 12. I must make Sally pay for making me mad. She must never do that to me again. She must change. She must make me feel better. STEPS 7-12 WITH A HELPFUL FOCUS 7. I am mad at the thinking that I am smarter and dumber than others. 8. I praise good thinking. I worship good thinking. I honor the thinking that helps me to stop deifying and demonizing myself and others. Instead of thinking I am smart, I need to listen to intelligence. The truth is smart not me just as foolishness is dumb not me. I am not my thinking, therefore, good thinking does not make me good. 9. I enjoy the power and beauty of clear thinking. I am thankful that I have access to good and true thinking to help me. I deify helpful thinking. 10. I should not put my self up or down because that only makes me feel superior or inferior and prevents problem solving. I should stop deifying and demonizing beings. 11. It is stupid to think I am smart or stupid because it programs and scripts me to act stupid by not thinking. My deifying and demonizing of beings is stupid, erroneous, and self-defeating. It is foolish to identify with my thoughts as they come and go and I remain. It is foolish to deify myself as that leads to abusing others because I think they are inferior. It is foolish to demonize myself as that is self-abuse. Deifying beings leads to demonizing beings and demonizing beings leads to racism and genocide. 12. I must deify, blame, and demonize my self and others less and less. I must blame and demonize my stinking thinking more and more. I must deify the truth more and more. QUOTATIONS VARIOUS SOURCES "Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord."--Romans 12:19 "A man has no more character than he can command in a time of crisis."--Ralph W. Sockman "Do not weep; do not wax indignant. Understand."--Baruch Spinoza "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one getting burned."--Buddha "To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it."--Confucius "To disagree, one doesn't have to be disagreeable."--Barry Goldwater "He who angers you conquers you."--Elizabeth Kenny "If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will avoid one hundred days of sorrow."--Chinese proverb |
|||
|
|
12 Steps of Reacting: page 1 of 4 Format 12 Steps of Reacting: page 2 of 4 Detail 12 Steps of Reacting: page 4 Example Formal 8 Steps of Reacting: page 1 of 4 8 Steps of Reacting: page 2 of 4 Detail 8 Steps of Anger Reacting: page 3 Corrected 8 Steps of Anger Reacting: page 4 Example |