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12 Steps Anger with More Detail: page 1 of 4
"Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil."--Psalms 37:8
"Whoever grows angry amid troubles applies a drug worse than the disease and is a physician unskilled about misfortunes."--Sophocles
1. BAD HAPPENS: Notice bad things.
2. DEIFY SELF: I know better than myself.
3. EGO PLEASURE: Positive self-esteem (pride).
4. BLAME SELF: I should have known better.
5. DEMONIZE SELF: I know worse than others.
6. EGO PAIN: Negative self-esteem (depression).
7. ANGER DEFENDS: I get mad at others.
8. DEIFY SELF: I know better than others.
9. EGO PLEASURE: Positive self-esteem (conceit).
10. BLAME OTHERS: They should know better.
11. DEMONIZE OTHERS: Others know worse.
12. DEMAND CHANGE: They must know better.
MESSAGE: Stop deifying and demonizing yourself and you will stop deifying and demonizing others. Psychological problems start with pride, with claims to know.
QUOTATIONS VARIOUS SOURCES
"Avoid all wrath."--Pythagoras
"Agree with thine adversary quickly, whiles thou art in the way with him; lest at any time the adversary deliver thee to the judge, and the judge deliver thee to the officer, and thou be cast into prison. Verily I say unto thee, Thou shalt by no means come out thence, till thou hast paid the uttermost farthing."--Matthew 5:25-26
"Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools."--Ecclesiastes 7:9
"A man has no more character than he can command in a time of crisis."--Ralph W. Sockman
"Trusting anger gets you into the problem and trusting pride keeps you in it."--Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"Do not weep; do not wax indignant. Understand."--Baruch Spinoza
"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one getting burned."--Buddha
"To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it."--Confucius
"To disagree, one doesn't have to be disagreeable."--Barry Goldwater
"He who angers you conquers you."--Elizabeth Kenny
"If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will avoid one hundred days of sorrow."--Chinese proverb
"Be careful of anger--it's just one letter away from danger."--Anonymous
"Let us not look back in anger or forward in fear, but around in awareness."--James Thurber
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