12 Steps of Anger Two: Part 2 of 4
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12 Steps of Anger Two: more details about the steps and choices leading to anger. Understanding anger is one way to overcome anger.
“Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil.” —Psalms 37:8
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12 Steps of Anger Two: Open Example
- BAD HAPPENS: I pay attention to some negative things. I experienced/did/had/knew the following negative experience (add your own).
- BLAME SELF: I know better than myself (masochism). I am smarter than that. I know better than to do that.
- EGO PLEASURE: I experience self-pleasing feelings. I feel pride, conceit, self-important, arrogant, haughty, and boastful.
- BLAME SELF: I should on myself (shoulda/coulda/woulda). I should not have done (add your own), and it (number one) would never have happened.
- DEMONIZE SELF: I damn myself for knowing worse. I am inferior, stupid, and worthless for experiencing, doing, having, and knowing bad (number one).
- EGO PAIN: I experience hurt feelings. I feel hurt, ashamed, depressed, discouraged, despairing, and helpless.
- ANGER DEFENDS: My anger moves my focus to others. I am mad at you/them/it/life/God for giving/causing me bad (#1).
- DEIFY SELF: I know better than others (sadism). I am smarter than they are. I know better than they do.
- EGO PLEASURE: I experience self-pleasing feelings. I feel pride, conceit, self-important, arrogant, haughty, and boastful.
- BLAME OTHERS: I should on others (shoulda/coulda/woulda). They should not have done (add your own), and it (#1) wouldn’t have happened.
- DEMONIZE OTHERS: I damn others for knowing worse. They are inferior/stupid/worthless for causing me bad (number one).
- DEMAND CHANGE: They must know and do better. They must stop, change, and fix it (number one). They must make me feel better. They must suffer for causing my pain. I must punish them for causing me pain. I must teach them a lesson.
12 Steps of Anger Two: Message
- Anger is supposed to stop the source of pain for you.
- For example, if you are experiencing physical pain, then anger will help you fight to stop it.
- However, when the pain is ego pain, you often misdirect your anger at others instead of thinking that it is causing your ego pain.
- Therefore, stop demonizing yourself, and you will stop demonizing others.
- You cannot control others, but you can control your thinking.
- Stop hurting yourself with self-damning.
- You will stop blaming and demonizing yourself only when you give up the ego payoff of knowing better than yourself.
- You will stop blaming and demonizing others only when you give up the ego payoff of knowing better than others.
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12 Steps of Anger Two: Quotations from Various Sources
Listed Alphabetically
“A man has no more character than he can command in a time of crisis.” —Ralph W. Sockman
“Agree with thine adversary quickly, whiles thou art in the way with him; lest at any time the adversary deliver thee to the judge, and the judge deliver thee to the officer, and thou be cast into prison. Verily I say unto thee, Thou shalt by no means come out thence, until thou hast paid the uttermost farthing.” —Matthew 5:25-26
“Avoid all wrath.” —Pythagoras
“Be careful of anger–it’s just one letter away from danger.” —Anonymous
“Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.” —Ecclesiastes 7:9
“Do not weep; do not wax indignant. Understand.” —Baruch Spinoza
“He who angers you conquers you.” —Elizabeth Kenny
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one getting burned.” —Buddha
“If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will avoid one hundred days of sorrow.” —Chinese proverb
“Let us not look back in anger or forward in fear, but around in awareness.” —James Thurber
“To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it.” —Confucius
“To disagree, one doesn’t have to be disagreeable.” —Barry Goldwater
“Trusting anger gets you into the problem, and trusting pride keeps you in it.” —Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
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12 Steps of Anger Two: Related Pages
- Anger Issues: Free Help
- The long version of adding shit to shit.
- The short version of adding shit to shit.
- Twelve Steps of Reacting: page 1 of 4 Format
- Twelve Steps of Reacting: page 3 Example Simple
- Twelve Steps of Reacting: page 4 Example Formal
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12 Steps of Anger Two: 6 Groups of Topics Menu
- 1. Pages by Topic
- 2. Fast-Facts by Topic
- 3. Quotations by Topic
- 4. Poems by Topic
- 5. Scripture by Topic
- 6. Websites by Topic
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12 Steps of Anger Two: 10 Skills & Topics Menu
- 1. Coping Skills & Topics
- 2. Problem-Solving Skills & Topics
- 3. Communication Skills & Topics
- 4. Recovery Skills & Topics
- 5. Anger Skills & Topics
- 6. Blame Skills & Topics
- 7. Thinking Skills & Topics
- 8. Responsibility Skills & Topics
- 9. Counseling Skills & Topics
- 10. Praying Skills & Topics
- Read and discover how CBT, REBT, & Stoicism evolved into one system: STPHFR.
- This book will help you understand the 12 Steps of Anger Two.
- Read and discover the world’s best breathing exercise for centering and peace of mind.
- Read and discover a fast and effective system for anger and stress management.
